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    Cliff Hanger

    "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals

    Swallowing Rings: Or, The Hazards Of Proposing Marriage During A Meal

    Would You Ask A Man To Marry You?

    Not So Modest Proposals
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    Image of girlgonemild girlgonemild
    09/08/09

    In reply to Cliff Hanger
    Outdoorsy proposals are dangerous business! An ex of mine (now a marriage counsellor but that's another story) took his girlfriend canoeing on Lake Superior with the intention of proposing. They would up getting lost out in the lake and having to be airlifted from the boat by the Coast Guard. I'm not sure when the actual proposal wound up occurring, as I imagine it's kind of difficult to slide a ring on a frostbitten finger.
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    09/08/09

    In reply to Cliff Hanger
    She must have been head over hills in love with him.
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    Image of Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana
    09/08/09

    @CurtCole: She wasn't looking for a relationship when they met, but she just tumbled right into it anyway...
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    09/08/09

    @CurtCole: Some people just fall hard.
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    09/08/09

    @CurtCole:

    I just hope it doesn't lead into a rocky marriage.
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    09/08/09

    @rixatrix: Something tells me their wedding song will be Carole King's I Feel the Earth Move.
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    Image of Ailatan Ailatan
    09/08/09

    @CurtCole: I wish them lots of happiness and I hope they are still together when they are over the hill.
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    Image of CurtCole CurtCole
    09/08/09

    @Ailatan: I'm sure, like with every relationship, it will have its peaks and valleys.
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    Image of DuckDuckGoose DuckDuckGoose
    09/08/09

    @CurtCole: He certainly boulder over.
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    09/08/09

    @CurtCole: Was she inclined to accept? Last time she was tilted at the altar.
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    Image of ImproperDancing ImproperDancing
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    I have a friend like this who always thinks the guy she's with is THE ONE and somehow the guy at the time always wants to spend the rest of his life with her...buuuut the relationships always fall apart,they turn over at an incredible rate(i.e. there's a new guy every few months), are really complicated, blah blah blah...but they are always completely enamored with her.


    I don't understand this phenomenon...I've been with my guy for over a year with minimal complications and no marriage proposal in sight. We're going at a steady pace knowing that neither one of us are ready for that kind of commitment for at least 8 more years(I'm 21 he's 23).


    It makes me question the sincerity of my friend's significant others.

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    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    Anyone who regards marriage as some kind of "should" or "must do by X age" is already practically swathed in red flags anyway.


    Preach! My best friend just told me she's moving back to her hometown to be "supportive" and help her to her horrible, negative, miserable family thru a bunch of silly DRAMA! and (wait for it) increase her chances to find a husband. After all, she IS 30 now and time is running out!


    ::eyeroll::

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    Image of Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    The question this woman longs to be asked:


    Would you like fries with that?

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    Image of royaume de coeur royaume de coeur
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    I couldn't get past the first line to even read about this woman.


    "It's the question every woman longs to be asked..."


    YEAH FAIL.

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    Image of HuckleberryFriend HuckleberryFriend
    02/20/09

    @royaume de coeur: No kidding. It's the question this jeezie is terrified of being asked!
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    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    I think proposals are weird in general. This is supposedly about a lifelong commitment-it seems to me there might be more success if people entered into it after a discussion...
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    Image of Shamrockette Shamrockette
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    I feel sorry for all those women who aren't self-assured and they attract the douchebags who want to "put their mark" on them. I hope they all eventually find nice guys to spend their lives with.


    I'm proud of my strong personality and even if it doesn't give me more guys for the taking, at least I can weed out the unworthy ones and find the worthy guys.

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    Image of Miss. Money-Sterling Miss. Money-Sterling
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    Is she counting the proposals that come wrapped in catcalls as you're walking down the street? Because if you count those, I've got her beat by about a THOUSAND. What can I say, there were a lot of winos on the corner of my old block.
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    Image of Beat Girl Beat Girl
    02/20/09

    @Miss. Money-Sterling: Yeah, I've been offered to many young men as a wife. This is only because I am very, very nice to homeless folk and drunks.
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    Image of Trashtastic Trashtastic
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    The poet laureate, Ludacris, said it best: "They want a lady in the street, but a freak in da bed!"


    YEAH.

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    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    My boyfriend has asked me to marry him a dozen times or more. But I'm not engaged, so I don't know what that says.


    Maybe we drink together too much.

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    Image of sylvie calls shotgun!! sylvie calls shotgun!!
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    Adele, it's not the number of proposals you get it's the quality of the person making the proposal.


    I no likey this lady.

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    Image of SunburnedCounsel SunburnedCounsel
    02/20/09

    @sylvie calls shotgun!!: Did you read the article. Because that's her whole point.
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    02/20/09

    @SunburnedCounsel: There should be a question mark in there.
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    Image of tscheese tscheese
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    I get gay-marriage proposals here on Jezebel on the daily. It makes a lady feel special.


    But seriously. I kind of don't mind this. The lady realized she was being kind of a doormat, then said "I'm going to start being myself", and then it sounds like she had some much better relationships. What bugs me is the OTHER ladies mentioned in the article, who are so DESPERATE to have their long-term boyfriends propose. Why don't they actually talk about it with their significant others? If you are simply ITCHING to get hitched, and your partner is terrified of marriage, um, aren't there maybe some issues to address there?


    Also, it's the 21st freakin' century. If you and your partner are ready to commit for reals, and he just hasn't popped the question yet, YOU CAN ASK HIM.

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    02/20/09

    @tscheese: Or you know TALK ABOUT IT
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    Image of slowpoke.r slowpoke.r
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    Having never once been proposed to- even by my now-husband (we just decided together one night, no ring or knees involved)- I think this has a lot to do with the social group that one is part of. The vast majority if not all of my coupled friends have co-habited for years or even decades before marrying, and many have not and will not ever marry each other. But I have cousins who are more, um, mainstream? traditional? I don't know a good neutral term for it, but they and their friends and siblings were ALL married by 26, kids by 30, etc.


    Not saying it's not about the woman herself, but that the expectations of a particular social group play a big role in whether marriage/ engagement is valued and/ or expected.

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    Image of Khrushchev Khrushchev
    02/20/09

    In reply to "Marriage Magnet" Doesn't Impress Women Who Aren't Impressed By Multiple Proposals
    What about when you think they're talking about marriage to you as a hypothetical, and you are like, "Yes, that would be nice, to eat breakfast together sometimes," and then suddenly they're like, "I think you should take my last name"? Because that shit is awful. I don't know what I'm trying to say here.
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    Image of KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins
    02/20/09

    @Khrushchev: Like you stumbled upon a conversation you really weren't aware you were having?
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    02/20/09

    @KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins: Precisely.
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    Image of HuckleberryFriend HuckleberryFriend
    02/20/09

    @Khrushchev: lol yeah my boyfriend does that. He's older than me, so for him I think it's more of a pressing time issue, whereas I'm just like "yeah, I'll get around to it eventually- hey, let's go to Korea!" He is often unimpressed.
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    02/20/09

    @Khrushchev: Oh woof. Its like conversational relationship entrapment. It's difficult to put the brakes on that kind of chit chat, there is no easy way to steer it back to eggs and waffles.
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