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    Image of GoldenRatioφ (aka -girl11) GoldenRatioφ (aka -girl11)
    10/15/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Well Myer-Briggs says I'm an Architect, and I'm sticking with that. Personality types are even less stressful than "role-types" or whatever, because there are absolutely no expectations associated with it, but I get the narcissistic pleasure of thinking about my identity. Win!
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    Image of Cimorene Cimorene
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    I just wanted to let you all know that I'm going to write a self help book and it's going to be awesome. It will be called Heterosexuality for the Radical Feminist: A Manual (Plus Some Other Useful Stuff) and will be awesome. It will cover everything from "make sure you pee after you have sex!!!" to "here is a list of things that are not legally rape, but are definitely rapey. If a man tries to convince you to have sex after you've told him no, he is an asshole and any sex you might eventually have will suck anyway. So run away." to "this is my really easy recipe for brownies" to "cats vs. dogs: which is right for you?" There will be much talk of the patriarchy.

    So get your wallets ready, ladies!
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    Image of JP Meyer JP Meyer
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    The coverage of Stevenson and Wolfers' study reminds me of this:
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    Image of shorty63136 shorty63136
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    I had to take one of his seminars here at work - Trombone Player Wanted - and it was pretty interesting. Definitely works well with groups in corporations and helps with interacting and identifying strengths.

    Edit: But the part where you take the quiz and find out what your strengths are electronically said very little about me and my true strengths. The part where you look at yourself and self-identify was the part I liked and found helpful.
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    Image of futuremouse futuremouse
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Find Your Strongest Life: What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently

    It's like he played roulette with a wheel of happy happy fun words. Look I can do it too...

    Happiness: You too can achieve the best life by having goodness be fun for you.
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    10/14/09

    @futuremouse: damn spelling.
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    Image of JessickerFletcher JessickerFletcher
    10/14/09

    @futuremouse: I like the Japanese version:

    Successful Work Women Do Super Happy Fun Work Differently to Improve Life Strength
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    Image of Jack_Burton Jack_Burton
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    I often find myself "declining female happiness." Maybe I should find a new place to get massages.
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    Image of morninggloria morninggloria
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    My self help book is called

    Fuck It.
    How Dramatically Lowered Standards Lead to Dramatically Fewer Disappointments
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    Image of RubyPenelope RubyPenelope
    10/14/09

    @morninggloria: I would buy that book!
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    Image of morninggloria morninggloria
    10/14/09

    @RubyPenelope: It's mostly pictures ripped out of magazines with mustaches and eye patches drawn on them.
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    Image of TheFormerJuneBronson TheFormerJuneBronson
    10/14/09

    @morninggloria: Hey, I think I have that one! It sits on my shelf next to Cynicism: It's Better to Be Correct than Disappointed
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    Image of FrabjousDay FrabjousDay
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Does anyone think this could be because of sexism? I know, I know, sexism isn't supposed to exist any more, or at least not be as bad as it was a few decades ago. But honestly, I think it's become more common but less obvious. I mean, everyone knows that women are just as capable/smart/hard working as men. There are always tons of studies on it. But as a young woman working in DC, I find it incredibly difficult to get people to take me seriously unless I'm a total bitch, and this really does NOT seem to be the case for men. Whether it's my boss, my coworkers, my roommates, whatever. If I'm nice nothing gets done and I'm "submissive" and "weak." If I'm professional but firm, I'm "bossy." If I'm a total flipping bitch, people hate me, but they listen to me. This dynamic doesn't seem to exist for guys, at least not in DC. So I'm constantly in this situation where I can either get walked over (which declines my happiness) or I can be mean and get taken seriously but have everyone dislike me (which also makes me unhappy).

    Anyway, I think a huge issue that is never really addressed is that as women get more power, it becomes more and more frustrating/annoying to have to fight tooth and nail for stupid stuff that unfortunately, guys don't seem to have to deal with. The sexism is definitely subtle (usually) but it's still there. Rant over.
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    Image of Newsgirl Newsgirl
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    This is all a matter of perspective. And how low your standards can go. I mean, hey, I get happy when I can drive home and not end up in a 30 car pile up, or when I come to work and don't get laid off.
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    Image of redqueenmeg redqueenmeg
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Can I be a Weaver? I love cross stitch. If only it could pay the bills.
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    Image of I, Zombie Normal I, Zombie Normal
    10/14/09

    @redqueenmeg: I'd like to be The Equalizer, because I've always wanted to be a secret agent who traveled around helping people get out of jams and solve crimes.
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    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Are these nine life roles on that Amp/Pepsi pick-up line app? Also, you know Neanderthal women could beat modern men at arm wrestling and had really high scores on the Strong Life Test, but since they didn't think to write self-help books or book talk shows they died out.
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    Image of Schrodinger's Cat Schrodinger's Cat
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    Does Buckingham offer any books that will ensure that I'm paid as much as my male counterparts? How about one that makes my husband clean the kitchen when it's his turn? These will bolster my happiness.
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    Image of Rooo sez BISH PLZ Rooo sez BISH PLZ
    10/14/09

    @Schrodinger's Cat: Sing it, sister. Let's call him up and ask him.
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    Image of trlstanc trlstanc
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    The authors of the original study actual provide a pretty thoughtful critique of this article: [freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com]
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    Image of lo-mantang lo-mantang
    10/14/09

    @trlstanc: All i know is that I've never made it beyond the first page of the sort of books that Marcus Buckingham is hawking. I couldn't even read that ginormous quote from him above - eyes glazing over at 'nine life roles'.

    Give me an Ehrenreich v. Freakonomics shit fight any day.
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    Image of Grim Reaper of the Forest Grim Reaper of the Forest
    10/14/09

    @trlstanc: Exactly. I think it is a bit unfair to say that Ehrenreich "throws in some of her own useful critiques, including the fact that black woman actually seem to be getting happier" when these are findings that were highlighted in the study she is critiquing.
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    Image of Rooo sez BISH PLZ Rooo sez BISH PLZ
    10/14/09

    @lo-mantang: "Give me an Ehrenreich v. Freakonomics shit fight any day."
    Are there still tickets available at the box office?
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    Image of judgingamy judgingamy
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    New York Jezzies: Ehrenreich is speaking at a reading at Barnes and Noble on 82nd and Broadway tonight at 7pm.
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    Image of linnyt is a walking cliché linnyt is a walking cliché
    10/14/09

    In reply to "Declining Female Happiness" May Be Just Another Way To Sell Shit
    I think I'll just move to Denmark and be happy there with my free daycare and socialism.
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    10/14/09

    @linnyt is a walking cliché: Denmark doesn't seem like the happiest place on earth, 2 examples:

    1. Hamlet
    2. Dogme 95
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    Image of Newsgirl Newsgirl
    10/14/09

    @linnyt is a walking cliché: You commie!
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    Image of linnyt is a walking cliché linnyt is a walking cliché
    10/14/09

    @Newsgirl: If that's what it takes to get some healthcare and good kingle, I'll be a pinko.
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    Image of Newsgirl Newsgirl
    10/14/09

    @linnyt is a walking cliché: ...can I come, too?
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    Image of linnyt is a walking cliché linnyt is a walking cliché
    10/14/09

    @Newsgirl: of course. we can crash with my aunt tove. she's an old lady that tells the dirtiest jokes. she seems very happy.
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