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    tribalpanda: When applied to crazy relatives and scary ex-boyfriends, the colors can also be viewed like the Homeland Security terror threat scale more »
    sequined: Can I use this like a new base system? "Dudes, Pete and I hit levels 3, 5, 6, and 10 yesterday!" more »
    midwestdesigner: My emails are waaay more "personal" than my text messages, as I am an old who is slow to realize I have texts and it takes me forever to send them bac... more »
    ImDatNinja (loves her Red Sox): Where is Jez Stalker on this diagram? I demand a recount!! more »
    wtfox?!: It seems like they're walking a line between "intimacy" and "proximity." With a letter, there's still a physical distance and an inability to see the ... more »
    dissolver: I don't quite get how a letter is so high up the intimacy scale, which may be revealing my status as a child of the technology age, but whatever. I un... more »
    Grim Reaper of the Forest: For me "sex" with no modifier mean PiV, oral sex means oral sex, and anal sex means anal sex. That doesn't mean one type is less bad, or more intimat... more »
    nessalicious: Does that mean when I got naked and fooled around me and my manfriend(s) slept together? Oy vey. *goes off to recalculate notches on bedpost* more »
    debbyherbenick: This is a great discussion to have and I think its great, Megan, that you raised the issue. There is not one definition of "sex" nor do I think there ... more »
    clevernamehere: The study dealt with college students and oral sex is a pretty common delaying tactic because there is no risk of pregnancy. The idea that oral sex do... more »
    cirocco: Saying that oral sex is not sex is like saying hand lotion is not lotion, compact cars are not cars, and screen doors are not doors. I just can't wra... more »
    HereComesMyBaby: Oh no! If oral counts as sex, then I am REALLY slutty. more »
    Madlenka: If the skinemax soft porns I've watched are any indication, sex happens when an cop goes undercover at a strip club and ends up falling for the perp s... more »
    jeninmotion: The number of people who think lesbians don't/can't have "real" sex (and define sex by the presence of penis) in this thread is kind of squicking me. ... more »
    hollygirl: Interesting topic- what is sex? Only thing I can add is, I would not say I've "fucked" the guys I've given blow jobs to... more »
  • #thetwits

    Communication Studies

    This colorful chart details the 10 levels of intimacy in modern communication from talking to Twitter. We have one gripe: shouldn't letters be higher on the intimacy scale, with their evidence of personal handling and obvious effort? [BuzzFeed]
  • #definitionofis

    Few People Agree On The Definition Of Sex

    When a friend tells you she's not yet had sex with someone, what do you take that to mean? In all truth, studies show that the two of you might be thinking very different things. More »
  • #tampons

    The Importance Of Being Able To Change Your Period Products In "Public"