sexual healing
I am not a fan of
dry spells. I know they're supposed to give you time to think, or to grieve the end of a relationship, but all I ever do is think about how I'm
not getting laid and how the loss of the relationship means the loss of access to regular sex, which means I'm
not getting laid and how much of a pain in the ass it is to
try to get laid when I could just, mere days before, say, "Hey, wanna go screw now?" and get laid. In other words, I get a little preoccupied and crabby about it and masturbation is a poor substitute and I really do start to feel as though not getting laid is affecting my body more than it reasonably ought to be. But now there's scientific proof that
getting laid does a body good (other than the orgasms and the oxytocin and whatever).
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Hookers are everywhere these days: on the cover of the
cover of the Post, in a special
Diane Sawyer boasts, you find prostitutes here and there, you can find prostitutes anywhere! But seriously, folks, the nerds over at the
New York Times' Freakonomics blog have an interview with two sex workers, Mindy and Dorothy, who answer readers' burning questions about what it's really like to be a prostitute. High or low end, they're all in cahoots with the coppers and they think legalization is ultimately bad for prostitutes because "they will just get exploited. They'll get paid a lot less and be forced to do a lot more." But the most interesting part is that both Mindy and Dorothy think "much of prostitution work is about therapy."
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How many times have you been in flagrante with some dude, having a perfectly nice time, when he begins a series of inquiries as to whether you've come. Then after
he's done, he looks up (or down!) at you with a look of confusion and asks, "Why didn't you finish?" Sure, many men don't know that
as few as 7% of women can reliably come from vaginal penetration alone — in which case, do you really want to sleep with them? — but for those who do, now they can just look at our vaginas for clues! New research might explain
why some women are able to come from vaginal intercourse alone, and most women aren't. According to the
Los Angeles Times, it's something called "the rule of thumb": "Clitoris-vagina distances less than 2.5 cm — that's roughly from the tip of your thumb to your first knuckle — tend to yield reliable orgasms during sex."
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Writer Colleen Oakley did a
stunt for the new issue of
Marie Claire magazine that involved not having sex with her fiance for one month. Oakley, you see, was trying to follow the rules set down by Ian Kerner, Ph.D., as outlined in his book,
Sex Detox. Kerner recommends a celibacy program to help couples break out of sexual ruts and make sure that they're connecting on an intimate level
without sex. The thing is, after starting her detox, Ms. Oakley found that she and Fred, her fiance, couldn't keep their hands off each other: They lasted about four days. Then they tried again and lasted 12 days. (Yeah, he's black, don't start!) And if it wasn't enough that Ms. Oakley wrote about her sex life with Fred in detail for the magazine, the couple appeared on the
Today show this morning to talk about it too.
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So, by now most of you have heard the news that on Tuesday, the Supreme Court declined to hear a case challenging Alabama's ban on the sale of vibrators or "any device designed or marketed as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs for anything of pecuniary value." Today, Slate
brings up an interesting point about the wording of the law — which makes exception for sex toy sales concerning a "bona fide medical, scientific, educational, legislative, judicial, or law enforcement purpose" — reminding us that "vibrators were invented as medical equipment for treating
female hysteria and other pelvic disorders." But vibrators and dildos are still medically beneficial to both women
and men, for a variety of reasons:
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Something about my wide-eyed, fair-skinned appearance and hushed voice and demure demeanor has convinced everyone I know that I know nothing about doing the nasty. (I have been called the "Sandra Dee of Gawker Media" and Anna herself will not accept I am not a virgin.) So last night, I hit up the party marking the 5th Anniversary of NYC's Museum of Sex to learn a little bit more about getting off and getting off good. In addition to photographer Nikola Tamindzic, Jezebel's own resident Slut Machine and Fleshbot's dashing Dashiell came along for good measure, and I learned more than I ever thought I could know about things that have nothing to do with where babies come from. From S&M to foot fetishes to dildos in mail boxes, my and others' sexual education — a story in pictures — below.
Jezebel
Foreign Affairs
That's it: We're moving to Finland. A bill is being proposed in their parliament to add an extra week to the already government-guaranteed 25 days of vacation a year plus 10 days of government holidays. The extra week is to be used for "love vacations" to reduce the divorce rate and to get the Finns to bond with their mates "on an erotic as well as an emotional level." One question: Can a person take him or herself only on a "love vacation"? Also an idea: Breakup vacations. [NYT]
