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Brigit
04/09/09

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You know, it has come to the point in which I don't care about this one way or the other. We're naked apes, sex is a normal social interaction, and we live in a world with twisted social expectations.

Sex in exchange for goods/services seems to be an ever-present thing.

What disturbs me(not necessarily surprises me) is the gender disparity. If middle-aged women were as common as men (or vice-versa) in these relationships maybe I wouldn't find them as distasteful.
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Flackette Goes Retro
04/09/09

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People marry for money all the time (not that I approve). This is actually more honest, as they aren't even pretending to love and honor each other.
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Jack_Burton
04/09/09

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Wealthy Benefactor Seeks Female Companion:

Should have cheery disposition, will support you in costuming business. PR / media-relations skills a requirement. Must fit into rabbit suit and policeman mask, preferably simultaneously.
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Brigit
04/09/09

@Jack_Burton: Does the Officer Bunny position pay in vegetables?
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rocknrollunicorn
04/09/09

@Jack_Burton: I am into this.
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Vermontboy
04/09/09

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So the site seems pretty repulsive, but I don't really like judging these relationships.

I mean, I've had really fucked up relationships for really bad reasons- I'd be hard pressed to say that the relationships described in the article are somehow "worse" than some of the shit I've been involved in.

And I really don't want people judging the foundations of my relationships, much less writing NYT articles about it.
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rocknrollunicorn
04/09/09

@Vermontboy: Yes, in total agreement here. Relationships are fucked up in all kinds of ways. Ones involving an obvious material element just have something glaring you can point at and judge.
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SarahMC
04/09/09

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You think a Sugar Daddy is going to let you sit around eating bon-bons, getting fat? I don't think so. You've got to keep up your end of the bargain, too, which means acting however your Daddy wants you to.
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skahammer
04/09/09

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I offer that sometimes it's just interesting to read what other types of relationship approaches are out there -- especially when your own experience tends to hug the norm. Celibacy, polyamory, sugar babies -- it's almost always interesting to see how people manage to make that work in their lives. It expands one's mind beyond the contours of one's own experience.
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skahammer
04/09/09

@skahammer: Actually I'd compare it to stories about "fuck buddies."

I'd never had a relationship like that, and I'd never heard anyone speak openly about it, either -- not in those terms, anyway. But when I started reading articles about it a few years ago, I found it intriguing to know that that was an option my peers and I had. I might never have thought about that issue otherwise. Same here.
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Scoithniamh
04/09/09

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I very rarely toss out the "jus jellus" argument, but in this case, I think that some of the fascination could stem from that. It comes down to a basic theory: When someone has something that I want and cannot have, I feel better knowing that they got it in a way I can look down upon.

I feel disgusting for having said that, but I know that I sometimes fall prey to it. Reading about women who have their education paid for/pay for their own, or have fantastic cars and vacations and things because they earned it (or came by it "honestly") makes me jealous, but not in an unhealthy way. It makes me feel worse about my own very minor successes, though, because why can't I have what they have?

Reading about women who had to sleep with someone to get all of the above things causes that sick should-be-silenced little voice to say, hmph! They didn't deserve all that.

I think in times when many many people are struggling, reading about excesses feeds a certain desire for schadenfreude.
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Elizabeth Tailormade
04/09/09

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Where is the mystery?
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Evie Havok
04/09/09

@Elizabeth_Tailormade: It's certainly not in their character.
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hollygirl
04/09/09

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why are we being forced to read about this tiny segment of the population at a time when women, in fact, are especially prominent in the Recession-era workforce?

That's why. Its called repression. Like the lies about sex abuse at day care centers when women were putting their kids there to go to work. Its just so darn hard to deal with us when we are free to be!!
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BlowJoy
04/09/09

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I've done this. It was awesome.

The end.
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SouthernSatine
04/09/09

@BlowJoy: Do tell. Please. I am legitimately fascinated.
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prestocaro fears the culling
04/09/09

@BlowJoy: I'm with Satine, SPILL!
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BlowJoy
04/09/09

@SouthernSatine: @prestocaro fears the Sexaual Peter: It's the same as anything else... We can disect any relationshp to death, but the key is to find the thing that is best for you. Who cares if it is different than anyone else's. Otherwise where does the judgement stop? Gay marriage... Immoral and Disgusting! SugarBaby/Daddy relationship... Horrible and Setting back women! Stay out of my bedroom.
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skahammer
04/09/09

@BlowJoy: I too would enjoy a few well-chosen deets.
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hello.kitty
04/09/09

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Okay I am going to protest that photo of Lorelei Lee. She was a career gal and wasn't looking to be a kept woman. She married for love and money (in that order). "Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?"
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lolacat
04/09/09

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I think men love these articles becasue they are secretly sure that girls just want a free ride. Even when I make more than they do. The recession just brings this attitude out a little more.
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skahammer
04/09/09

@lolacat(Team Bethenny): I guess you wouldn't believe me if I said I enjoy reading about creative solutions to difficult problems.
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Residentdrunkgirl
04/09/09

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Wait - this is just Millionaire Matchmaker.
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clevernamehere
04/09/09

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I find the whole thing really sad, but it really pisses me off that they are willing to change the name on the credit card transaction. That's crossing the line from offering a service to supporting dishonesty. I wonder how long before they are named in someone's divorce lawsuit.
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K
04/09/09

@clevernamehere: I don't see this as being any different than porn companies or strip clubs billing credit cards with a neutral sounding name. Yes, this may be, "supporting dishonesty," but shit, it's not the porn king/strip club/web site's responsibility to make sure these guys are honest. That's their own deal.
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badmutha
04/09/09

@clevernamehere: You can always put a legal name instead of DBA or "Doing Business as." That is done all. the. time.
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clevernamehere
04/09/09

@K: Porn companies don't just put different names on bills so wifey doesn't get mad, it is also because some people are just embarassed to have their accountant see the amount they spend on porn.

This is being marketed as something you can hide from your wife.
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Nodiva
04/09/09

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The thing is, there is something a little attractive in a kind of 'quasi-prostitution' - one where there's no sleaze, the john is successful, regular and good-looking, and the payoff isn't hard cash. Even with a job etc., I can't say I've never (fleetingly) considered it.
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clevernamehere
04/09/09

@Nodiva: I really doubt that many guys who visit this site are good looking. Sure there is an element of "you pay her to leave" but I'm sure most of them aren't very good looking. That's why they are offering money for sex.
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