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Catabolic
09/01/09

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Completely off topic, but... I just can't let it slide.

"Along with the message, he sent his picture, which the tranny verified"

"Tranny"? Maureen just couldn't write "transvestite" one more time? Tranny is just such a hateful word to use. Try harder, Maureen, try harder to avoid the fail.
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Eleanor Ramilly
09/01/09

@Catabolic: Thanks-- that really stood out to me, too. An otherwise well-written article was tainted by that fail.
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boxspelunker
08/31/09

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THIS IS WHY I TELL MY FRIENDS NOT TO TAG ME IN PHOTOS. Take note, boxy friends. Stop tagging me, unless I say it's all right. We have had this discussion, you all know it, so why do you keep doing it?
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coconanas
08/31/09

@boxspelunker: You can set privacy on that, if photos are tagged with your name you can set it to private so no one outside of your friends list can see you.
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boxspelunker
08/31/09

@coconanas: I indeed have done this :) But thanks for the advice!
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ozu
08/31/09

@boxspelunker: Better to de-tag altogether. It's not that I don't trust my friends, but I still don't like that all tagged photos of one person can be easily accessed with 1 click.
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veronykah
08/31/09

@ozu: I don't like that other people get to decide what crappy photos of my get to appear on MY page too...I de-tag all the time.
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clevernamehere
08/31/09

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I'm somewhat cagey with personal info on the Internet. I don't ever mention my actual job, past jobs or what neighborhood I live, I stick to broad generalizations. And I've still had people connect the dots.

I think the younger someone is, the more likely they are to post too many details, not realizing it matters.
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Penny
08/31/09

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Speaking of Craigslist, I read the Wired story over the weekend and it's really interesting....
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morninggloria
08/31/09

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I have a cousin who lives on one of the coasts who I saw this weekend. She knew, from Jezebel posts and my personal blog, exactly who I was, without question.

Additionally, at least two college friends knew who I was by virtue of my commenting style alone.

At this point, I'd like to send a big shout out to all of my friends and family members who may or may not be reading this.
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Penny
08/31/09

@morninggloria: I've just thrown up my hands and talk about whatever the fuck I want. Looking back, though....damn, I was stupid. I used to meet dealers through the Internet. Talk about moronic. I guess when you're desperate, though...
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sequined
08/31/09

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So basically, this is saying I shouldn't tell such awkward personal stories here on Jezebel anymore. Is that the moral of this story?
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la.donna.pietra
08/31/09

@sequined: Only the really good ones.
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kapoosta
06/22/09

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I know I should mainly sympathize with Julissa Brisman and her family, but my first thought was, "I feel so bad for his fiance." Then I felt guilty for immediately thinking that. It seems I am succumbing to what the media thinks is important about this story.
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schweppes
06/22/09

@kapoosta: I think there's no such thing as too much compassion for people who are in shitty, horrible situations through no fault of their own.
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kapoosta
06/22/09

@schweppes: Very true. Still, it bothers me a little that I don't have a more visceral reaction to her family's suffering. That's probably for the best though since it means that they weren't under much scrutiny.
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The Queen of No
05/01/09

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My younger sister married her boyfriend of 1 month, 2 months ago. He broke his parole (robbery) by breaking into someone's house and burgling them. He didn't tell my sister and he put the loot into her car. They got pulled over and he went to jail. She now is refusing to leave the house and refusing to even keep friends around who aren't all for her "standing by" him. I feel like the only reason she is sticking by him is because she doesn't want to "fail" at this really capricious undertaking of marrying someone she barely knows, especially because everyone already thought she was doing something insane. I feel like the more bad shit he does, the more she will stand by him. I asked her how she felt about him deceiving her and putting her into a really shitty position, her response was "lol he knows he fucked up." VERBATIM. Sigh.
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thepinkone
05/01/09

@The Queen of No: But that is so big a part of it. So many call it "standing by your man", when it is really about trying to figure out your/her own ability to know when to trust and/or what is right. In this case, for your sister to cut off a guy the rest of us see as a clear waste of air, she as to admit how ad a judge of character/situation she as been. In my experience, this is the real dilemma. We all want to support the woman, while we realize what a shit her spouse/boyfriend/abuser is, but she still cannot separate him from herself.

Look at it this way - she bet on this horse, and no matter how badly he's losing, she has to lose more by admitting her own bad choice in choosing him.

Just be there for her, in spite of this bad choice. Deep in her her heart, she most likely knows she chose badly. BUT for whatever reason, she needs time to move away from her bad choice, then she will also need time to cut herself off from it entirely. Just knowing you are there for her, on the other side, means more to her than she will be able to express to you until she has finally been able to make this break.

Believe me, this is the was it will go. So long as you are strong for here on the other side, it will matter, even if she cannot tell you that now.
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The Queen of No
05/01/09

@thepinkone: You're totally right. I refuse to tell her what to do or insult him to her. I met him and I actually liked him, I don't think he is a bad person, but I just wish and hope she will eventually realize there is a difference between sticking by your man and being a doormat.
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Maulleigh
05/01/09

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Cuz he probably wasn't a psychopath with her! I mean, if my boyfriend/dad/best friend were charged with murder I wouldn't believe it either!
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taranwanderer
05/01/09

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Loss aversion = "facing a huge loss-the end of her dreams, symbolized by her canceled summer wedding plans." ????

