Mr. Singularly Garish can come have dinner with my mother any time. You might think your safe at first, but you learn when to duck really quickly. #preciousfilm
All of this reminds me of an eternal struggle of Black people: Can anything really be "for us" and not be made to represent all of us?
We must realize that our art/music/personal stories are consumed by the masses, which contains individuals who simply choose not to understand our intra diversity. These people simply choose to use our stories against us. So to what extent must we be careful about what stories we choose to tell? Do we appeal to the lowest common denominator? Or do we reveal our vulnerable places to a cold and ignorant society?
I guess the simpler version of this question is found in Dave Chappelle/ Chris Rock comedy wherein many of us truly "get" what is being satirized, whereas others just point and laugh at the most superficial level.
I am now recruiting members for the "I Don't Speak Like A White Girl, I Speak Like The Educated Black Woman That I Am Club" aka IDSLAWGISLTEBWTIAC. #preciousfilm
Can I join? I was plagued by that nonsense growing up. People don't say that to me much anymore, perhaps because I'm an adult, perhaps because things have changed. Oh, who am I kidding? #preciousfilm
@RockyMay: or its sister "compliment" "You are so well spoken, and this [essay/paper/post-it note] is so well written!" Where can I send my charter membership application, and is there a link I can forward to my friends? #preciousfilm
@meanteeth: ahh, but have you had to show your sources for that well-written work, because you HAD to have MISTAKENLY plagiarized?! That was my first semester of college. At an HBCU. With an instructor of color. #preciousfilm
I'm not sure.
'Cause you know the President had it said about him during his campaign(s) -- although I'd like to think no one had the temerity to say it to his face. #preciousfilm
@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: No, just another jaded brown woman teaching too long who got surprised ONE more time. And, was, of course, my number one fan for the rest of my college career. Allison is on some ole other ish with the hair thing; she needs a sistagurl night out or something. #preciousfilm
@RockyMay: I would like to join that club. I was bullied horribly because of my actions/vocabulary/speech.
I speak out about it now to the point where I will put people in check if I hear them say "I'm blacker than you are." #preciousfilm
@prettypithy: I don't get the whole, "You speak like a white girl" anymore, but I do get people asking me if I grew up in the south. They are then astonished when I say yes. RockyMay, I would love to join your group! #preciousfilm
@brownstocking: i did have similar, but it was a predominantly white institution, with a white TA who suggested remedial english for me, because i discussed a topic she missed in lecture. yeah, no grammatical errors, just a difference of opinion. thankfully the prof stepped up. i feel your pain, brownstocking! #preciousfilm
"[T]oo singularly garish to be universal." I wish I could introduce Edelstein to my mother, who demanded that I make up for her lost welfare payments when I got a job as a teenager; who slapped me when I looked at her the wrong way; and who accused me (as a child!) of trying to steal a man she was interested in.
I think the role of "psycho mother" is unfortunately universal. #preciousfilm
Without getting into the worldview and background that would prompt the "too singularly garish to be universal" characterization, I'm not sure that this is a valid criticism, even if it were unequivocally true. If the action is poignant (check), advances the narrative (check), and is true to the world it is portraying (check), why should the fact that it isn't a universal experience matter? Are we so used to self-referential culture and middle-class archetypes and stock characters that we can't recognize any value in depictions that we might not recognize or that don't resonate with our own experiences? Isn't this missing the point? #preciousfilm
@KikiCanuck: Concurred. Rarely if ever do I find myself being a charming French sprite, doing good deeds for others to often hilarious results and falling in love with a hot stranger, but I love Amelie. #preciousfilm
@KikiCanuck: People say "it's not universal" when they mean, "it makes me think about other people's feelings and my plain sheltered brain can't handle that." #preciousfilm
I'm curious if your opinion has changed since reading the book and seeing the movie (vs. going by word of review on your last post) and what your thoughts are about the two.Hope there's another post in the works! #preciousfilm
it would be one thing to do a thoughtful commentary on how some audiences might not find the subject matter of the film approachable or the protagonastic relatable, because that's, you know, a valid arguement when you're discussing a film with extreme human suffering and pain. body snark and general bitchassness is another thing entirely. #preciousfilm
A little OT, but a 13 year old student of mine just told me that her step mother recommended this book to her. I am in SHOCK! I read the book and think it brings up a lot of issues for ADULTS to discuss and think about. What is wrong with that woman that she would recommend it to a child? #preciousfilm
@thenewmrssalazar: Maybe this woman doesn't think kids are stupid or need to be protected from the world? Maybe she feels this 13-year-old is mature enough to deal with such subject matter? Maybe she wants to have a conversation about the issues in the book? Maybe she feels the book will give her a good jumping off point for them to discuss the issues raised in the book? #preciousfilm
@thenewmrssalazar: I read The Bluest Eye when I was about 13 and my favorite book at that time was Memoirs of a Geisha. I wasn't much older when I read The Kitchen God's Wife.
