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Flackette Goes Retro
09/10/09

In reply to Two Beds: The Secret Of Happy Marriage
I really like sleeping with the boyfriend, but my mom and dad often sleep separately because of my dad's SNORING OF DOOM. My mom will decamp in the middle of the night into my childhood bedroom to escape.
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Jill7
09/10/09

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I've sometimes thought separate bedrooms would be nice, but what I really want is separate bathrooms.
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hollygirl
09/10/09

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I used to love when my bf and I were assigned the room with twin beds in our shared summer house- I love having the bed to myself!! The other couples thought I was weird, but fighting over covers was a huge problem in that relationship...
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Little Green Frog (Wise Latina)
09/10/09

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Out solution: king size Tempur-Pedic. I cannot feel when he moves or gets up from the bed, and it's big enough so that each one of us has space.
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Maulleigh
09/10/09

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This article came out the day after I told my boyfriend I don't want to sleep over at his place. Sex is fine but then I'm bouncing. I think this article is full of validity and I agree 100%. And I'm an old lady who likes her spinster bed!!
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Kali Mama
09/10/09

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If you think the dude next to you is noisy and swats around, wait until you've got a 4 year old stuck in between.
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spamanda
09/10/09

@Kali Mama: My three year old sleeps SIDEWAYS when he sleeps with us. SIDEWAYS. How does he always manage to get me in the kidney???
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RStewie
09/10/09

@spamanda: When he was younger my step-son was the "X-Man"...he was so small, but took up so much room at the same time!

My SO wouldn't ever sleep with him, though...he was also a "ball-buster"... lol
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TheFormerJuneBronson
09/09/09

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I have been known to decamp because of Mr. JB's snoring, which is legendary in his family. Most of the time, I'm used to it, but if for whatever reason I'm having trouble sleeping anyhow, forget it; I'm gone. I really want him to have it checked out because I know how terrible it is for his health, and the fact that he's blown me off for thirteen years is, I'll admit, a major thorn in our marriage. Taking care of your damn self is an act of love to your spouse.

But by far? The absolute worst bedmate in the house is Little JB, who is three. He kicks, he talks, he wakes easily, he can't settle. I wouldn't co-sleep with him if we were the last two people on earth. I used to think it would be like the panacea if he wouldn't sleep as a baby. How very wrong that was.
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Le Kangourou de Kataroo
09/09/09

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TRex and I are fine sleeping in the same bed - at his house. With his MASSIVE king size bed. We both can have the tendency to chase the other across the bed when we really wanna cuddle, but usually we just roll to our seperate sides and zonk out, every now and then waking to throw the dog at the other when we can't take it anymore. We cuddle in the mornings between the first alarm and the second alarm.

At my house though? I only have a double bed, and it's hell for both of us to sleep in it, and throw the dog in there and it's terrible. Neither of us sleep well. I have no qualms about always being at his house.
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bluebears
09/09/09

@Le Kangourou de Kataroo: Yeah, BF has a queen and I have a full and even between those two I can really tell a difference. I would love a king size bed.
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lucystrawberry: Tier 2 is the new black
09/09/09

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If my boyfriend was annoying while sleeping, I would totally want my own bedroom and would have no problem with asking for it, or vice versa. I feel so lucky that he is in fact the most delightful person to sleep next to! totally silent, doesn't toss and turn too much, and we also made the wise decision to get a queen size bed where one side is firm, one side is soft...so we each get the comfort level we want and can barely feel the other turn. Worth the investment!
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Maulleigh
09/10/09

@lucystrawberry: Tier 2 is the new black: My ex didn't snore and I loved that about him.
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Endora
09/09/09

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I like the solution of having two mattresses side by side, with separate duvets. So reasonable. Then if one wants a hard mattress, he/she can have it, and there are no arguments about hogging the covers.

Problem solved.
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TheFormerJuneBronson
09/09/09

@Endora: Mr. JB and I slept with separate covers for years, and I still miss it. I don't remember just why we started sharing, but he's a blanket hog. I mentioned to him a while back that I'd rather go back to separate covers, and he was all wounded. It's insane.
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Endora
09/10/09

@TheFormerJuneBronson: Lesson I learned from that: never give up having my own cover! Seriously, I would have trouble dealing.

Does that make me selfish?
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¡Vampiro atropellado!
09/09/09

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That's weird, I sleep waaaay better when I'm sharing a bed with my SO.
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redqueenmeg
09/09/09

@¡Vampiro atropellado!: Does your SO snore, wiggle 10-30 times per minute, and talk while sleeping?

'cause I sleep better with mine too unless he's doing one or more of these things.
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LaComtesse
09/09/09

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This would destroy me. While I'm not someone who paces my widow's walk if my guy is out with his friends, I sleep better with him there and he can't sleep unless he has his hand in my hair.
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MediasBlue
09/09/09

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Oh, the joy of separate beds! I think we are headed that way due to work schedules. It is so very hard to function at work when you have had no sleep due to a snoring partner. I don't think I've slept well since we got married - and yes, I'm pushing for the separate beds.
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NewsBunny
09/09/09

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There are nights I"d love a seperate bed. Hell, even a seperate room. I adore my husband. But he gives off 300 degree heat in his sleep; he kicks like a goat; he snorts; he snores; he rolls over like a SUV in a high-speed crash; he flops his arms against my head...

I kind of but not really jokingly suggested seperate beds and he looked at me like a puppy that had been kicked in the stomach.
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NewsBunny
09/09/09

@NewsBunny: I will say me putting a king-sized flat sheet and down comforter on the queen-sized bed has helped. So has me using earplugs.
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AnotherJenn
09/09/09

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The Joy of Sex book recommends one bed for sleep and one for sex. It also recommends hairy armpit fucking so, you, grain of salt and all that.
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ali is a cranky whiner
09/09/09

@AnotherJenn: what is hairy armpit fucking?
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whats_in_a_name
09/09/09

@ali is a cranky whiner: Exactly what it sounds like....think tittie fucking (sorry about the crudity but i'm not sure how else to say that) but with a hairy armpit instead of cleavage.
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