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Not Really Diggin' It
New York, 7:39 PM
Tue Nov 10
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12/28/08
Yeah, it is a complete craps shoot: one thread could be an intelligent political discussion, the next one is "Man Coulter LOL" or "Tits or GTFO". But eventually you can identify who the idiots are, and ignore them. Mainly it's the classic equation: anonymity + audience = stupid
That said, I found Jezebel via Fark: someone posted a link last year to the infamous Faith Hill shoop, and I've been a Jezzie ever since.
12/23/08
12/23/08
I like to imagine the reaction Megan Fox (or equivalent) would have to the pale, scrawny dorks who feel it's necessary to inform the world that they would deign to have sex with her.
Ahhhhh. Good times.
12/24/08
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12/23/08
It's a site with a small percentage of female users and a bunch of geeks hustling for geek cred. These are the type of dudes who get their panties in a bunch over lame apple vs mac, star trek vs star trek type discussions, and go gaga over cheap bikini shots of strangers and centerfolds and whatnot. They think they're 14. No one can expect anything much from that crowd.
12/23/08
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12/23/08
I pretty much blame 4chan for everything that's awful about the internet. Stupid catchphrase? Mediocre animated gif? Thanks for the contribution, 4chan!
12/23/08
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12/23/08
Sorry... realize it's a bit O/T, but I just read a comment that made my teeth hurt.
12/23/08
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12/23/08
@mepo:
The Gawker coverage of Hillary Clinton's candidacy (historic candidacy, might I add) made me really stabby.
12/23/08
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@ceejeemcbeegee: How lovely. It bothers me the worst at sites meant to inform rather than entertain. These are supposed to be intelligent people, not simply people saying mean/crazy things about celebrities. It's really bothersome.
@NowhereGirl: Never gone there, no. I live with two idiot gamers, it's enough for me. Sounds terrible.
12/23/08
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12/23/08
Usually these comments are made by just a handful of bad seeds, the real problem is the huge number of decent people who ignore it, think its kind of funny, or think they have it worse.
Its long, but I love this Kate Harding piece [kateharding.net]
You, dear male reader, are totally not one of those men. I know this, and I appreciate it. I really do. But here's where all this victimy girl shit concerns you:
every time you don't tell your buddies it's not okay to talk shit about women, even if it's kinda funny;
every time you roll your eyes and think "PMS!" instead of listening to why a woman's upset;
every time you call Ann Coulter a tranny cunt instead of a halfwit demagogue;
every time you say any woman-Coulter, Michelle Malkin, Phyllis Schlafly, Condoleezza Rice, Hillary Clinton, Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, any of us-"deserves whatever she gets" for being so detestable, instead of acknowledging there are things that no human being deserves and only women get;
every time you joke about how you'll never let your daughter out of the house or anywhere near a man, 'cause ha ha, that'll solve everything;
every time you say, "I don't understand why thousands of women are insisting this is some kind of woman thing";
every time you tell a woman you love she's being crazy/hysterical/irrational, when you know deep down you haven't heard a word she's said in the past 15 minutes, and all you're really thinking about is how seeing her yell and/or cry is incredibly unsettling to you, and you just want that shit to stop;
every time you dismiss a woman as "playing the victim," even if you're right about that particular woman…
You are missing an opportunity to help stop the bad guys.
You're missing an opportunity to stop the real misogynists, the fucking sickos, the ones who really, truly hate women just for being women. The ones whose ranks you do not belong to and never would. The ones who might hurt women you love in the future, or might have already.
'Cause the thing is, you and the guys you hang out with may not really mean anything by it when you talk about crazy bitches and dumb sluts and heh-heh-I'd-hit-that and you just can't reason with them and you can't live with 'em can't shoot 'em and she's obviously only dressed like that because she wants to get laid and if they can't stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen and if they can't play by the rules they don't belong here and if they can't take a little teasing they should quit and heh heh they're only good for fucking and cleaning and they're not fit to be leaders and they're too emotional to run a business and they just want to get their hands on our money and if they'd just stop overreacting and telling themselves they're victims they'd realize they actually have all the power in this society and white men aren't even allowed to do anything anymore and and and…
I get that you don't really mean that shit. I get that you're just talking out your ass.
But please listen, and please trust me on this one: you have probably, at some point in your life, engaged in that kind of talk with a man who really, truly hates women-to the extent of having beaten and/or raped at least one. And you probably didn't know which one he was.
And that guy? Thought you were on his side.
12/23/08
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12/23/08
That's a great summation of everything. Thank you for posting.
12/23/08
12/23/08
sorry, MUST repost this- will credit your screenname?
12/23/08
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And I'm like, yes, yes you do, because you hang out with more than one guy. The odds are strong that you hang out with a Guy Like That. You are just so used to those kind of comments you don't even hear them. And when they're said as jokes, you think they're not serious. Which maybe they're not. But. What Kate said.
12/23/08
12/23/08
@truthnbeautybombs: Sadly, I have sent guys this link and had them tell me it was bullshit and that they don't hang out with psychos. Occassionally it works though.
12/23/08
12/23/08
The Man Rules
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down
Finally , the guys' side of the story.
( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear " the rules "
From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1 "
ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE)
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Football
or Hockey.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.
Pass this to as many men as you can -
to give them a laugh.
Pass this to as many women as you can -
to give them a bigger laugh.
Yay me?
12/23/08
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12/23/08
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1 "
ON PURPOSE!
you're an idiot who can't count?
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE)
Technically true, but its amazing what a little observation, empathy, and intuition will do
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
Dude, it's cleaner down,and much safer when tired, drunk, or dark
1. Crying is blackmail.
Everybody cries sometimes, yes even men
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
Open your eyes every once and awhile
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
Try listening some time, no it won't make you gay
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
If you don't mean it, don't say it.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
you're an ass, sorry, nothing else to say to this one
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
Say what you mean and have the balls to own what your said
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
If you're not sure how she wants it done ask
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
[i]He also never got to where he was going[/i]
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
see the response about mind reading
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
listen, it's not that hard to hear a rhetorical question
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really.
why do i have a feeling all you ever wear is dirty jeans and even dirtier t-shirts?
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
"Judge not, lest ye yourself be judged"
Pass this to as many men as you can -
to give them a laugh.
yes, let me know i should avoid you if at all possible
Pass this to as many women as you can -
to give them a bigger laugh.
Yes, let them know they should probably avoid you if at all possible
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