I liked it, but the slideshow was terrible. Shopping for jeans is a nightmare at any size because there are 5000 styles, cuts, and washes to choose from - that was just a list of 5 companies that make jeans. They didn't even recommend a particular style for any of the brands.
FYI, I am partial to Old Navy Sweetheart jeans - they fit my hips and tush without gaping at the waist. And the back pockets are well-placed. #biggirlinskinnyworld
what annoys me is that she has to do a height and weight check. why? she's plus size. we get that she's not a size zero. why go there? it just feeds into all of the baloney. #biggirlinskinnyworld
1.) Believe it or not, we plus sized dames aren't all shaped the same way.
2.) Owning those digits = awesome. Years of lying about, re-calculating or generally avoiding those oh-so-embarrasing-always-too-high numbers on the scale is beyond wonderful.
@MrsAbraxas: i'm plus size myself and am acutely aware of the differences in sizes among all sizes of women, but around here i've seen lots of people putting their height and weight and it can be a trigger for other stuff.
i feel like it would have been better to post her actual dress size rather than her height and weight, but that's just me. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@rednrowdy: But dress sizes fluctuate widely depending on the brand. Depending on who makes a pair of pants, for example, I wear anywhere from a size 2 (talk about vanity sizing!) to a size 8. Expressing size in terms of measurements is much less ambiguous. And if the point is to own one's body and take pride in it, isn't it better to say "Damn right, I'm 5'2" and 220 pounds" than to say "I wear a size [whatever]" and have everybody debating over what a size [whatever] "really" looks like? #biggirlinskinnyworld
i work part time as a plus size fit model. anything over a 'straight' size 12 is plus size, and even that depends on the brand and where the brand's size measurements lie. certain brands will use a plus size fit model that has thinner arms, for instance, or a fuller bust and waist, and because the clothes are made to that model, all the measurements for sizes come from the fit models original measurements. two inch increase on the hips for a size 20, etc.
as the market dictates today, a woman who wears a size 18 is plus size. there is a difference in the sizing between a size 18 and a size 18W (it's usually give or take an inch) but from the market's perspective, an 18 is plus size with or without the W next to it. #biggirlinskinnyworld
"but her column seems more practical than celebratory when it comes to the transformative power of fashion."
Personally, I think practical advice - for plus-size women, skinny women, basically anyone - would be a nice thing in fashion mags. It seems to be largely nonexistent most of the time. #biggirlinskinnyworld
Duo makes stylish boots in a variety of calf widths. They are in the UK but well worth the shipping because of the personalized service and excellent shoes they offer! #biggirlinskinnyworld
@Tara Incognita: I was trying on boots in NZ when a woman sidled up to me and whispered the Duo tip, while showing me the Duo boots she was wearing. I'd never heard of them while living in the UK, but I'm so glad she told me. They are AWESOME, and now I buy boots from Duo regularly.
My only caveat would be that the ankle circumference differs between styles, so it's worth writing the sales team and saying "I love my x boots, what other styles have the same ankle fit?" They'll be straight-up with you. #biggirlinskinnyworld
My solution to the "thigh problem" in high school was to actually cut the jeans across the back of my legs from the thigh-hole and then sew some flannel to the inside as a backing.
@Zombie Ms. Skittles: I actually took my favorite pair to the dry cleaners and had them repaired... it costs $20-50, but god love 'em, I still have those jeans. #biggirlinskinnyworld
Has anyone else ever completely destroyed the lining of pants? I avoid buying dress pants with lining these days because I somehow manage to SHRED them. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@SarahMC: No but I do this to blazers constantly. It's hard because I like them fitted (not tight) and the lining inevitably falls apart. I really think it's just a matter of wear and tear. The more you wear something, the faster it will fall apart. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@Penny: Oh God, that happens to me, too. Every blazer-cut piece I own inevitably ends up with a tear in the lining right down the middle of the back because I like to wrap my layers around myself.
