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Save An Ailing Romance With Waxed Pubes & Unsolicited Fondling
Does Cutting Your Hair Mean You Don't Want Sex?


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Getting your head fixed via a columnist is an excursion fraught with peril.
The lawyer you're looking for is not on television.
Because someone is famous does not make them good at what they do.
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EXCEPT WE'RE NOT BONOBOS YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE!
Seriously, I'll bet that's where the theory comes from.
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I mean, they were fighting about money, which is a pretty big deal and sounds like a concern they should address. He would PUSH her during those arguments. And the solution is...groping her?
That's grotesque. What kind of therapist suggests that a man force sexual contact on a woman as a way to make their relationship BETTER?
I am skeeved the fuck out.
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Tilt your head to the right and that's how I look right now.
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I do think it is unnecessary to jump from wanting his wife to wax to pedophilia, but I also think too many of the comments defending a waxed bush drift into bashing an unwaxed bush ("it's cleaner!" "its better for sex").
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Word. This seems just as unnecessary as the prepubescent comments.
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Although, I do find it a bit creepy when a guy is overly focused on the whole thing.
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That being said, this is a really risky thing to do because of the point that a lot of commenters brought up: the HIGH likelihood that the groping would be seen as a hostile act and cause the woman to become more physically aggressive in response. I agree with Dodai's commentary and many of the commenters here in stating that groping is not a positive or neutral act and shouldn't be treated as such. It would have been much better if they had collaborated on a signal that the husband could have used for "I'm getting upset, we need to take a time out from this discussion" or "you need to stand a more reasonable distance away from me."
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Did she even know that following him was bothering him before they came up with the groping suggestion?
Was he willing to discuss issues in other ways? I have a very passive aggressive relative who literally runs from discussing problems and it leads to something similar to this with his wife.
Following someone around is aggressive, but I'm not sure the pattern starts with the wife.
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Interestingly enough, research in the field has shown that the troubled marriages with the best outcomes are the ones in which wives are able to calm their husbands down, and that husbands being able to calm wives down doesn't have nearly as strong an effect. One of the issues I had with some of the marital therapies I learned when I took a class on it (I've only taken one class, and haven't performed hardly any marital therapy, so my perception is likely flawed) is that a lot of them seemed to place more of the burden of 'cooling down' the situation on the wife, which hardly seemed equitable or fair to me. Although, I suppose that you can make a case for it based on the research findings.
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Anyhoo, I do agree that waxed or not waxed, if I am getting sex then I am count myself lucky. Obviously no woman should be talked into it if she is not into going bare.
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such:[www.ananova.com]
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[news.bbc.co.uk]
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