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    Her Grace: I'm pretty sympathetic to her story. I met my girlfriend online at the tender age of 15 (she was almost-14 then), and fell for her over the next four... more »
    msAnthrope: stories like this just remind me how lucky i really am. i met the love of my life, my current partner, when he was my next-door neighbor. more »
    Sayachan: Like others have noted, it's not the distance that makes this unnerving, it's the fact that she lied about a business trip to come see him. Why not ju... more »
    The Queen of No: I find myself more often than not building a house of cards with new guys I get involved with. I make myself more unavailable than I am and keep thing... more »
    rocknrollunicorn: I once paid $200 or so to push a flight back a day last-minute so I could have one more night with this English guy who was leaving for Australia soon... more »
    Uncommon Whore: Ugh. Totally different, and yet somehow completely paralleling something I have been going through. But if you don't go out on a limb and try then yo... more »
    lip_my_stocking: Although what she did was a little crazy, think if the awesome experience she had. My grandmother ran away with a man to Russia, and although she was ... more »
    tscheese: I met a guy from the Internets once. It required a ride on Amtrak into the next state over. He was a friend of a real-life friend and they'd been clos... more »
    shewar: Yeah, I relate too. Though I've not dropped 3k at once in pursuit of love, the number of drinks and cab rides I've paid for while dating in the past y... more »
    restless: Whoa, that is bad. Everyone feels lonely at times, esp. in the Capital of Lonely Heartsvile, NYC, but blowing that kind of cash under such a flimsy pr... more »
    Mediokra: Modern Love is usually full of crazies. The woman in this week's essay actually seemed a little more grounded. I'm not exactly defending her rather de... more »
    Sophie needs to study...damn: And this is why, when I email a guy, building him up in my mind, I wait for HIM to buy the plane ticket. That's how I visited Miami in Nov. If someone... more »
    TurtleWexlerKickedMe: Honestly? I admire this woman. Very few people make "big gestures" like this when it comes to romance. I did something sort of similar-ish (met someon... more »
    howdybeep (runs with monkey wrenches): I have a friend in Australia. We've chatted for years. I've never met him; chickened out of meeting him when he was in SoCal a couple of years ago. Th... more »
    LaComtesse: I find this less horrible and sad than the more common scenario of spending years and years with someone you don't love, does not fulfill you and who ... more »
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    This Week's "Modern Love" Will Make You Cringe

    I think a lot of us can see ourselves in this week's essay - that is, the version that spends three grand to travel across the world to see a man we've never met. More »
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