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08/06/09
(That's one thing that sucks for women working retail -- you're not supposed to be anything but friendly to customers, so you can't tell a creepy customer to fuck off without risking your job.)
I remember one day he came up to me and starting RANTING about how a girl on another floor was dressed: it was so revealing, he said, that he couldn't be blamed if he took her for a prostitute, and she shouldn't dress that way in front of the kids in the store. He was in a rage.
We were all sure he was capable of violence against women, but there was nothing concrete to report to the police or anyone else. I still wonder and worry about where he is sometimes.
08/06/09
You are not a "nice guy" or a "great catch" or "high quality". You aren't. If you have the attitude that women are trophies to be shown off to other men, you are not a "nice guy". If your personal hygiene is comparable to that of goat, women will avoid you. If you refuse to remove your ass from your couch & work out and your diet largely consists of fast food, don't expect the hard-body athlete to fall head over heels in love with you. If you are over 50 years old and are not Donald Trump, don't expect that hot 18-19 year old co-ed to fall all over you. In fact, even if you are Donald Trump, date somebody your own age douche bag. If you refer to a woman who won't date you as a 1.) a slut 2.) a dyke 3.) butterface 4.) uptight bitch, no other woman is going to want you either! If you limit yourself to only dating super models, guess what! You're never going to date, have sex, marry, and you'll be spending a lot of time alone. Especially if you don't look like the centerfold of Play Girl yourself.
You are not entitled to pussy. Not getting pussy will not ruin your life. When women don't get cock we purchase a battery powered substitute until our dry spell ends. We don't go on a temper tantrum killing spree. You don't need to either.
Thank You.
08/06/09
Anyway, he asked me if I would walk out on the street with him one time, just so people would see him with a pretty girl. I asked him if he had any idea how insulting that was. He was gobsmacked. He had NO idea that would offend me. He was so wrapped up in his own misery, he was oblivious. When I explained that I was a hell of a lot more than just my looks, and he of all people should get that being stereotyped based only on your looks is offensive, he was shocked. He got it, but it was such a mindfuck for him. That I would be offended he LIKED my body and thought it was attractive and wanted to show me off like a trophy was truly a revelation.
But he got it. What I'm saying is yes, we have every right to be pissed off about this. It IS offensive. It IS insulting. It ISN'T okay. But a lot of these guys really, truly, fundamentally don't get it. And being hateful toward them isn't going to get that message across - just solidify the wrongheaded thinking they've already got.
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08/05/09
Isn't that how it often is? A particularly sticky intersection of oppression. How to help the mentally ill when sometimes they want to kill you? Honest question.
08/05/09
And I don't understand Roissy at all. He seems to despise women.
08/05/09
The messages in mainstream porn are the same as shooting up a bunch of sweaty women.
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08/05/09
His entire blog is basically about how much he hates women. He wrote a post called "Rape is Equality". Yeah. I wanted to vom.
08/05/09
I wanted to cry when I read it, especially because he has arguments that appear well-thought out, even citing seemingly academic sources; he's not just ranting and raving. I mean, in over 20 comments on that post, no one called him out on his psychotic view of women. I've only been able to regain my sanity by hoping that guys like that are in the very slim minority.
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Forgive the typos, but I have no patience for the DEATHLY SLOW commenting.
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It wasn't your cologne. No one would date you because women can smell "crazy." You can't cover that shit up with a little Axe, you know.
Thanks, Anna, for a poignant analysis.
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I agree that its sad, and currently I am having my own battle with loving a male friend of mine for four years. He likes the little house on the prairie type, long blond hair, homely looks, skinny as a rail. Me? I'm 300 pounds, I have sometimes red sometimes black hair, and I wear glasses and I have catapillar eyebrows.
I tried convincing him that what is in the inside is what counts, and that we would make a great couple. He couldn't get past my weight.
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The main problem, IMO, is not this ghastly guy, or his ghastly act, or even Roissy.
The main problem is that attitude right there.
Now the issue of which was the causal contributor to the other two, I will leave to Jezzies wiser than I.
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08/05/09
Something I've been meaning to ask, though:
1) Do these guys really think that modern feminism is to blame for their social awkwardness? Have they never read a Jane Austen novel? Or, for that matter, any other novel written pre-1900 with socially awkward male characters?
2) So, if modern feminism didn't create socially awkward men (or women), then the only thing it *may* actually be responsible for in this equation is women having more choice: to marry later, have sex (or *not* have sex). Basically, women are no longer property. You cannot rape them. You cannot force them to marry.
.... These guys talk about it like this is a bad thing. This makes me shudder.
08/05/09
This mindset is more common that I'd like to contemplate and it's so fucking dangerous. These nice guys can coast on good manners a date or two, but when they lose it, who knows what they'll do? And then women are blamed because we're not being nice enough to violent, mentally disturbed men. As a woman, I won't be held hostage to the whims of madmen, and I don't think Roissy would, either.