It ain't a ring, but last night my boyfriend did suggest that see a couples counselor before getting engaged...
Is that weird? I've been with my boyfriend for 6.5 years, and we've lived together for 3. We're super happy and love each other tons -- things aren't perfect, of course, but they're pretty darn great. Lately the topic of marriage/engagement has been coming up more and more and last night he mentioned that he thinks it might be a good idea for us to go to a relationship counselor before we take that step, just to see if there's anything we're missing/need to improve before we make that kind of commitment... I'm wondering how others would react to this...
@RosePetalPlace: I think it sounds like he's really serious about making it work. It might be a great way to make sure you're on the same page about important things. An impartial third party can be very helpful for that.
On a canoe trip I once saw a woman drop her wedding ring into an ice-cold spring in the back of a scary half-submerged cave- the water was so cold that when she put her hand in her finger shrunk and the ring fell off. Her husband then dove in wearing only swim trunks and brought it back. Now that's commitment.
When I lived in Austin, one of my friends proposed to his girlfriend during a sunrise hot-air balloon ride over the central Texas Hill country. He pulled the ring out of his pocket, flipped the box open, and as he moved closer to her, he tripped and the ring sailed over the side of the balloon. She was horrified and about to go after it, when he starting laughing and whipped out another one. The first one was a fake and he thought the whole thing was hilarious. The girlfriend, not so much so.
So, I guess my engagement story of being proposed to immediately after doggie style sexin' while still on my belly and having to reach under the pillow for the ring (surprise!) isn't going to make Good Morning America?
This couple was on the TODAY show this morning. He must have said "It fell out of the box" at least three times. Indicating he did not drop it, it was the box's fault. Then he cracked a joke about suing the jewelry box maker.
@tscheese: A proposal can be a surprise without being a surprise. My husband and I discussed getting married, agreed to it, but he still wanted to do a proposal. So I knew we were getting married, but I didn't know when SPECIFICALLY he was "asking." I liked it that way: adult discussion plus over the top romance. :-)
@LaComtesse: Agreed. Future Mr. PH and I discussed marriage in very serious terms (i.e. WHEN we get married vs. IF we get married) well before he proposed, but the actual event was a surprise. Honestly, it's hard for me to fathom how you could actually "surprise" propose, where the girl (or guy, depending) is completely off guard, for something as weighty as marriage.
@PreposterousHypothesis: Yeah. I feel like I had two proposals, almost. The day we went from "When I get married"/"When I have kids" to "When we get married"/"When we have kids." We discussed the course of our life together one night on a drive from San Diego to LA, found out we wanted to same things, then he proposed about a year and a half later.
@LaComtesse: My boyfriend and I have reached this level. We have a two year plan all set up, with a timeline of events like "buy a house, then plan the wedding." We even bought the ring, which I picked out. But he hasn't officially asked yet, and it's such a weird feeling. I feel happy and secure, because I'm sure that we are getting married in the future. But he hid the ring, so I can't surreptitiously show my mom. He doesn't want to tell everyone before he does it, so I can't either, and I get the usual from my family: "When are you getting married?"
So I'm glad to hear someone else did it this way, too. I have a feeling the proposal will be amazing. I hope so!
Well at least he didn't put the ring in a champagne glass, and she didn't accidentally take a sip and swallow it. (Seriously, why do they do that on TV? Why would you want a dripping wet ring?)
@Rosaxe: There was a segment on the Today show recently about a guy who put the ring in his girlfriend's MILKSHAKE, and she drank it. Even if she hadn't drank it, who wants a diamond ring covered in milkshake?!
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Is that weird? I've been with my boyfriend for 6.5 years, and we've lived together for 3. We're super happy and love each other tons -- things aren't perfect, of course, but they're pretty darn great. Lately the topic of marriage/engagement has been coming up more and more and last night he mentioned that he thinks it might be a good idea for us to go to a relationship counselor before we take that step, just to see if there's anything we're missing/need to improve before we make that kind of commitment... I'm wondering how others would react to this...
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Whaaa????
Must visit the optometrist
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it's just a fucking ring i'm not jumping into traffic for that shit
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And yeah, I have weird friends.
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TMI?
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Haha, that made me chuckle.
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Video Camera: $299.
Look on girlfriend's face and the faces of her family as engagement ring goes sailing off the Brooklyn Bridge: priceless.
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So I'm glad to hear someone else did it this way, too. I have a feeling the proposal will be amazing. I hope so!
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