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    RedHotz: I told my now hubby that I love him on the phone and then immediately hung up the phone on him. I hadn't intended to tell him how I felt yet and was a... more »
    funnyface: No one will see this at this late a date. But anyway, I said I love you to my now-husband about 3 full months before he felt comfortable saying it ba... more »
    Stabby McStabberson: slightly off topic: "These days, Sheila McClear is the lone female Gawker blogger at the site that invented snark." i can promise you, snark was alive... more »
    TurtleSpeak: I don't get this at all... in fact everything she says is the opposite of my experiences... my boyfriend told me he loved me very early on in our rela... more »
    Remedios Varo can't see no huevos.: If Ms. Atterbury is encouraging the reinforcement of gender stereotypes - and it seems like she is - then it's total crap because my first and only gi... more »
    gobblegirl: In my experience, hearing "I love you" is only a problem if you really don't love them back, and think you never will. If you're just "not there yet,"... more »
    Ananelle: Is the dear-in-headlights thing bothering anyone else? Dear is a petname. Deer is an animal. Deers get stuck in headlights. Thank you, that is all. more »
    Aesop's Foibles. YES.: Fuck all that. It's different for everyone. I never in a million years pictured myself saying it first, but wonder of wonders! Mr. terrible and I got ... more »
    Hana Maru, used up old slutbag on the pole: I remember a boyfriend, one of the loves of my life, who said it first to me. I was happy to hear it but said I wanted to wait to know for sure befor... more »
    whynotshesaid: I read this pile of drivel when it was on CNN.com and got so annoyed I would have cursed the writer out had I not been at work. Speaking of which, why... more »
    YourScreenplaySucks: I feel terribly inadequate here amongst all you overflowing with love free spirits. I can't be the only emotionally repressed, control-freakish, sligh... more »
    quietgrrrl: Call me what you will, but I'm not emotionally strong enough to cope with the extreme disbalance of power that results from one party to a relationshi... more »
    tscheese: Every time I've ever said "I love you", I jumped on it first because 1) I'd dated the guy for awhile 2) I knew he was pretty crazy about me and 3) lif... more »
    rmric0.wedding.photographer.and.manny: So a fun related story. The first young woman I really dated told me that she loved me three weeks in. We were sitting in the car outside her house an... more »
    daisen-in: Once again, xkcd cuts to the heart of the matter: [xkcd.com] And WORD Megan. Posts like this speak totally to why I love Jezebel like I do. It absolut... more »
  • #teachyourchildrenwell

    Saying "I Love You" Isn't A Competition

    Wendy Atterbury at The Frisky, where Jezebel is best known for "caterwauling about the patriarchy," has some advice for her daughter (and you). Emotional courage is best reserved for men.