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    Lobstersurprise: What are glittery sweatpants? more »
    ketamineKitty: I prefer the term 'fruit fly' more »
    Pantra: Do people really think gay men make straight women feel better about themselves? I can see how it plays out that way in movies and TV, but in real lif... more »
    royaume de coeur: I have, in the past, called myself a fag hag. And I really don't care - I'm not a person who uses my gay friends to bitch about men and/or to drag on ... more »
    rednrowdy: this may sound antiquated, but i feel like the term 'fag hag' or 'gay boyfriend' is a way for a straight woman to let the world know "yes, he's not pl... more »
    clevernamehere: When I was 18 I became friends with a recently out of the closet (and recently off the farm) gay boy. I absolutely hated it when he tried to call me ... more »
    Katxyz: I find it interesting that Grace from Will and Grace is always portrayed as some quintessential gay collector or "fag hag" when I never got that impre... more »
    Katxyz: Women who make a huge deal about having gay friends, whether by using terms like "fag hag" or "my gays" or chatting about them all the time (while unn... more »
    dcdulce: Back in the 90s I was a fag hag lezzie. I was a fixture at the gay clubs..I loved the glitz and the glam. I loved my gay menz--the majority of my frie... more »
    bibomaco: Makes me think of "Stuff white people like" "It is also worth noting that a gay friendship of any sort allows white people to feel as though they are... more »
    Tippi Hedren: A friend is a friend is a friend. Using silly, out-dated terms to label your friendships seems unnecessary at best. more »
    SisterRay73: Consider Clueless. Cher thought she was going to lose her virginity to Christian until he was revealed as being a "cake boy" by Murray, which neither ... more »
    hfree: The first time I heard the term used was in "Fame" and it wasn't used nicely. I've avoided it since. As someone said downthread, both "fag" and "hag... more »
    CherriSpryte: I'm a big fan of "fruit fly" rather than "fag hag" - less insulting to both parties! As to the nature of the relationship between straight women and g... more »
    emfish55: "Men got the appearance of heterosexual legitimacy and intimacy free of sexual tension; women got a touch of glamour and performance and exoticism." ... more »
  • #graceunderfire

    Is It Time To Retire The Term "Fag Hag?"

    Popularized by Margaret Cho and Will & Grace, the archetype of the "fag hag" once had something to offer both gay men and straight women. Now, says Thomas Rogers at Salon, its time is up. More »
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