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TurdCakes
12/11/08

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Okay, all this talk of solo sessions is making me want to take care of business right now.

Also-does anybody have any suggestions for vibrators to use with the boyfriend (simple and not too intimidating)?
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Nibbles
12/11/08

@TurdCakes: One that *doesn't* look like a penis is a start. I can't suggest specific brands but a bullet/egg vibe is safe bet - teeny, powerful, non-peeny = win!

I have quite the vibrator collection and I know the BF is put off/scared by a few of them, but I have a bullet vibe that has bunny ears which he will go dig out of my treasure box to... ah... use on my treasure box.
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Nibbles
12/11/08

@Nibbles: Also, 'scared' makes me sound like I have a collection of 15-inch beasts. It's the veiny, pearl, cock-esque ones that make him recoil. Although I don't use them much myself.
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IBleedGlitter: The High Priestess of Tinsel
12/11/08

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For me, having an orgasm is kind of like a contest with myself. When I finally finish I'm like 'Oh come on girl, you can do better than that!' and I start all over again trying to make it more intense/longer/better than the first. It seems to be the only thing I'm not lazy about.
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Mediokra
12/11/08

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Ninety-two percent! That's more like it. I'm sick of reading "studies" or "polls" or whatevs that say around half (or less!) of the women they talk to masturbate. Boggled my mind.

Anyway, I'm too lazy to do all the math, but yeah. Pretty much every day ... at least 10 minutes, up to half an hour. My last vibrator broke awhile ago but I've been doing this manually for as long as I can remember (literally) and I think I can handle it just fine, thank you.
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alouette
12/11/08

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I remember getting really drunk one night sophomore year in college and going around a pretty full dorm room and demanding everyone answer questions such as:

do you masturbate and when was the last time you did?

etc, etc.

I don't know if it was the alcohol in their system or the alcohol in mine making me intimidating, but everyone answered and nobody lied. I know a lot more about those kids' habits as a result.
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SuttonBabakin
12/11/08

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for PAinPA - I am in the same boat! I only orgasm from rubbing myself against soft materials - pillow, towel, side of bed, chair, etc - basically humping stuff. Never from insertion from anything. I've been doing this (and been embarassed about it) since childhood and realized much longer after that that I was actually having orgasms. This makes it very difficult to have any orgasm with regular sex and I find it frustrating...I just wish I could cum in a way that could be easily shared with my boyfriend who is amazing....
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Scout
12/11/08

@SuttonBabakin: I'm with you and PAinPA but oddly, I only get off with penetration when I'm with my husband and don't particularly like too much rubbing of the clit nor oral sex - it is strange since, when alone, I'm humping the couch arm, bathtub edge (with towel for padding) and, of course, my pillow whenever my husband is at work/school.
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SarahMC
12/11/08

@SuttonBabakin: I can basically only come from serious vibrations on my clit and it takes a lot of effort. Most women don't orgasm from penetration alone (otherwise we'd get excited about inserting tampons), so you are not abnormal in any way. One of my friends says she gets off when she's on top and can rub her clit against his pelvis. It's not enough for me but it might be for you if rubbing is your thing. Try that if you haven't already. You could also incorporate toys into your routine.
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LadyBuck
12/11/08

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It was my New Years' Resolution this year to get off every day. With a guy, without a guy... either way. I'm single, so it's been mostly solo action.

Seriously, I would encourage everyone everywhere to do this!!! Not only am I happier overall, but it's gotten so much easier to get off over the past 11 months (even though I still spent quite a bit of quality time with myself before January 1, 2008--definitely not once a day).

Plus--it's the only New Years Resolution I've actually kept :)
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The HZA.
12/11/08

@LadyBuck: That's an excellent resolution I will consider.

And I absolutely love your avatar. Lichtenstein is love.
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victoriasauce
12/11/08

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Maybe, only 92% of women masturbate...but all 100% reading this article are going to.

