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Oversharing, Undersharing, And Why People Should Have Opposite-Sex Friends
Problem Child
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so i don't know if opposite-sex friends solves the problems. could be, the communication style of each could drive the other slightly insane.
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Plus, the oversharing isn't the issue. It's your audience. And there should be some discrimination in who you talk to, and how many people you talk to, about your personal issues. The depth of the issues you address should be gagued individually.
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I find it very useful to have a male perspective on some of these issues, because my communication style is a bit more stereotypically masculine (meaning: I will NOT talk unless I'm drunk, and I can't really deal with people telling me the 'nice' thing instead of the true thing). But then again, that's a matter of personality. By no means has every girl group I've known been passive-aggressive in the way my current group of female friends tends to be.
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I also love people who overshare with me. There's a difference between excessive obsessing over something (I think my boyfriend is going to leave me and here's why in 50000 words) and an "I don't care" attitude about things that some may find offensive/embarrassing.
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Also, like you, I find myself thinking about totally inappropriate shit when I am around people and sometimes struggle not to bust out laughing. I pretty much avoid all eye contact with my boss in meetings unless he and I are engaging about work.
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What I can't handle is masturbatory oversharing where it's the same problem over and over again in a constant, never-ending loop (i.e. I hate my husband, I hate my body, I hate my job, I hate my roommate). That's stressful for the sharer and for the listener and it doesn't help solve those problems (and if you're not looking to solve your problems, quit inflicting them on others).
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She was allowed to complain to me about something exactly TWICE before she either had to shut up or do something about it.
Nothing drives me quite so crazy as people who continually complain but never take action. Don't whine about your weight while eating french fries. If you are doing something about it and it still bothers you, I will be your most supportive friend.
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I once dumped a friend because after a couple years of trying to be sympathetic, I couldn't stand another minute of hearing about her hopeless affair with a married man.
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Like, in public, you're supposed to be cheerful ALL. THE. TIME. (Especially if you're a girl.) So either you're going to vent on Twitter, or take a looooot of Xanax.
IMO our society generates a lot of dysfunction - just read the Jezzie headlines, from athletes literally getting away with murder, to Mark Sanford, to Wailin' Palin.
You have to have coping mechanisms, or that mess is going to ooze out somewhere.
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I will crusade day and night against the overshare. I'm thinking of making tshirts and a catchy jingle.
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I wish I had a jingle to sing to block out all the information.
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