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The Final Frontier: Can A Woman Ever Wink?

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Red-headed bookworm
12/10/08

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Um, I'm sorry, but I couldn't get past the first part... It does not "beg the quetion"!!

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Sorry, just a pet peeve. Now I'm going to read the rest of it.
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lisas
12/10/08

@Red-headed bookworm: Truth, and dammit we need the original meaning of beg the question. In this case, you could easily go with "raises the question" without causing philosophy nerds to furrow their brows.
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Maulleigh
12/10/08

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Oh man! You're killing me here! I love winking and it was one of my new years resolutions (to learn how to wink)!

When I was a kid, I'd see my aunt very rarely as we lived far away. But one of the coolest things about her was she always winked at me!! And I loved it!

Sometimes it can be a nervous tick with me, like if I catch someones eye but didn't mean to. It says, "I'm no threat." Cuz I'm not.
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Scout
12/10/08

@Maulleigh: I've been winking since I learned about flirting.....when I was 8

This whole "Winking Palin" crap is ruining my STYLE MAN!!!!

craptastic

Yet, it is such a part of me, I'm literally unable to stop them and now wonder if people think me a female douche
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brendastarlet is on it
12/10/08

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William F. Buckley winked at me once. I am not making this up. I was about 18, and he came to speak at my college. It obviously made an impression.

But women winking? If you're Mae West or Dita Von Teese, absolutely. I think it has to be done with humor and sultriness.
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morninggloria
12/10/08

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I can't wink, so instead, when I'm flirting or joking around, I make a fish face and put my hands to the side of my head to emulate fins.
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PhDork
12/10/08

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Winking bad. No wink. No more typing "wink."
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braak
12/10/08

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Yeah, I don't know. A woman winking at me is...kind of exciting. I dig it.

I was appalled when Palin did it in a debate, but I think the reasons for that are obvious.
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Mmmmkay (gellin' and Jezebelin)
12/10/08

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"We are WINC.. Witches In Natures Colors. WINC!"

Oh Jane Lynch I love you so.
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morninggloria
12/10/08

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What about Cover Girls? They are winking all the time.
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VigilanteKitteh
12/10/08

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My cat winks at us all the time...what should we make of that?
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hellosunshine
12/10/08

@VigilanteKitteh: Well, that's just plain adorable.
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Mkp-hearts-NYC
12/10/08

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...I can't read these comments without winking. It's apparently like yawning.
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tscheese
12/10/08

@Mkp-hearts-Cheesy-Potatoes-(and also NYC): Oh (yaaawwwwn) THANKS A LOT. Now I can't stop yawning.
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Mkp-hearts-NYC
12/10/08

@tscheese: *yawns*

Fuck. WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?
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Political Party Girl
12/10/08

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When I was a waitress, I somehow picked up a winking habit. Like, "I'll be right back with your drinks!" *WINK* I think it was all part of my false, cheery, serving-you-food-is-the-best-thing-ever... persona I adopted. I did it to men and women and cringed afterward every time. But it usually elicited a smile from a customer (although sometimes a glare from a wife or girlfriend).
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angryblackgurl
12/10/08

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I was looking forward to a Palin free life, guess I was wrong!
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exelizabeth
12/10/08

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For serious? I think if you sneak someone a sly wink, it's cute. I mean, assuming it's someone you want to be "in" with (hence when someone you don't know does it to you, it's creepy).

I go through phases of winking when I flirt, I didn't think I was deing so deeply inappropriate!
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bluebears
12/10/08

@exelizabeth: yeah me too. i don't get it. and also why so many rules? you know? bit irritating.
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Wit is periodically disensouled
12/10/08

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Winking works if it's a conspiratorial thing -- like person A catches that person B caught on to something and person A winks at person B to let them know that they're on the same page. No, I will not draw a diagram.
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XandraCulver
12/10/08

@Wit: A wink has to be subtle and quick, in order to communicate conspiratorial agreement, shared amusement or sly flirtation. Palin committed the worst sin of winking; she scrunched up her face like someone had shot her in the eye with a rubber band (without her glasses on). Forced wink = FAIL. Go practice in front of the mirror until you can do it without thinking. If you can't make it happen, don't bother trying; you don't want to end up looking like Sarah. (She looks so ridiculous in that picture I almost feel sorry for her.)
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Grim Reaper of the Forest
12/10/08

@Wit: B : -> A, A : B : A, A ;) -> B, B :))

Yeah, too hard.
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Wit is periodically disensouled
12/10/08

@treecut...Grim Reaper of the forest: A valiant attempt, though!
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Wit is periodically disensouled
12/10/08

@XandraCulver: I don't disagree. I very nearly had to be physically restrained from attacking the tv when Palin pulled her winking shit during the debates. It tried to be cute and conspiratorial, but came off as contrived, clownish... even condescending. (No, I cannot think of a word to describe it that doesn't begin with a C.) I was offended as a female and as a human being with a functioning mind.
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msAnthrope
12/10/08

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sarah palin's wink just made me roll my eyes, mostly because it seemed force and phony... not something she ordinarily did, but i wasn't nearly as offended by that as i was by mcCain's insistence on not making eye contact with obama.

context is everything, but i can't say i've ever been offended or threatened by a wink. why give a goofy facial gesture such power?
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