@Zombie Ms. Skittles: No, don't get any kind of fancy 8 x 10! I guarantee what theywould most like to see are a couple natural, unposed, makeup-free shots in natural light. Wear something simple and form-fitting and look happy! Good luck.
oh, leighton. "Any fear of aging, I think, is simply vanity," Meester told the magazine. "Because what comes with age is so many wonderful things: wisdom, understanding."
@cate3710: I am getting this for my boyfriend because he made me watch that video so many times that often I will just get the "Meow, meow-meow-meow meeeoooooww" lopping in my head. Goddammit.
I have to be honest, if I had the money I'd start botox now, I am 26. From what I have heard if you start young it can look natural.
Usually the people who advocate aging gracefully and all are incredibly attractive and aging gracefully. I need all the help I can get.
Although the comment does it make it sound like she is already using it but if you go the site she seems to just be saying people should be free to do what they want.
@Elaken: Darling, I am sure you are a beautiful young lady who doesn't need to inject things into your face. Please think twice about Botox. It is not as side effect free as many think. Avoid the sun, don't smoke, drink lots of water, and use good skin products and you will be lovely for years.
@Elaken: I'd second Badmutha's excellent advice. I've always thought that probably a wiser path to take is to use the thousands of dollars you might spend on cosmetic surgery and procedures and put it towards things that will make you feel good about yourself in other ways. Whether that's travelling to the mosques of Samarkand and the secret snow-covered mountain passes of the Himalayas, or buying a whole library full of good books to read, or a wardrobe of beautiful, magical clothing, or a gleaming sailboat, fast as a knife, or time well spent with a fantastic, life-affirming therapist, or whatever it is that floats your boat. It will make you more interesting, and it will never, ever let you down.
Go for life experiences over botox, friend. It's always the right choice.
It's late, so nobody will probably read this, but I just wanted to point out that all the bitchy comments on this guy's article (almost surely consisting mostly of commenters from Jezebel after having been directed there by this post) might be interpreted as actually lending credibility to what he's saying.
I definitely had some girl drama in my high school years but no one ever beat me up in gym class and given the choice between the two, I'll take relational anger. Too many articles focus on typical female aggression and gloss over typical male aggression, which can do actual physical harm or land you in jail.
The evolutionary argument is pretty weak. There are communities where girl fights are pretty common, there is a strong social component to how people fight.
There is an inherent misogyny to the idea that sweet little girls are somehow better human beings than their male counterparts. Female relational violence only gets so much press because writers like Jesse Bering hold women to a higher standard than men.
i would say that it's patently ridiculous for a research psychologist to write such shoddy pseudoscientific nonsense...but i suppose that's why he works in ireland and not for an ivy league school. i suppose as a dominant alpha male motherfucker, my correct social response should be unchecked physical aggression? sticking with the completely anecdotal basis for making blanket statements, i would have to say that men enjoy bitching about each other a great deal. i think it's due to the fact that we're genetically hardwired to cockblock each other.
@lilliputzian: Many of the men of my acquaintance are horrible gossips, and much more efficient at it than the women. I was surprised by this at first, I'll admit, but now I think it's fascinating and endearing.
Of course, I've a soft spot for gossip all around, as long as it's not intended to be malicious.
@Wit is periodically disensouled: The biggest gossips I know are two of my male friends, but nobody thinks of them that way, because they're guys, so what they're saying must be important.
Coming from a marketing background, I'd say this author's tossing-in of a Jezebel mention is pure genius. No doubt, referencing one of the most read websites on the internet is going to get you some notice.
The mention doesn't really contribute any substance to the article, and I can only assume he's pleased that his tactic is working!
And to think I used to think Scientific American was a bastion of logic and scientific integrity.
Honestly, this has little to do with science, and more with compartmentalizing people. Social aggression is everywhere. Heck, the Internet is one, big socially aggressive potboiler on its own. Nasty is everywhere -- there's no scientific explanation required. What's required is an end to social aggression and all its myriad forms.
@NefariousNewt: What type of aggression is available on the internet *other* than social aggression? I just thought about that and got stuck. I can't punch people through the wires.
Good. Let them be afraid of us. It works in our favor.
Though I occasionally get tired of the snark, the comments on here are not apoplexy-inducing, which is exponentially more than I can say for most other blogs.
Well, comments do tend to be argumentative, people do take things personally, people do make personal attacks and people do belittle. I think it is certainly less common than on other sites, but it does happen, and this is a mostly female site. There are also lots of comments that address judgement women feel from others outside the community. So, its not completely off base.
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"Any fear of aging, I think, is simply vanity," Meester told the magazine. "Because what comes with age is so many wonderful things: wisdom, understanding."
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@amowls: True. It's all about the Keyboard Cat shirt now.
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Usually the people who advocate aging gracefully and all are incredibly attractive and aging gracefully. I need all the help I can get.
Although the comment does it make it sound like she is already using it but if you go the site she seems to just be saying people should be free to do what they want.
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Go for life experiences over botox, friend. It's always the right choice.
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Sweet irony.
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The evolutionary argument is pretty weak. There are communities where girl fights are pretty common, there is a strong social component to how people fight.
There is an inherent misogyny to the idea that sweet little girls are somehow better human beings than their male counterparts. Female relational violence only gets so much press because writers like Jesse Bering hold women to a higher standard than men.
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Of course, I've a soft spot for gossip all around, as long as it's not intended to be malicious.
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The mention doesn't really contribute any substance to the article, and I can only assume he's pleased that his tactic is working!
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Honestly, this has little to do with science, and more with compartmentalizing people. Social aggression is everywhere. Heck, the Internet is one, big socially aggressive potboiler on its own. Nasty is everywhere -- there's no scientific explanation required. What's required is an end to social aggression and all its myriad forms.
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Though I occasionally get tired of the snark, the comments on here are not apoplexy-inducing, which is exponentially more than I can say for most other blogs.
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I'm sorry I called you all gap-toothed bitches. It's not your fault you're all so gap-toothed.
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Douchebag.