What If Katniss Didn't Have to Choose Between Peeta and Gale?

NPR's Linda Holmes wrote a great article about the gender dynamics in The Hunger Games: Catching Fire and concluded, "…you could argue that Katniss' conflict between Peeta and Gale is effectively a choice between a traditional Movie Girlfriend and a traditional Movie Boyfriend." I do love the way Holmes puts this.… » 12/03/13 6:00pm 12/03/13 6:00pm

What Do You Mean You're Not Monogamous?

Random fact — I never dated until last year, at 22. It sounds weird because I'd been in relationships before, so I checked in with one of my best friends from college and asked her if I ever dated anyone. Sure you did, she said, you married him. Luls. Dating for the past year has taught me important things about what… » 4/05/11 11:42am 4/05/11 11:42am

The Internet Is Giving Fetishists A Bad Name

Once upon a time, serious fetishists could end up seriously lonely (or unfulfilled) people — because, let's face it, fetishists and fetishes have always been around. The Sexual Revolution brought a level of openness to hetero-normative sex and the desire for it, but, to one degree or another, it left a lot of people… » 12/08/08 3:00pm 12/08/08 3:00pm

"A Jealousy That Is Not Warranted": The Pros And Cons Of Polyamory

Polyamory is becoming more mainstream lately — mainstream enough, that is, to be the subject of a lifestyle piece by Alex Williams in the Times » 10/06/08 1:00pm 10/06/08 1:00pm yesterday. It's still fringe enough, though, that the could only get two polyamorists to go on the record about it, and that Williams treats the whole practice as sort of…

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Is Polyamory Not Such A Retarded Idea After All?

So like, sometimes I want to tell you guys about a story that's, like, too nuanced and complex to distill into a cynical one-liner. And then I think "pageviews!" and just skip it. But what the hell: it's about a small polyamory convention going down somewhere in exurban Pennsylvania, and it kind of — I know, I know —… » 2/13/08 5:40pm 2/13/08 5:40pm