• more about #definitionofis
    Grim Reaper of the Forest: For me "sex" with no modifier mean PiV, oral sex means oral sex, and anal sex means anal sex. That doesn't mean one type is less bad, or more intimat... more »
    nessalicious: Does that mean when I got naked and fooled around me and my manfriend(s) slept together? Oy vey. *goes off to recalculate notches on bedpost* more »
    debbyherbenick: This is a great discussion to have and I think its great, Megan, that you raised the issue. There is not one definition of "sex" nor do I think there ... more »
    clevernamehere: The study dealt with college students and oral sex is a pretty common delaying tactic because there is no risk of pregnancy. The idea that oral sex do... more »
    cirocco: Saying that oral sex is not sex is like saying hand lotion is not lotion, compact cars are not cars, and screen doors are not doors. I just can't wra... more »
    HereComesMyBaby: Oh no! If oral counts as sex, then I am REALLY slutty. more »
    Madlenka: If the skinemax soft porns I've watched are any indication, sex happens when an cop goes undercover at a strip club and ends up falling for the perp s... more »
    jeninmotion: The number of people who think lesbians don't/can't have "real" sex (and define sex by the presence of penis) in this thread is kind of squicking me. ... more »
    hollygirl: Interesting topic- what is sex? Only thing I can add is, I would not say I've "fucked" the guys I've given blow jobs to... more »
    victoriasauce: It's not sex unless you're playing "Boyz II Men" more »
    jeepgirl: I prefer to call sex "hiking the Appalacian Trail". Sounds so much more wholesome that way. more »
    Dodgergirl: It's my understanding that a number of things have to have happen in sex: two people who love each other very much knock boots together, and then perf... more »
    morninggloria: Boyfriend says that it's sex if it "breaks the plane." more »
    PreposterousHypothesis: I think sex, to an extent, is individually defined. For me, it's PiV, but I'm not saying that definition is universal, considering it's from my own he... more »
    MB14: Of course oral sex is sex. But I cannot fault Clinton for his lie. In my book the state has nothing to do with your private life, even if you live in ... more »
    morninggloria: I view the giving of oral sex to be more intimate an act than the having of the penis inserted into the vagina. There's a degree of skill involved wit... more »
    kemperboyd: I have a friend who claimed not to have slept with a girl because although he put his penis in her, he didn't move it and took it straight back out. more »
    GayRobotsRUS: ...Mark Sanford, who said yesterday he'd not had sex with anyone else but had danced with other women when married men ought not do that. Define "danc... more »
    victoriasauce: Oral isn't "sex" but I'll be damned if it isn't cheating. One of my best girlfriends recently had a guy cheat on her and she forgave him because he di... more »
    BrutallyHonestBabes (aka Mrs. Sarah.of.a.Lesser.Hobbit): Well, you know it's fornication when baby Jesus cries. Does that help? more »
  • #definitionofis

    Few People Agree On The Definition Of Sex

    When a friend tells you she's not yet had sex with someone, what do you take that to mean? In all truth, studies show that the two of you might be thinking very different things. More »