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    clevernamehere: God, that list is terrible. Because then she'll have a trump card? Because she's probably already cheated? Because you care about her? My favorite is ... more »
    linnyt is a walking cliché: I only once ever technically cheated. I was already over the relationship but hadn't really officially ended it. I didn't tell him about sleeping with... more »
    dirtybee: Sigh....have I been cheated on? Not that I know of. And this is my greatest fear - I already have bad abandonment issues, and I don't know if I could ... more »
    I, Zombie Normal: As I read through the comments, it becomes clear that we have a continuum, wherein some of us want to know, some of us don't, some of us want to be to... more »
    Flackette Goes Retro: Whatever you do, for the love of all that is good and holy, don't put your friends in the middle by telling them. If you tell a friend that you cheate... more »
    onomatopizza: If a tree falls in the woods and no one hears it, the tree is still on the effing ground and the tree knows about it. Likewise, if you cheat on your p... more »
    stacyinbean: I've never cheated, and don't know that I'm wired to process the idea of it, so I think I would rather not know unless it was a full time affair for w... more »
    Brigit: The last time I was cheated on I was dating my guy best friend and he was cheating with another friend of mine. Classy, those 2. So she went ahead an... more »
    Flackette Goes Retro: You should tell them. What you should NOT do is have the person you cheated with be the one to break the news, via email. more »
    I, Zombie Normal: I have to say, hearing the words, "it didn't mean anything" does not help matters. For some reason, I can't see cheating in a committed relationship a... more »
    PromQueen: I think the monogamous forever model of marriage is not the generally most reasonable...I wish people could be more honest about their wants and needs... more »
    eleanorstrousers: Honestly, call me old fashioned, but after calling off a wedding when I found out, I'd prefer NOT to have been told, and I would have preferred it eve... more »
    Liz11685: My boyfriend told me a girl tried to kiss him once when I was gone for the summer. I haven't really gotten over it, A. Because I think he is lying abo... more »
    Jack_Burton: In a casual dating relationship: I expect someone else or myself may sleep around a little. I use condoms. In a committed relationship: - I don't chea... more »
    tscheese: I considered fooling around on the side, once. I was in a relationship that was coming to an end, I'd never cheated on anyone before, and I figured I ... more »
  • #yourcheatingheart

    Telling You He's Cheated: Reasons Pro And Con

    When my boyfriend of six years told me he'd been cheating, a friend said, "Why did he tell you? That was so selfish!" AskMen would agree! Common sense? Not so much!