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more about #selfesteem more comments → Ultraprison!: I'm from the Tim Gunn school of positive self-talk: every time I'm up against a tough situation, I tell myself "make it work." Actually, kind of shock... more » WantToTouchtheWahine: Also, if I were a participant in this study, and the person told me I had to tell myself I was lovable 16 times in 4 minutes, I'd be frickin' ANNOYED.... more » WantToTouchtheWahine: OK, here's my take, as a budding mental health professional... In addition to what you fabulous ladies have mentioned, I think positive self-talk gets... more » TheFormerJuneBronson: I hate to admit this, but I've always thought that positive self talk, as a stand-alone therapy, was for the stupid. If you have internal resources at... more » Rare Affinity: Third parties giving positive feedback usually don't immediately undermine their message with criticism. more » labeled: Best tip for feeling better about, well, everything: Smile. It changes your brain chemistry and tricks you into being happier. Count me in the manipu... more » battleaxonista...is a humorless bitch: I think that only works if you negate your negative thought with something positive, that you actually believe . When I fuck something up I don't go ... more » SevenNationArmy: Does this mean I finally get to be on Girls with low self-esteem?! more » Ailanthus-altissima: I have never tried positive self talk. Instead, I make others compliment me using an intricate web of threats and emotional manipulation. more » clairedeloony: My mom's side of the family is totally into excessive praise. It weirds me out. No, I do NOT look stunningly fabulous in my Christmas-at-Grandma's swe... more » greengrey: Positive self talk is such bull shit. When you feel bad, just drink. Whatever happened to drinking? more » BearDownCBears: Duly noted, but I'm gonna have to throw this out as a counterexample: + Watch video more » Penny: "Positive" talk makes me feel like a doof, because it's fake. I've found it's much better to put myself in perspective. Like, "hey, you hate your jo... more » tallgirl-in-heels: This is similar to why I've always thought the "you get a trophy just for showing up" theory of instilling good self-esteem in kids was troublesome. G... more » LindsayC: doctoral hilarity ensues: Fans of Red Dwarf already knew this: more » -
#leggomyego
Positive Self-Talk Makes People Feel Worse
Perhaps unsurprisingly for anyone who's ever tried to pull herself out of a funk by chanting affirmations at her mirror, such positive self-talk might actually lower some people's self-esteem. More » -
#beautytreatment
Plastic Surgery, Contact Lenses, And Why I'm Not My 13-Year-Old Self
Swapping glasses for contacts — or a more extreme step, plastic surgery — can make kids more confident. But is changing appearance really a lasting answer to confidence problems? We take a trip into our own childhoods to find out.
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#notesfromthebattlefield
Personal Insecurities, Public Spaces
Katie Drummond at True/Slant has an interview with Caitlin, the brains behind Operation Beautiful, which encourages women to leave encouraging notes for other women in public areas as a way to boost our collective self esteem. More » -
#therealhousewivesofnewyork
Countess LuAnn Tells 10-Year-Old Girl To Lose Weight
On last night's episode of Real Housewives, the charitable Countess attended an after-school program to talk to preteen girls about the importance of confidence and self-esteem. Then she told one of them to lose weight. More » -
#kidstoday
Study: Students Pretty Much Expect B's For Breathing
Today in the NYT's American-youth-are-spineless-pampered-losers — uh, we mean Education — section, we find that many college students expect good grades just for showing up. More » -
#kidstoday
Should Teens Get Plastic Surgery To Boost Their Self-Esteem?
More teenagers are getting plastic surgery in the hope that it will make them look "normal," but can you get self-esteem from a scalpel? More » -
