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While I adore fabulous femmey gay boys as much as the next gal, I also really, really loved the gay couple on Sarah Silverman's show. Those guys were awesome for defying the stereotype. #gays
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Some African-Americans are complaining that the poor, uneducated girl in Precious perpetuates stereotypes; others say she represents a part of the community and deserves to be celebrated. For gays, that schism falls along generational lines. Older gays who spent their lives fighting for civil rights continue to want to stand out, to argue that acceptance means nothing if it doesn't apply to the most outré members. Younger men and women, for whom society has been more tolerant, think of themselves as "post-gay," meaning their sexual orientation is only a part of who they are.
I question the word "celebrated." Saying something deserves acknowledgment and representation is different from saying it should be celebrated. That seems like sloppy writing. Thoughts?
I think the second point is a really good one, but "post-gay"? WE'RE NOT POST-ANYTHING PEOPLE. #gays
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The above is one of the reasons that the L Word bothered me in terms of being representative of the diversity of lesbians. It wasn't until later seasons that any character besides the non-threateningly androgynous Shane show up. I know that it was partly to avoid the "butch dyke" stereotype...but the result was having lesbians that were all conventionally attractive, slim, and feminine. You might see a "butch" type in the background somewhere, but that's it. It felt like a glaring omission to me, since my lesbian friends run the gamut.
And I'd say True Blood is actually getting a lot right. Lafayette, while he has elements of the "fey", is also very hip hop. He walks a line between the two. And there was the accountant vamp he was getting vampire from, which was another a-typical homosexual character played by Stephen Root.
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I also have a cat asleep on my lap.
Am I an unstylish gay cat lady? I'm so of-the-moment! #gays
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i know some people talk about gaydar and all that, but honestly there's been more than a few cases where i had no idea, there was no blatant behavior that screamed "i'm gay!"
conversely, there have been a couple of men i've known in the past that i thought for sure were gay, and in fact they were straight. so you see i'm clueless.
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heh that happened to me too! #gays
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**My friend says he sees his gaydar (ugh) as a way of determining based on mannerisms what someone's sexuality is and how they might respond to his. I imagine being gay yourself makes this more necessary more regularly. I have the luxury/privilege (being boring, bi- but married) of not needing to determine anyone's sexuality. #gays
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It's the toupee fallacy, you can say that you can spot everyone wearing one but you simply don't know about all the good rugs you've failed to spot. #gays
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My girlfriend and I were talking about this the other day. While gays are surfacing more and more in pop culture and that's admirable, all of them are alike in some way or act incredibly straight. My girlfriend and I adore Portia and Ellen, but we agree that they're the straightest lesbian couple ever and that's part of their mainstream appeal. In my experience, most of the lesbians I know in real life look more like this than most lesbians I've seen on TV: #gays
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And thanks for bringing that up, I'm not sure I would have thought of him for some reason. #gays
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When I interrupted to say that sexual orientation had nothing to do with temperament or personality, and that while there are surely very many nice, happy gay people out there, there are also mean, unfriendly ones as well, to be sure. I mean, they're people after all, with individual personalities. The room got all quiet, like "She doesn't like gay people."
It was bizarre and disheartening. #gays
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Which, whatever, I have a hard time getting offended on behalf of lesbians about that, when bisexuals are still struggling to be accepted as people who, you know, exist. #gays
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