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    Peebers says what?: Kate, though I totally agree with your assessment of guys not owning a woman’s rape, I do also feel the need to defend their vengeful feelings a lit... more »
    UrbanAchiever: I applaud the non-violent and instructive tone of this post and most of the comments - the sentiment and experiences related are humbling. As a woman ... more »
    Mushu_the_educated_whale: That guide on approaching straight women is sheer brilliance. I want every frustrated single dude I know to read it. Ah, facebook, where would my agen... more »
    rustbelt: It was twenty years ago, and yet he thinks about it daily? There are lots of lesser people and important tasks in my life that I don't even think abou... more »
    AwesomeJerkface: You know the most ironic part about the need to punish sexual violence with gross violence by a righteous straight male defender is that the justice s... more »
    boxspelunker: I have never been raped. I am lucky in that regard, as there have been a few... close-ish calls. I can't say what would have happened had I not gott... more »
    erinunderground: when i decided to tell someone what had happened to me, it was over a year after i had been raped. i told my older brother because he was, at the tim... more »
    curiousgeorgiana: Kate-- this is amazing. And that last full paragraph is so right on, I gave you a fist bump right in my living room. I've overcome my rape on most l... more »
    SUNNY1: "His anger at the friend who "let it happen," as though rape is anyone's fault but the rapist's?" I normally agree with this, but after that Richmond... more »
    sybann: I sent Cary an email about this one: the guy's issues made me feel hinky - like she was a soiled POSSESSION instead of a person. I reminded Cary that ... more »
    Glitterbug (likes life shaken, not stirred): Kate, You just put into words exactly what subconsciously bothers me about this - something that I didn't even REALISE bothered me, until you pointed... more »
    DarcyMcCarbomb: The part that sent off alarms in my head was how Guy admits he blames present-day actions of his wife on her rape. It seems like he's mad (or upset, ... more »
    Susan B.: The turtle thing? I heart your dad. And you, but others here have already covered that :) #carytennis more »
    kookla: I have nothing else to add, except to say, those last two paragraphs were amazingly on point. Brava! #carytennis more »
    whynotshesaid: Yes! The part where you say that much of this guy's anger (which reads as though he feels like he has been personally violated) has to do with the fa... more »
    AgnesGrep: I enjoy Cary Tennis but he doesn't call people on their shit like Prudence does. "I wonder about the details. I'm angry at the friend who let it happ... more »
    ladyM2000: To Guy: This woman is NOT. YOUR. PROPERTY. She does not belong to you. She is your wife, not your child. You do not need to protect her. Stop obsessi... more »
    librariesare4lovers: On the point of educating men not to rape- for the past few night I have seen this PSA run on tv: [www.youtube.com] It's was defiantly filmed on a l... more »
    yvanehtnioj: Um, Kate? I like you a lot. #carytennis more »
    Scoithniamh: I am a blackberry addict. My data usage minutes are in the tens of thousands every month (unlimited plan, whatwhat!) (Though I hate actually talking ... more »
  • #goodadvice

    Not That You Asked: Some Advice For An Advice Columnist

    Salon advice columnist Cary Tennis mostly gets blogosphere attention when his answers are WTF-laden, but today I'd like to praise him for getting it right, in response to a guy who's obsessed with his wife's rape. Well, mostly. Partly. Whatever. More »
  • #modernlove

    "I Am Fed Up With Feeling Like A Secondhand Citizen To Gadgets!"

    "My boyfriend's an iPhone addict!" complains one letter-writer to Salon's Cary Tennis. Lady (or gent?): Join the club. [Salon]
  • #consumerretorts

    Advice On Advice: Rating Internet Advice Columns

    Advice columns are a little like cats: they may not actually do much, but they're fun to look at. Also like cats, not all advice columns are created equal. After the jump, we grade a few of the major players. More »
  • #wtf

    Guy Who Put Hot Sauce In Used Condoms May Need Therapy, Swift Kick In The Balls

    Say you're having sex with a woman, but you're worried that, being a lying, baby-hungry female, she might secretly impregnate herself with the used condom. Your solution: hot sauce. More »
  • #eliotmess

    Is Seeing Prostitutes A Deal Breaker?

  • #letsgetphysical

  • #licensetowed

    Should A Woman Take Her Husband's Name?

  • #craprequestfromadude

    "I Think You Should E-mail My Wife And Apologize"