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    whynotshesaid: Am I one of the few who actually read the whole article? Some of the biggest points I took away from it is that a lot of relationship counseling is b... more »
    DinaRonson : Elizabeth Cady Stanton: Godamnit. We all know relationships require work, but I can not commit to reading an article that gives me a case of AADD. more »
    Pavonine1: "Why such passivity? What did we all fear?" I am not married myself, and am certainly no expert on long-term relationships, but I think that people s... more »
    jrhys: I'm just thrilled that the marriage between the writer's navel and her gaze is in doing so well. more »
    Lizard in the Wires - Please, call it hamburger time.: I don't think my blood pressure could take the whole article. Just the IDEA that you're eating fancy foods instead of saving for your children's colle... more »
    rixatrix: I went through all 10 pages of this article, and the best I can come up with is that she seems like a woman with a good life who's hung up on the fant... more »
    carden.l.griscom: "There are things about my husband that drive me crazy. Last spring he cut apart a frozen pig’s head with his compound miter saw in our basement. He... more »
    Dorawithanattitude: My grandma was fond of saying "Looking for trouble will get you exactly that- trouble." All kidding aside, yes people need to put some effort into a... more »
    hotpinklovesofa: Here's the best advice to improving any relationship: say thank you as much as you say I love you. Appreciate the person you're with through simple a... more »
    sanssoucis321: This seems a little like...I don't know. Trying too hard? Perhaps as a 21-year old recent college grad who can't seem to make a relationship last mor... more »
    LaPaperGirl: Oh, man. You know, do what you need to do and all, but this needling and poking and fixing and managing and "perfecting" life is just such a colossal ... more »
    JayBird: I thought it was an interesting article, and Ms. Wiel is certianly brave to expose herself to such ridicule. May I say that they both sound quite spo... more »
    TheUptightMidwesterner: If you stare at anything long enough, you are gonna find some cracks and flaws. This lady could make the entire cast of "Thirtysomething " roll their ... more »
    meritxell: an erotic life: UGH STFUmarrieds. PS you can get pretentious food at Trader Joe's for like 1/69th of what you're paying for it. more »
    LutherNipperkin: Everyone keeps telling me that marriage is a ton of work. Then I read things like this, where people aren't sure whether or not they're miserable, so... more »
    woodsey: This seems to me like a very bourgeois experiment - to go to expensive therapists and discuss your frustration with the expensive cooking and golf com... more »
    NerD: Blattella: There is a saying my grandmother used to say in situations like this: "No revuelva la sopa" I apologize for the bad translation, it essentially mean... more »
    futuremrsrickankiel: I got engaged two weeks ago, so I've started reading stuff like this with a less cynical eye than I used to... more than anything, this woman seems to... more »
    la.donna.pietra: I went to UC Santa Cruz. I lived in Berkeley for 3 1/2 years. A not-insignificant portion of my wardrobe is organic cotton or hemp. I am a vegetari... more »
    geeurock: This reminds me of an episode of This American Life where a man applied his business experience to his marriage. He had his wife fill out customer sa... more »
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    NY Times Writer Takes On Marriage, Pig Ears.

    If the unexamined life isn't worth living, well, this writer's in serious luck. The rest of us? Judge for yourselves (and no, that wasn't snark): More »
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    "He Took Me In His Arms, And Staring Into My Eyes, He Said Words That Took My Breath Away"