It's not like she recommended it to a 6 year old. I think a 13 year old is old enough to form her own opinions about the content of the book, and the fact that her stepmother recommended it means she'll probably be discussing it with her step-mom. #preciousfilm
@thenewmrssalazar: Well why not? It might be heavy reading, yes, but likely to teach kids some important lessons. It's not like she recommended reading Playboy or Hustler.
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@Zombie Ms. Skittles: To both Sev and Zombie Ms. Skittles, I hear you on that, I've taught English. I know this girl, though and no. Just no. #preciousfilm
@thenewmrssalazar: By 13 a girl is very likely to have been abused, assaulted, raped or know someone who has. Girls are living this material every day. #preciousfilm
@Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd): This. I don't hold with a lot of "should"s, but in this world where rape and assault of teenagers -- and other horrors -- are all too common, teenage girls should be as widely read as possible.
Better to have the knowledge of what can happen, and be aware, then to have no clue and if it happens to have to wonder for the rest of life what the hell happened. #preciousfilm
@thenewmrssalazar: If you could say a bit more than "Just no," that might be helpful. Why exactly is this too much for a 13 year old to read? #preciousfilm
@CaptainSnarky: I agree that one should never censor what a child chooses to read. However, this is a girl who showed no interest in this book before her step mother recommended it. The only reason she mentioned it to me is to ask if I'd read the book and what I thought of it. She seemed reluctant to take on the subject matter (her step mother had given her a synopsis) and asked if it was "that bad". I told her that there was a lot of heavy material in the book that she may not be ready to deal with.
She's one of those 13 year old girls who is very young and sheltered for her age. While agree that this is appropriate for some young ladies, this young lady doesn't seem to be ready for it yet. There are other ways to broach the subjects dealt with in this book than to just give it to her. #preciousfilm
@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: When I was 13, I was obsessed with rape. I read all I could about it, from novels to law books, Star Trek episodes ("Violations", TNG, pretty tame as an adult) to Fran Drescher's biography. I guess I was feeling out the adult world and trying to understand real, grownup emotions.
I used to think I was the only kind of sicko kid into that, but hanging around on Jez for over a year, I think almost all of you probably have a similar story. (My jewish friend used to be obsessed with the holocaust.) #preciousfilm
@BytheSea: @thenewmrssalazar: I was a pretty sheltered kid as well (not allowed to see R movies until I actually was 17, early curfews, strict parents) and I read like crazy, and at 13, I was also obsessed with rape-- it was (thankfully) a foreign act to me, but the mindset behind it and the idea of turning something from sex into a violent act was intriguing in that way it is when you're 13 and not allowed to watch TV after 8:30pm.