And lining is just a bitch to try and repair. Curse you, lining! #biggirlinskinnyworld
@Penny: Oh, my "dressy" winter coat's lining shredded after just a few weeks. It split at the shoulder so I have to really concentrate when I'm putting my left arm through the sleeve. Sometimes I stick it through the lining instead and there's nowhere for my hand to escape at the end of the sleeve. #biggirlinskinnyworld
yup, both pants and jackets get ripped. i don't know why they don't add a bit of spandex to the lining so it gives a little... especially jackets around the armholes... that's where my jacket linings always tear. #biggirlinskinnyworld
It seems like her self-deprecation is done in order to assure the non-fat readers not to worry: she knows she's not the ideal, she has a sense of humor about her "condition," she's not trying to steal their thunder. It comes off as deliberately non-threatening. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@SarahMC: I think it's entirely likely that she developed a self-deprecating sense of humor in direct response to the way people have viewed her weight for her entire life -- I doubt it was a conscious decision for the express purpose of this feature, but rather a coping mechanism she developed over time (but for the same reason -- "don't worry; I know I'm not ideal.") #biggirlinskinnyworld
@SarahMC: Yeah, and I have to say, from what I've seen happen in online fora about body issues - actually not this one *hackwatrdhack* - when slim women feel insulted by "real women" or whatever booster rhetoric - I kind of feel like her deflection strategy is a good one. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@thesciencegirl: Oh I know. It's the reason I make fun of my own looks, because I wouldn't want anyone to think I wasn't aware of my flaws. I'm just saying it struck me, as someone who tends to stick to feminist, fat-positive writing. #biggirlinskinnyworld
I'm in the process of wearing holes in the inner thigh of my favorite jeans right now, Size-Low-Single-Digit. It'd be cool if clothing manufacturers actually put out some quality pieces once in a while, because slim women have this issue as well. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HappyHydrozoan is learning to deal: I just busted holes in a favorite pair of black jeans, in the ass, crotch and knee. I think they were just worn out. I can see how constant rubbing would expedite the process, though. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@redqueenmeg: I had been sewing up the crotch split for months, and then the knee just blew open while I was at work. I was bending, though. Now I have to hunt for another pair of black skinny jeans. Which is the LAST thing I feel like doing. #biggirlinskinnyworld
I liked her article, though I do remember being annoyed by some of the quotations highlighted by the editors. I don't have the article in front of me, so I can't remember all of the details. Ashley seems fierce, so I just hope they don't take on a pitying tone or make this really othering (like the line about her trying on 25 items for every 1 she buys; that struck me as melodramatic. But then I don't try to shop for designer clothes).
As for her accessories comment, it made me laugh because it's pretty much true, although I do find boot-shopping a nightmare. And I do happen to be wearing a pair of jeans whose inner thigh seam I mended last week. ha. I don't know; I have a self-depreciating sense of humor, so she made me laugh. #biggirlinskinnyworld
A tip for the big calfed girl. If you're willing to front the cash, go to www.duoboots.com. They sell boots, not only by the foot size, but also the calf size. They are based in the UK so be prepared to spend some cash. #biggirlinskinnyworld
I can see where the selected passages are suspect, but, as a big girl, they made me giggle. And yeah, my jeans wear out in the thighs due to chub rub constantly. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: When I was a teenager I was so ashamed the first time this happened that I went on a crash diet. It was years before I realized it happens to anyone with thighs set a certain way. Which is why I try not to call it chub rub either... though I get the sentiment. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: Oh, hey, mine are chubby too! :) It wasn't meant as a correction, more like, if there is a teenage girl out there reading who is confused... well, feel better lady. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@PilgrimSoul: Gotcha! Even when I was thin I had hips to spare. It's weird the odd little details of our bodies we pick apart no matter our size. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: God, I'm so happy to hear that it's not just me. I had to stitch up the inner thigh of my favorite pair two weeks ago! #biggirlinskinnyworld
@thesciencegirl: HA! My Dad calls Cords 'Talking Britches' because of all the noise they make. But now I know that if I've alone in the woods and cold, I can walk around in a pair of cords! #biggirlinskinnyworld
@newyorkette: I find if I sew an small piece of fabric inside the top of each leg, just where the maximum friction is, they last longer. It's annoying to do, but cheaper than new jeans. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: When I was in high school, I could see my own ribs in the mirror and still wore out the thighs on my jeans. RIDDLE ME THIS, FASHION! #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: My thighs have always touched, even when I was a teeny tiny in high school. I just recently lost a ton of weight nursing my son...and the thighs stayed. It's a problem lots of us have. #biggirlinskinnyworld
Do their bangles have a wider diameter? That's awesome. I have never been able to find bangles that fit over my hands onto my wrists, so I may have to check them out. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@cate3710: I have the opposite problem. I've never been able to find bangles that stay on my wrists, they're always too big (my wrists are about the only things on me that are dainty, they're tiny). #biggirlinskinnyworld
Boots and shoes are never a good fit for me, and that sucks. I spend fruitless hours looking for boots that fit, and that won't fall apart the first time I wear them.
