Runaways run from cops b/c the cops will hassle them, beat them up, take them in for loitering, prostitution, or possession and give them a criminal record, or find a reason to charge them with something serious. Kids on the streets don't trust cops and they hvae good reason.
This article was absolutely heart-breaking. And again, an argument for single-payer health care (the girl whose father had a triple bypass, the medical bills stacked up and they lost their house).
One thing that wasn't mentioned is how many of these kids that have been kicked out of their homes or are fleeing abuse in the home are LGBT, and that's one of the reasons they were kicked out or were abused. A disproportionate number of the homeless teens and the teens in foster care in San Francisco are LGBT, and disproportionately are from across the Western United States, especially the more conservative/Mormon states. Same thing with the homeless kids in Seattle and Portland. A lot of them come here because they feel they won't be judged for their sexuality in SF. Problem is, they get here and it's the most expensive housing in the United States bar NYC, and they can't even afford to flop at a SRO (single residence occupancy) hotel in the Tenderloin. #runaways
I was a runaway, and it's only by pure luck that I had a family take me in and I didn't end up on the streets. I just want to cry for these kids. No kid wants to run away from a healthy home. Just think for a moment how terrible their family lives must have been to opt to live in constant fear and poverty on the streets. Nobody wants to leave a healthy and happy home.
I can not imagine what it would be like to be that age and to know that your parents weren't even bothering to look for you after you ranaway. It just makes me want to sit here and cry at my desk. #runaways
"The teenager found in New York two weeks ago with no memory of her identity is lucky in one way — her family is coming to get her."
Honestly, when I read this story, I wondered how lucky she really is. Who knows what her family situation is, and whether or not she's better off with them or on the streets. #runaways
@kansasgirl: Yeah, that's a good point. We don't really know much about her. My hope is that since authorities are now involved, she won't have to go back into an abusive situation if one exists. #runaways
This American Life did a story on two sisters that ran away from their home in Oregon. It was interesting to hear it from the point of view of the mother and the daughters.
When do you move on with your life as a parent? Are you ever actually happy they're gone? Anyway, good for a listen.
In defense of the cops, if there's nothing they can legally do for the kids, I can see why they opt to not do much at all. If taking them home or putting them in foster care aren't positive options, arresting them would make their situation worse, and the kid seems poor but otherwise OK, what can they do?
Of course that means there ought to be better solutions that the cops, social workers et al can use. But what, I wonder?
Loosening up emancipated minor laws so these kids can legally separate from abusive parents earlier? Free boarding schools in cities? Free live-in rehab centers for addicts? The orphanages and work houses that existed in the early 20th century were pretty grim, but they addressed the needs that modern runaways have. Is there a way to do that without a return to poor, exploitative conditions?
@KLondike5: Orphanages are so not the solution. Teenagers running away from foster care are running away from group homes and institutions. Not all foster families are terrible, despite popular perception.
There ought to be a way to help connect these kids with extended family or family friends/neighbors who could take them in. #runaways
My sister ran away when she was about 16. She was only gone for a night and a day before we found her, but it was one of the most terrifying nights of mine and my parents' lives. I am tearing up just thinking about it now and it has been 17 years. I can't even imagine how it must be to be blase about a child being gone. This is so unbelievably sad. #runaways
I guess being a runaway isn't nearly as much fun in real life as it was in The Boxcar Children. Can I invite all these kids to my house for Thanksgiving? #runaways
When I volunteered as a crisis liner for the Nat'l Runaway Switchboard in Chicago, it was shocking to hear the amount of times parents were just "meh" about their teenager being missing.
And what was even more shocking was the realization that the runaway might have just upgraded their life by leaving home due to abuse and the massive failure of the foster care system (where many kids have suffered abuse).
Washington state had a big runaway problem. In fact, I think it's the only state where it is straight up illegal to run. Many kids get scooped up and put into the criminal system, so this could be another reason why this situation was such a clusterfuck.
As a side note, and I hate to get servicey, but the line's number is 1-800-runaway. If you are thinking of running or just need to think things out, it's staffed 24-7.
When I volunteered as a crisis liner for the Nat'l Runaway Switchboard in Chicago, it was shocking to hear the amount of times parents were just "meh" about their teenager being missing.
And what was even more shocking was the realization that the runaway might have just upgraded their life by leaving home due to abuse and the massive failure of the foster care system (where many kids have suffered abuse)."
What you say chills and saddens me, even if I'm not at all surprised at the "meh" of so many parents.