If reading it creates a dialogue between her and her stepmother or between you two, isn't that a good thing? She won't be sheltered forever, and if she learns that things like what's in Push can happen without them actually happening to her, she obviously has two women in her life whom she trusts enough to bring up these issues with, and then you can talk with her about them. My social studies teacher in 8th grade loaned me his copy of The Bell Jar, which ended up opening a pretty positive dialogue between us about creativity, sensitivity, and depression in relation to each other. Maybe it's not something that people would think was "appropriate" for me, but I thought it was a good experience, and it gave me something to draw on later when I did deal with my own personal depression issues. #preciousfilm
I envy someone who does not believe that systemic, ingrained abuse and living in hopelessness and fear is not universal. I'd like to check out his worldview sometime. #preciousfilm
Let me get this straight: David Edelstein watched Sibide's powerful, groundbreaking performance as a physically and sexually abused, bullied, and ignored black teenager, and all he could think to write about was her weight? #preciousfilm
@Trulymadlyme: my favorite part was when he said that she was directed to become an object, in the midst of describing her transformation. I feel like because HE objectified her, he felt like it was the director's intention. So weird and so lacking personal insight into himself as a viewer. #preciousfilm
@J.D.Regent: What I find so interesting is that this article is basically the point: Precious feels horrible about herself and worthless because, the world tells her she is. I don't think he got the point of the movie and his complicity in fueling this mindset. #preciousfilm
@PilgrimSoul: Um, wait. What?
(I think Edelstein is a pompous *ss and I generally don't like to read his writing and don't like to edify it by clicking on his links. Are you going to make me go over there?) #preciousfilm
I'm not at all surprised that the reviews are full of WTF moments because the movie, based on the trailers I've seen, looks like it has plenty of WTF moments too.
Honestly, to me Precious looks like some kind of disadvantage/marginality porn. All this trauma heaped on one girl, and the conclusion is just that she keeps on keeping on. That's it. Granted, it's heroic to keep on after experiences like that but other than checking out totally, what else can the girl do?
I wonder what the point of this movie is. To show us how much worse things could be, so we leave the theatre somehow grateful? #preciousfilm
@candleflame: I have not seen the movie, nor have I read the book. I think the "point" of the movie is really up for debate. What were the director's hopes? The writers? The actors?
In the end I look at this as a window into a life I, personally, don't understand. And I am not necessarily talking about race or socioeconomics, but the abuse. And the fact that a human spirit can survive.
@candleflame: i feel like that could be a legitimate critique, but it is not made well by these critics who seem too wrapped up in their own racism and classism to actually deal with the film and what it represents. #preciousfilm
@candleflame: I see where you're going with this. However this comment was like 10 times more thoughtful then the reviews Latoya quoted which were off the "wtf" scale.
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@candleflame: The book the movie is based on, Push does a tremendous job of portraying the odds many people face in America who are born into disadvantaged situations. It also shows what social service programs, like a night school for teenage mothers, can do to help people . More than anything, to me it is a story meant to get us to see a horror that exists in our country and to show us that we are not helpless in helping people to escape that horror. #preciousfilm
@candleflame: I saw the movie, but I have not read the book. I don't know if the book (as is usually the case) is more detailed and nuanced, but the movie was basically an unending parade of misery. It's similar to "Angela's Ashes" and "Slumdog Millionaire" in that way. That doesn't make it a bad or good movie in my estimation, but definitely emotionally traumatic.
My initial reaction was that it seemed to portray black people making other black people's lives miserable, without exploring the institutional factors that stack the deck against somebody like Precious. The protagonist finally succeeds by picking herself up by her bootstraps and overcoming her circumstances. I bristle at the insinuation that 'all you have to do is work hard enough and you'll succeed', but I worked hard and escaped an abusive welfare-dependent mother myself, so I guess there is a kernel of truth there. #preciousfilm
@jigglyball: More like, it's disheartening that there are so many -isms wrong with mainstream media pieces. What else is new, though, I guess. #preciousfilm
@candleflame: Its a story. Not every movie is made to change the world, it's merely an adaptation on harrowing story. Many can find identity in it, many can feel better about themselves, but in general its a story. #preciousfilm
@ArtfulSlinger: But it's not just a story. It's a piece of entertainment product being promoted out the wazoo so that no one can escape knowing about it. I've already seen the trailer at least three times. And I don't live in the US.