I wonder if she will address the terrible quality of goods available to plus size people. It sucks, because I have money to spend on nice things, I am just never given the opportunity. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@SleeplessNights: This reminds me of the time I saved up to get 100-hole doc martens only to find my meaty calf wasn't going to fit. DISAPPOINTED. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@aisuru113: If they're from J Crew, probably not. I ordered a beautiful pair of "extended calf" burgundy boots and they did not fit. Broke my heart. :( #biggirlinskinnyworld
@aisuru113: I'm not entirely sure. I have a friend who swears by them, but I don't know the size of her calves. Also, you CAN have them widened at a cobbler, but it can be pricey. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@HannahBethD: If you go to smaller shoe companies, you can usually find better quality products (real leather, yay!), and they'll stretch the calves of the boots out for you, etc.
(My favourite shoestore is John Fluevog - worth checking out for sure. Their stuff lasts FOREVER.) #biggirlinskinnyworld
Here's a tip for all of you: Fitzwell! Not only are they insanely fashionable, the calves are huge. I actually had to RETURN a pair because they were too big for my 16" calves, so make sure you get the right measurement. Zappos has lots, like these: [www.zappos.com]#biggirlinskinnyworld
@this_charming_one: I can usually only find up at a 17" sometimes on Zappos. As much as I like boots I dont' even bother now unless they are ankel height that I can under pants #biggirlinskinnyworld
@Mrs Lovett: Fluevog lasts forever, yes (wearing Angels on my feets at the moment!), but their boots can be really narrow in the calf. #biggirlinskinnyworld
@Tara Incognita: Yanno, their boots are wide calf, but not wide width. Otherwise I would have ordered from them a long time ago! And they would be rich! #biggirlinskinnyworld
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FYI, I am partial to Old Navy Sweetheart jeans - they fit my hips and tush without gaping at the waist. And the back pockets are well-placed. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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1.) Believe it or not, we plus sized dames aren't all shaped the same way.
2.) Owning those digits = awesome. Years of lying about, re-calculating or generally avoiding those oh-so-embarrasing-always-too-high numbers on the scale is beyond wonderful.
It's as or more awesome as the Illustrated BMI stuff here: [kateharding.net] #biggirlinskinnyworld
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i feel like it would have been better to post her actual dress size rather than her height and weight, but that's just me. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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i work part time as a plus size fit model. anything over a 'straight' size 12 is plus size, and even that depends on the brand and where the brand's size measurements lie. certain brands will use a plus size fit model that has thinner arms, for instance, or a fuller bust and waist, and because the clothes are made to that model, all the measurements for sizes come from the fit models original measurements. two inch increase on the hips for a size 20, etc.
as the market dictates today, a woman who wears a size 18 is plus size. there is a difference in the sizing between a size 18 and a size 18W (it's usually give or take an inch) but from the market's perspective, an 18 is plus size with or without the W next to it. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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Personally, I think practical advice - for plus-size women, skinny women, basically anyone - would be a nice thing in fashion mags. It seems to be largely nonexistent most of the time. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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My only caveat would be that the ankle circumference differs between styles, so it's worth writing the sales team and saying "I love my x boots, what other styles have the same ankle fit?" They'll be straight-up with you. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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Also, Latoya, we are apparently body twins. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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And lining is just a bitch to try and repair. Curse you, lining! #biggirlinskinnyworld
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yup, both pants and jackets get ripped. i don't know why they don't add a bit of spandex to the lining so it gives a little... especially jackets around the armholes... that's where my jacket linings always tear. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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As for her accessories comment, it made me laugh because it's pretty much true, although I do find boot-shopping a nightmare. And I do happen to be wearing a pair of jeans whose inner thigh seam I mended last week. ha. I don't know; I have a self-depreciating sense of humor, so she made me laugh. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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Do their bangles have a wider diameter? That's awesome. I have never been able to find bangles that fit over my hands onto my wrists, so I may have to check them out. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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I love their bangles and rings and shit. And they all totally fit. It is badass. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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I wonder if she will address the terrible quality of goods available to plus size people. It sucks, because I have money to spend on nice things, I am just never given the opportunity. #biggirlinskinnyworld
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(My favourite shoestore is John Fluevog - worth checking out for sure. Their stuff lasts FOREVER.) #biggirlinskinnyworld
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[www.zappos.com] #biggirlinskinnyworld
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