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Psst! The "Secret" Is Purity!
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Sat Nov 28
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When young girls are encouraged to see themselves as defined by their purity, its the same thing as encouraging them to see themselves as defined by their bodies. I agree with so much of the message that this book sends out, but by treating sexual "purity" as a character definition and litmus test for self worth, we teach girls that responsibility, truthfulness, love and kindness, and the way they treat others are not the most important part of their selves--its the clothes the wear and the sexual behavior they engage in. And isn't that just as bad as "Slutoween"? #secretkeepergirls
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In fact, it IS encouraging them to see themselves as defined by their bodies. #secretkeepergirls
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At the retreat we talked about sex, what to do in a sexual situation if you are uncomfortable, how much depends on what you are personally comfortable with, how you are not a bad person if you have sex, how the mentors handled sex before/after marriage and whether they regretted their decisions, etc.
Sometimes I really can't stand "Christians" because the assholes ruin it for the rest of us and we have to spend a lot of time explaining that we're not crazy. #secretkeepergirls
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*Spoiler Alert*
1. Anal
2. Furious Masturbation
3. Enforced Anatomical Ignorance
4. Denigrating the Non-Pure
5. More Denigrating
6. Ibid
7. Fashion Shows! #secretkeepergirls
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In other news, I guess I am one lie-living bitch! #secretkeepergirls
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- don't ever ever ever marry as a virgin. you will be scared and disappointed.
- your virginity should be lost to someone who you really like and who is worth it but it should not be built up as an end all be all, soul mates uniting, heaven's clouds parting act.
- instead, the first time you have sex will be awkward and at least a little painful but i promise it gets better the more you practice.
- don't ever let someone near you without a condom on. don't ever have sex with someone without a condom who you don't want to mate with.
- if anything bad happens, i will go to whatever clinic we need to with you and we don't have to tell dad and you will not be in any kind of trouble.
etc. #secretkeepergirls
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At least that's what I got out of this post. #secretkeepergirls
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From the website: "Is my shirt too low? Lean forward a little bit. Can you see too much chest skin or future cleavage? Your shirt is too low."
FUTURE CLEAVAGE?! Yes, I totally get this, making little girls worry about a 'problem' that THEY DON'T EVEN HAVE YET.
I am going to go and be sick now, kthnxbai. #secretkeepergirls
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I am just...in awe. Really? Let's promote ownership of a girl/woman's body by their husband/male relatives. That's worked out so well in the past! #secretkeepergirls
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*burp* #secretkeepergirls
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You know what's really damaging? The message that you're worthless if you're not "intact". No mention of what happens if you're abused - you're just not as valuable regardless of the circumstances. I understand that many Christians wouldn't outright blame an abuse victim, but it makes me upset that compassion is almost never part of the purity message. Also that it's always the girls' responsibility to stay pure.
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I feel this would be much more effective in Goofus & Gallant form. Perhaps called "Doofus and Damsel," keeping with the virginity focus? #secretkeepergirls
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On the other hand, anything that stops the onslaught of slutty stuff for ten-year-olds deserves major applause.
Can we start a secular version of this, one that's pro-good-body-image but anti-purity-for-Jesus? #secretkeepergirls
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AND if it wasn't just female abstinence. Where are the books for boys? Why is their purity not valued by God? #secretkeepergirls
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But can I just say? Jesus would make a crappy BFF. All your life, all you'd hear from your parents is, "why can't you be more like that nice young boy, Jesus? He NEVER sasses his parents!" or "why don't you go out with that nice young boy, Jesus? What's so great about that Saul boy?" #secretkeepergirls
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