Are you fucking kidding me? Fuck you, Newsweek. I say this as someone who's engagement ended three months before her wedding (rather like Megan, but for incredibly different reasons). I was severely fucked up afterward because yes, my dreams were SHATTERED. Not my "wedding day dreams," my LIFE dreams. Assholes. When you plan to get married to someone, you plan your LIFE together, not just one fucking day. She's not upset over one fucking day.

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la.donna.pietra
05/01/09

@taranwanderer: But the florist! And the caterer! And the tuxedo rentals! All of those are so essential to life as we know it!

(Sorry; in the process of planning a wedding right now and frequently shaking my head at the banality of a lot of it.)
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thepinkone
05/01/09

@la.donna.pietra: Real-life black humor then. You'd be better off eloping...
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la.donna.pietra
05/01/09

@thepinkone: Well, parts of it are fun. Parts of it are not. There are far worse things to be doing than planning a wedding, however.
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HillGirl
05/01/09

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Well, for starters he hasn't exactly been convicted of anything yet. There is nothing wrong with believing that someone you love would be innocent. I would completely stand by the people in my life at least through out the trial.
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TheGuvnah
05/01/09

@HillGirl is overworked: even if all the evidence pointed to his guilt?
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J.D.Regent
05/01/09

@HillGirl is overworked: @TheGuvnah: I feel like if it was my brother, son, or even friend I would stand by him. A husband or father of my kids would also be a tough call. But a fiancee -- that's a voluntary association. You can break that shit up and not look back.
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thepinkone
05/01/09

@J.D.Regent: But what if, in your heart, you still thought he was incapable of such a thing? Wouldn't it take you longer than a few weeks to cut him off? I mean, just because you already married him or bred with him doesn't automatically indicate whether or not he is more than likely to have committed a crime. It just indicates that you went through a ceremony first of became pregnant by him earlier. This woman's commitment to this man was already very similar to a spouses or a co-parent's. The only difference was really only a few more month's police work. Otherwise, there is no difference.
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TurtleWexlerKickedMe
05/01/09

@thepinkone: wow - are you this girl's best friend or something?
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J.D.Regent
05/01/09

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However, it was pretty dumb of her to send those emails out to press and especially to refer to him as "beautiful inside and out." That's just asking for mocking.
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thepinkone
05/01/09

@J.D.Regent: Not if she really meant it it wasn't asking for mocking.

Think about it. Everyone here - if someone came to you tonight & said, "The love of your life, your life partner, has been arrested for killing several sex workers with whom he set up meetings on Craig's list & this is all about to be made public," How many of you would immediately say, "Oh, hell yes, that guy did it and I'm not about to defend him in public."???

Please! If you loved your partner and had trust, your first response would be to defend!
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J.D.Regent
05/01/09

@thepinkone: I would defend him till the day is done and honestly knowing me I would probably like quit my job to work on his defense or something. But I would NOT have emailed the press and I would not use a phrase like "beautiful inside and out" because while I may be a cop-hating criminal lover, I am not stupid. Just tactically speaking here. I would have gotten a lawyer and probably hired a private investigator right away and not said shit to the press, and defended him all day long to my friends and family.
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thepinkone
05/01/09

@J.D.Regent: But that is *you* and you are obviously much more media savvy than this girl. She probably had no clue as to the implications of her first response. She was in shock. She did what so many in love "good" girls would do. I totally agree that your response is much more clever, but that doesn't mean hers is any less honest for being what it was.
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J.D.Regent
05/01/09

@thepinkone: I know! I'm not dogging her morally, I'm just saying it was a dumb move! Trying to lighten things up a little. I totally understand where she is coming from.
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Maggita
05/01/09

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If she didn't stand by him Newsweek would be illustrating how unfaithful women are and it's that X chromosome screwing with our tiny lady brains. Followed by quick tips on how to make sure your lady sticks by you (unwanted groping, everybody!).
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Bunsen Honeydew
05/01/09

@Maggita: How true.
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Flackette Goes Retro
05/01/09

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missteenwordpower
05/01/09

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Honestly, the evidence of my experience of a relationship over the course of several years probably WOULD take precedence over accusations occurring over the course of a few weeks, at least for a time. Why is that so unreasonable? It would take a LOT of work to make me believe that my boyfriend had committed murders I had heretofore considered him incapable of, and of course I would stand by him during what I would believe to be a horrible, painful, and unnecessary ordeal.

Or do we think she actually knew about the murdering and chose to stand by him anyway? Because I've seen no evidence of that.
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J.D.Regent
05/01/09

@missteenwordpower is your sexy Ms. Magoo.: this is another good point. Does everyone trust police so much that the second someone is arrested you assume their guilt? It took several days for all the info to come out; it is totally reasonable to "stand by your man"/friend/family member until the truth is made clear to YOU. I don't trust the police's word on what strangers do; I'm sure as hell not going to accept that they know more about my loved ones than I do -- not at first anyway.
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