• more about #lovefool more comments →
    Rooo sez BISH PLZ: I think this would be a different question if women had in fact achieved universal pay equity. But we haven't. more »
    Lawyerette will perform legal services for food: Karbo's article bothers me in so many ways. I can see how sexism, chauvanism, and "gender roles" are largely about earning power, not just gender; Kar... more »
    Ratinski: Given that I'm a librarian, it is highly unlikely that hypothetical husband would earn less than me, especially in New York (and there's no way in hel... more »
    chiken: I make about twice as much money as my husband, and I like it that way. He is naturally frugal, but he doesn't say anything about my shopping habits b... more »
    MJ: I actually agree with her. It *is* more fun to date a man than to marry him. Maybe that's a reality only those of us who have been married and divorc... more »
    SarahMC: I think it's completely fair and understandable that a breadwinning woman with a partner would expect said partner to compensate for the financial ine... more »
    PurplePeopleEater: This is a little off topic, but when I was a nosy preteen, I found a letter my dad had written my mom saying, basically, thank you for giving everythi... more »
    bklyn155: "the house that was purchased with my money, in my name". I always wondered if in our journey toward recognized equality with men, we wouldn't run the... more »
    happysquid: I think that the issue with this SHOULD be: Where are the guys who are NOT deadbeats or mysogynist pigs? I do have to echo the sentiment that it seems... more »
    Liz11685: I think this just goes to show how essential it is for people to discuss in depth their expectations for married life BEFORE there is a ring involved.... more »
    pink-india-ink: Y'know, as infuriating as it may be, that is actually the self-described point of Modern Love -- for individuals to explore/document their personal ex... more »
    SarahMcL: My mom went to Radcliffe in 1969, worked for feminist org.s and publications, got married at 20, had me and my siblings, divorced my dad in the early ... more »
    Aardvarko: I'm the breadwinner in my family, and have been for 10 of the 12 years we've been together. It's due to legal and personal problems, and we stay toge... more »
    clairedeloony: I experienced life as a pampered princess. It was called being raised by my parents. As a result, I am skeptical of anyone who wants to give me lots o... more »
    RainbowBrite: There are so many things wrong with this that I don't even know where to start. The idea that women should expect to be "taken care of"? Lamenting hav... more »
  • #lovefool

    Modern Love: Deadbeats Or Sugar Daddies, Our Only Choices!

    "I still would love to experience life as a pampered princess, at least once." Alas, for "the accidental breadwinner," it's not to be!
  • #modernlove

    "Modern Love" Takes On The Mother In Law Cliché... And Shatters It