It's not just a story because it features a poor, fat, black girl, so right there it's loaded with major societal issues - poverty, sizeism, race - plus it's got a heap of other major issues like abuse, education, HIV. It's a very heavily loaded film, the Oscar buzz has already started, so there is going to be a lot of discussion about it.
Discussion about these issues is fine with me. But do we really need to see this girl so horribly mistreated to get that discussion going? #preciousfilm
The New York Magazine article confirmed my opinion of magazine and well, uh, all print media. Namely, the shockingly broad de-humanization of black people that exist outside of what it is to be a "good black," namely light skin, "good hair," thin, well off, and devoid of any linguistic trace of "black accents." (See: uh, the vast majority of black female actresses and singers). It's fucked up. It's sad. But seriously. It's about time he just played it as it lays and said "these are monsters." Which is to say, he missed the entire point of the book, the movie, and fucking life, that is, humanity exists in us all. In fact, this review is fucking evidence of some of the fucked up pathology that drives the self-hatred of the main character in "Precious."
What a massive, massive fail. I can't believe an editor or somebody in house didn't point out the obvious.
@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: Sigh. I heart you so hard for pointing this out. I don't know why I have any hope for journalism and the treatment of people of color. Le sigh. #preciousfilm
@Trulymadlyme: "I don't know why I have any hope for journalism and the treatment of people of color. "
Because you are an optimist and a genius.
You know that clearly, your mind is needed by the wider culture, so you can't afford to tilt over into the luxury of the despair that would drive you insane. #preciousfilm
OK, it's buried in-thread, but I wanted to highlight this particular line in Edelstein's review for y'all:
She’s also sexually molested by her jealous, welfare-cheating, gross, and sedentary mother, although the genital fingering might seem preferable to the verbal and physical abuse.
@PilgrimSoul: maybe I am just nitpicking now but he also refers to Precious' child as an object: "(the baby, which she names Mongo, has severe Down syndrome)," I'm not the grammar police some of y'all are but shouldn't it be "whom she names" or even "that she names"? I really feel like an editor should have stepped in and saved David from his crazy aversion to humans with issues other than the ones he talks to his therapist about every week. #preciousfilm
@PilgrimSoul: The kind of asshole who has (unfortunately) never had anything 1/10th as awful happen to him (and isn't smart enough to realize how lucky he is).
I wonder if this movie will be traumatizing or cathartic (or both?) for those of us who have "watched one of [our] parents lose their mind…and prepare to commit homicide." Until now I hadn't given it much thought, but now I'm kind of afraid I'll lose my shit in the theater, ha… #preciousfilm
@J.D.Regent: That's true. I should see the film if only so that I can speak to shit that idiots like Edelstein can't (although I don't exactly have access to his audience).
@Kivrin: Yeah, I've really been debating seeing this movie at all. If I do, it can't be in the theater. I'm pretty sure for me, it won't be cathartic. I'll still watch it, but I'm sure it will bother me for a while.
@GirlFailer: I might be okay with it, because the abuse I experienced was nowhere near as horrific—more Mommie Dearest than Precious. Still, that line that Latoya wrote about seeing one of your parents turn homicidal—that made me realize that this film may hit closer to home than I initially expected. #preciousfilm
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We must realize that our art/music/personal stories are consumed by the masses, which contains individuals who simply choose not to understand our intra diversity. These people simply choose to use our stories against us. So to what extent must we be careful about what stories we choose to tell? Do we appeal to the lowest common denominator? Or do we reveal our vulnerable places to a cold and ignorant society?
I guess the simpler version of this question is found in Dave Chappelle/ Chris Rock comedy wherein many of us truly "get" what is being satirized, whereas others just point and laugh at the most superficial level.