It is disheartening, to say the least, that the foster care system fails kids whose parents may or may not really want to be reunited with their children....for the unwanted? The sick? Kids adrift? Where will they go?
Is there any state, any COUNTRY on this earth, that knows how to handle both groups--abused children that the state plans to reunite with families (or at least, keep with relatives) AND those who run because life on the streets is better than life with abuse? #runaways
Ugh. The LAPD is the just a huge waste of state money. I wouldn't be saying this if they actually did their jobs but they don't (they're still corrupt as shit). Has anyone else from L.A. noticed them skulking around on the streets more looking for people to stop and ticket? Cali. is so hard up they send these assholes out on the street more often to stop people and get that speeding ticket/other offense money. #policebrutality
@Evie Havok: I've been pretty impressed with some of the work the LAPD has done under Bratton. All major crime rates are down, homicides are at a 38-year low, and the gang sweeps over the last year have been very thorough and well executed.
But yeah, they still like to beat the crap out of people. #policebrutality
@Evie Havok: I got two tickets within two weeks for total bullshit, including "making a left turn over a double yellow line." I'm so mad. I don't think the way to fix California's budget problem is by siphoning money from its citizens. #policebrutality
As a "police do nice things also story" My friend and I were crossing the street this week and a lady in her Lexus ran a stop sign and cut us off. There just happened to be a police car behind her and they quickly pulled her over. I just appreciated that they treated it as serious. I know there are important crimes than pissing people off in a cross walk, but we really appreciated it! We drove by and said thank you! #policebrutality
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[www.1800runaway.org]
[www.nationalsafeplace.org]
If you wanna help: volunteer, donate some goods, spread the word that there is help, that there are people who care. #runaways
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One thing that wasn't mentioned is how many of these kids that have been kicked out of their homes or are fleeing abuse in the home are LGBT, and that's one of the reasons they were kicked out or were abused. A disproportionate number of the homeless teens and the teens in foster care in San Francisco are LGBT, and disproportionately are from across the Western United States, especially the more conservative/Mormon states. Same thing with the homeless kids in Seattle and Portland. A lot of them come here because they feel they won't be judged for their sexuality in SF. Problem is, they get here and it's the most expensive housing in the United States bar NYC, and they can't even afford to flop at a SRO (single residence occupancy) hotel in the Tenderloin. #runaways
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Honestly, when I read this story, I wondered how lucky she really is. Who knows what her family situation is, and whether or not she's better off with them or on the streets. #runaways
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When do you move on with your life as a parent? Are you ever actually happy they're gone? Anyway, good for a listen.
[www.thisamericanlife.org]
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Of course that means there ought to be better solutions that the cops, social workers et al can use. But what, I wonder?
Loosening up emancipated minor laws so these kids can legally separate from abusive parents earlier? Free boarding schools in cities? Free live-in rehab centers for addicts? The orphanages and work houses that existed in the early 20th century were pretty grim, but they addressed the needs that modern runaways have. Is there a way to do that without a return to poor, exploitative conditions?
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There ought to be a way to help connect these kids with extended family or family friends/neighbors who could take them in. #runaways
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And what was even more shocking was the realization that the runaway might have just upgraded their life by leaving home due to abuse and the massive failure of the foster care system (where many kids have suffered abuse).
Washington state had a big runaway problem. In fact, I think it's the only state where it is straight up illegal to run. Many kids get scooped up and put into the criminal system, so this could be another reason why this situation was such a clusterfuck.
As a side note, and I hate to get servicey, but the line's number is 1-800-runaway. If you are thinking of running or just need to think things out, it's staffed 24-7.
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When I volunteered as a crisis liner for the Nat'l Runaway Switchboard in Chicago, it was shocking to hear the amount of times parents were just "meh" about their teenager being missing.
And what was even more shocking was the realization that the runaway might have just upgraded their life by leaving home due to abuse and the massive failure of the foster care system (where many kids have suffered abuse)."
What you say chills and saddens me, even if I'm not at all surprised at the "meh" of so many parents.
It is disheartening, to say the least, that the foster care system fails kids whose parents may or may not really want to be reunited with their children....for the unwanted? The sick? Kids adrift? Where will they go?
Is there any state, any COUNTRY on this earth, that knows how to handle both groups--abused children that the state plans to reunite with families (or at least, keep with relatives) AND those who run because life on the streets is better than life with abuse? #runaways
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But yeah, they still like to beat the crap out of people. #policebrutality
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