What Does It Mean to Be Able to Defend Your Relationship?

Who among us has never had doubts about a relationship? Who among us has not also wrestled with which doubts to take seriously, and which to sideline? What if someone told you that, despite your doubts, a relationship ought to be sturdily defensible—that you ought to be able to defend it in a court of law?
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How to Have a Healthy Relationship With Porn

Porn has existed since man first discovered how to draw naked people on cave walls, and we’ve debated whether or not it’s healthy for just about as long. I doubt we’re ever going to have a clear consensus on the effects of porn usage, but there are still some simple guidelines you can follow if you’d like to improve… » 4/23/15 1:25pm 4/23/15 1:25pm

Here's What It Looks Like When You Chronicle Every Detail of an Affair

An illicit love affair almost always goes un-chronicled. It’s in the inherent nature of the thing: an affair is over, after all, as soon as you leave too many traces. And so a love affair’s importance and impact often live entirely in memory. If we document it, the affair lives in a few pictures, letters—maybe today,… » 4/03/15 5:00pm 4/03/15 5:00pm

How To Prevent Your Pet From Ruining Your Sex Life

Between killing spontaneity, playing favorites, and and ruining the mood with room-clearing farts, pets can be a real boner-killer. We all know that adopting a pet comes with a lot of responsibility, but few people consider the effects that a furry friend can have on one's sex life. Here's how to deal with some of the… » 4/01/15 3:30pm 4/01/15 3:30pm

How to Talk To Your New Girlfriend About Your Ex

First and foremost, congratulations on the decision to put your fuck parts together with another person's fuck parts in a more meaningful way than you were putting fuck parts together with others during the abysmal slog through Tinder you've been on since your break-up. Things are probably great: you two have stopped… » 3/27/15 3:17pm 3/27/15 3:17pm

Yes, You Need Therapy to Get Over Your Ex (And for Everything Else)

One of the hardest things to learn about love is the fact that your narrative about a relationship is probably not "The Narrative." The official story of any two people requires two points of view, and your version is only one: The story in your head of what happened when you met someone else and fell in… » 3/12/15 4:45pm 3/12/15 4:45pm

What's Your Sexual Orientation: Promiscuous or Monogamous?

For a long time, the construction of gendered sexual behavior went like this: Men aren't hardwired for monogamy, but women, being more invested in emotional bonds and offspring resources, are. But it's becoming increasingly clear that women aren't exactly thrilled with the same old every night either. Research shows… » 2/19/15 12:15pm 2/19/15 12:15pm

How I Found Self-Worth in a Pool of Maggots and Left the Man I Loved

"I'm going to destroy everything," Seamus hissed at me as I climbed into my friend's car to leave the home we shared. The cops had already come and gone, saying that one of us had to leave for the night. Because Seamus refused and I had been drinking, I packed a bag and called a friend. I had known that our… » 2/12/15 3:30pm 2/12/15 3:30pm

Your Relationship Is Only As Good as the Lies Holding it Together

If lies are not the glue that binds us, then they are at least the sticky tape. This isn't only true just for us overly sensitive beings who can't face being told what we're really like, but also for lovers who can't stand knowing what our significant others are really thinking (about us). In this arena, some argue… » 2/11/15 4:40pm 2/11/15 4:40pm