I absofreakinglutely bet anything.
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egg cream
12/11/08

@torieandrahmsittinginatree: I'm actually considering leaving work early...
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victoriasauce
12/11/08

@egg cream: I'm figuring out a way to get rid of everyone in my house.
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The HZA.
12/11/08

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I had nothing going on today. So I masturbated five times.
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UnSeelie...I am baaack!
12/11/08

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I masturbate once a day, I do it for health reasons.
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UnSeelie...I am baaack!
12/11/08

@UnSeelie...: scuse me that is at least once a day.... silly me.
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PAinPA
12/11/08

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QUESTION: I'm noticing that a lot of ladies on here are talking about fingers and vibes but does anyone else just go for plain friction? I can rub up against something and get off in 3 seconds and then again forever it seems like... But maybe this is weird? I've used fingers successfully maybe twice and just bought my first vibe a few months ago. During intercourse I can only get off if there's a lot of pressure down there to rub against and I actually prefer dry humping?!?! BF says I am very weird and that other girls have gotten off for him by regular intercourse. I really want that too!! I heard the g-spot feels really good for people but it hurts me. I have crazy kegels bec I thought working them out would help but it didn't really... Does anyone have any suggestions about unleashing some orgasm variety for me?
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AnnoyingFemaleLeadVoiceover
12/11/08

@PAinPA: Warning: TMI

At one point I was afraid that I was going to rub my clit down to nothing because of how attached I was to using a shampoo bottle while in the shower. I now stick to my fingers.
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sybann
12/11/08

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Jeebus Tracie! I thought my 9 total was a "session" high.

I have noticed that it seems far less necessary after menopause. Pre? Every damn day.
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kityglitr
12/11/08

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Calculating... I have extremely strong orgasms that tend to be hard to get to, but very worth the while. Sometimes they are even so strong they hurt a little! So, instead of going for 2 or 3 actual orgasms per session, I'm just aiming for the big one. Plus, it makes me really sleepy. I'm sort of like a guy that way. This is not the case all the time, just most times. I usually use a combo of fingers/vibe, although I own a Hitachi, it's just a bit too powerful to be useful to me. Can't they give it a couple more settings? I have to ease into that shit! So I probably masturbate 4 to 6 days out of my week, obtaining one majorly fucking awesome orgasm per session. While I'm on my period, I can have two.
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LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues
12/11/08

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Ya know, I can only have orgasm per session. I've tried for more, but once I hit one, I'm a)not interested in more or b)just plain can't get off again. Shit gets too sensitive and it hurts. Tracie, my dear, you are blessed.
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Uncommon Whore
12/11/08

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When I didn't live with my boyfriend it was a lot more... about once a day, but at least five days a week. Generally would last from 3 to 20 minutes... 3 if I just need to pop one off before work and 20 if I was taking my time and making sweet sweet love to myself. 1-5 orgasms per session, sometimes my layla vibe from good vibrations (forget the brand) and sometimes just doing it manual.

Now? A lot less. He gets jealous or some shit.
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InCahoots
12/11/08

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Varies week to week. Some only 1-2 sessions. This week has been at least once nightly, usually more. Probably about 10 minutes per session.

How timely, though. Allow me to overshare! I was masturbating in the shower last night and for whatever reason it was better than usual. (Like, a lot.) To the point that when I hit climax my legs gave out and my whole body whacked the wall. The next guy who matches or bests that one is getting a weeks worth of head. An entire 168 hours to be used however(within reason) he wishes.
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Raspberry Swirly
12/11/08

@InCahoots: You didn't break the soap dish holder off, did you? I have a friend that did that, and I laughed mightily at her.
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InCahoots
12/11/08

@Raspberry Swirl's love is on lockdown: No, I didn't break it. It broke me.

It's built into the wall and left a nice bruise on my upper thigh. Whoops!
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Raspberry Swirly
12/11/08

@InCahoots: I've never tried it in the shower for fear of winding up like that little old "I've fallen and I can't get up!" lady. How awkward would THAT 911 call be?
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The HZA.
12/11/08

@Raspberry Swirl's love is on lockdown: I have that same fear too. Like I will traumatically injure myself. And have to tell an EMT I was self servicing.
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