Having More Sex Doesn't Necessarily Make Your Relationship Better

There’s a popular perception that your relationship’s health can be measured by the frequency of your lovemaking. So it only follows that if you wanted to fine-tune your rapport, adding more sex ought to tip the scales toward greater satisfaction, right? Wrong—according to a new study that suggests that doing it more… » 6/27/15 1:30pm Saturday 1:30pm

Anatomy of the Perfect Harmless Adult Crush

Recently, some of my friends have been lamenting the lack of good crushes in their orbit as of late. All in their thirties, the majority married, they found themselves longing for old crushes who’d faded from their social circles or workplaces, taking their crushability with them. Which got us thinking: What makes for… » 6/26/15 1:30pm 6/26/15 1:30pm

Woman Sees Pictures of Boyfriend's Wedding, Still Not Sure He Cheated

Recently, a 23-year-old woman posted an astonishing inquiry on Ask Metafilter. Just a warning, though, her question—titled “Did my boyfriend just get married?”—might make you want to hop into one of Bruce Willis’s spaceship drills from Armageddon and burrow yourself 10,000 feet into the core of a dying star: » 6/24/15 7:10pm 6/24/15 7:10pm

Woman Catches Cheating Boyfriend With Help of Three of His Mistresses

Player Gets Played is a new show on Oxygen that’s taking a lot of cues from The Other Woman (starring Cameron Diaz and Kate Upton as The Other Women). In it, cheating partners are confronted not only by their current main flame but also by the people they’re cheating with. This week, three women confront a guy who… » 6/17/15 3:50pm 6/17/15 3:50pm

What's Going on With Nicki Minaj and Meek Mill? A Timeline

Over the last week, fans, tabloids and this very website inferred from a series of cryptic Instagram posts that Her Minajesty, Onika Maraj, may have dumped recent manfriend Meek Mill right on his ass. Those posts included two May 31 photographs of Minaj quoting lyrics from Beyoncé’s “Best I Never Had” (“Thank God ya… » 6/05/15 11:10am 6/05/15 11:10am

Does Your Partner Know How Many People You’ve Slept With? No? Good.

It comes up eventually in every long-ish dating scenario: A back-and-forth exchange of not just bodily fluids, but sexual histories—maybe by vague reference to exes or past singlehood, maybe by a specific tally. But research shows most people don’t know want to your actual number, and amen to that. » 5/19/15 12:10pm 5/19/15 12:10pm

'Can't Wait to Caress Your Clot': More of the Grimmest Sexts Ever Sent

Life is full of regrets. And for so many of us, those regrets live inside our phones, in the form of awful, terrible, no good sext attempts we can never, ever take back. In this world, each of us is doomed at some point to be the Jonathan Franzen of our own private erotic novel, churning out the most genital-withering… » 5/18/15 4:40pm 5/18/15 4:40pm

Why Hitting on a Freshly Rejected Woman Doesn't Work

Have you ever been rejected by a god among men, so you just surveyed the scene and grabbed the next average dude in sight? No? Me either. Luckily, almighty science has finally gotten around to debunking this popular “rebound” wet dream of regular dudes everywhere that I’m pretty sure was never real in the first place,… » 5/16/15 4:00pm 5/16/15 4:00pm

You Fell in Love '36 Questions' Style: Now What?

Back in January, you probably came across that Modern Love essay asking whether you could fall in love with a stranger by answering a series of 36 increasingly intimate questions together. The answer, posited the column, was yes. But the more important question is probably: what next? What happens after your essay… » 5/06/15 11:50am 5/06/15 11:50am

How To Become Comfortable Talking About Sex When You Never Have Before

Sex is one of the most difficult topics to talk about openly, and there are plenty of people out there who have never had a single honest conversation with a partner about their intimate relationship. If you’re a total sexual communication beginner, here are some straightforward steps to help you get started. » 5/06/15 10:24am 5/06/15 10:24am

What Does It Mean to Be Able to Defend Your Relationship?

Who among us has never had doubts about a relationship? Who among us has not also wrestled with which doubts to take seriously, and which to sideline? What if someone told you that, despite your doubts, a relationship ought to be sturdily defensible—that you ought to be able to defend it in a court of law?
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How to Have a Healthy Relationship With Porn

Porn has existed since man first discovered how to draw naked people on cave walls, and we’ve debated whether or not it’s healthy for just about as long. I doubt we’re ever going to have a clear consensus on the effects of porn usage, but there are still some simple guidelines you can follow if you’d like to improve… » 4/23/15 1:25pm 4/23/15 1:25pm

Here's What It Looks Like When You Chronicle Every Detail of an Affair

An illicit love affair almost always goes un-chronicled. It’s in the inherent nature of the thing: an affair is over, after all, as soon as you leave too many traces. And so a love affair’s importance and impact often live entirely in memory. If we document it, the affair lives in a few pictures, letters—maybe today,… » 4/03/15 5:00pm 4/03/15 5:00pm

How To Prevent Your Pet From Ruining Your Sex Life

Between killing spontaneity, playing favorites, and and ruining the mood with room-clearing farts, pets can be a real boner-killer. We all know that adopting a pet comes with a lot of responsibility, but few people consider the effects that a furry friend can have on one's sex life. Here's how to deal with some of the… » 4/01/15 3:30pm 4/01/15 3:30pm