• more about #isecondthatemotion more comments →
    Jack_Burton: How can I be me, and you, you - if we are clinging to fantasies of how we fill each others' emptiness? I want someone who is first, herself, and expec... more »
    alphabetcookies: There is an entire book about this subject, which I found FASCINATING and it is called "Loneliness" and goes into all the sciency/brain stuff involved... more »
    exelizabeth: My first college boyfriend once said something about how there are people who are really affected by the moods of their partners, and those who aren't... more »
    Scout: Do we need YET ANOTHER "syndrome" - these fucking quacks and all their creating mental illness acronyms for the variant behaviour that is being human.... more »
    Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC: Does this apply to all relationships including family and friends? If that's the case, then, yeppers my hand is firmly held high. I couldn't sleep las... more »
    TheGintheCity: Can I raise my hand if I put too much emotional weight on the fact that I do NOT have a relationship? I'm generally fine with being single, but lately... more »
    morninggloria: I have found that the less I like a guy I'm dating, the better the relationship. I'm fucked up! more »
    TheFormerJuneBronson: Wait, those American Greetings ads on public TV would have me believe that connections make life worthwhile. You mean that my misanthropy may have act... more »
    tscheese: I think there's a difference between counting on someone, and supporting them, and letting down your guard and relying on them...and acting like a whi... more »
    Mkp-hearts-NYC: *raises hand* Me, I had to really learn to differentiate what I was feeling from what I was relating to when someone else is feeling something. I was ... more »
    girlontop: So, basically, when an important part of your life is going badly, you feel badly about it? And this is...bad? Isn't this like saying "stress at work ... more »
    tscheese: I had a really really long term relationship that ended because I ultimately just didn't have enough space, metaphorically or physically. Wonderful gu... more »
    NefariousNewt: All together now: DUH!!!! Of course we do -- our relationships are important to us. We want them to be as strong as the ones we have (or never had) wi... more »
    LimitedLiabilityGirl: You know, there's being over-sensitive, and then there's...having normal intimate friendships/relationships in which THE OTHER PERSON'S OKAY-NESS MATT... more »
    The Queen of No: In other news, bears shit in the woods and the Pope is Catholic. But really, I always feel like I place too much on relationships. I always think, "he... more »
  • #relationships

    Stinking Thinking