Double consciousness, indeed. #preciousfilm
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Can I join? I was plagued by that nonsense growing up. People don't say that to me much anymore, perhaps because I'm an adult, perhaps because things have changed. Oh, who am I kidding? #preciousfilm
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It's not like she recommended it to a 6 year old. I think a 13 year old is old enough to form her own opinions about the content of the book, and the fact that her stepmother recommended it means she'll probably be discussing it with her step-mom. #preciousfilm
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Better to have the knowledge of what can happen, and be aware, then to have no clue and if it happens to have to wonder for the rest of life what the hell happened. #preciousfilm
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She's one of those 13 year old girls who is very young and sheltered for her age. While agree that this is appropriate for some young ladies, this young lady doesn't seem to be ready for it yet. There are other ways to broach the subjects dealt with in this book than to just give it to her. #preciousfilm
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I used to think I was the only kind of sicko kid into that, but hanging around on Jez for over a year, I think almost all of you probably have a similar story. (My jewish friend used to be obsessed with the holocaust.) #preciousfilm
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If reading it creates a dialogue between her and her stepmother or between you two, isn't that a good thing? She won't be sheltered forever, and if she learns that things like what's in Push can happen without them actually happening to her, she obviously has two women in her life whom she trusts enough to bring up these issues with, and then you can talk with her about them. My social studies teacher in 8th grade loaned me his copy of The Bell Jar, which ended up opening a pretty positive dialogue between us about creativity, sensitivity, and depression in relation to each other. Maybe it's not something that people would think was "appropriate" for me, but I thought it was a good experience, and it gave me something to draw on later when I did deal with my own personal depression issues. #preciousfilm
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I envy someone who does not believe that systemic, ingrained abuse and living in hopelessness and fear is not universal. I'd like to check out his worldview sometime. #preciousfilm
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(I think Edelstein is a pompous *ss and I generally don't like to read his writing and don't like to edify it by clicking on his links. Are you going to make me go over there?) #preciousfilm
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Honestly, to me Precious looks like some kind of disadvantage/marginality porn. All this trauma heaped on one girl, and the conclusion is just that she keeps on keeping on. That's it. Granted, it's heroic to keep on after experiences like that but other than checking out totally, what else can the girl do?
I wonder what the point of this movie is. To show us how much worse things could be, so we leave the theatre somehow grateful? #preciousfilm
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In the end I look at this as a window into a life I, personally, don't understand. And I am not necessarily talking about race or socioeconomics, but the abuse. And the fact that a human spirit can survive.
Then again, I also really like depressing movies.
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I can think of worse reasons to make a movie… #preciousfilm
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My initial reaction was that it seemed to portray black people making other black people's lives miserable, without exploring the institutional factors that stack the deck against somebody like Precious. The protagonist finally succeeds by picking herself up by her bootstraps and overcoming her circumstances. I bristle at the insinuation that 'all you have to do is work hard enough and you'll succeed', but I worked hard and escaped an abusive welfare-dependent mother myself, so I guess there is a kernel of truth there. #preciousfilm
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It's not just a story because it features a poor, fat, black girl, so right there it's loaded with major societal issues - poverty, sizeism, race - plus it's got a heap of other major issues like abuse, education, HIV. It's a very heavily loaded film, the Oscar buzz has already started, so there is going to be a lot of discussion about it.
Discussion about these issues is fine with me. But do we really need to see this girl so horribly mistreated to get that discussion going? #preciousfilm
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Because you are an optimist and a genius.
You know that clearly, your mind is needed by the wider culture, so you can't afford to tilt over into the luxury of the despair that would drive you insane. #preciousfilm
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She’s also sexually molested by her jealous, welfare-cheating, gross, and sedentary mother, although the genital fingering might seem preferable to the verbal and physical abuse.
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I mean, come on, Pilgrim, haven't you seen the abuse hierarchy chart? #preciousfilm
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