Hmm, I'm conflicted. On the one hand, beauty pageants kind of suck - they promote very specific ideas of physical beauty as a meaningful yardstick for judging women. However - and I say this as a cisgendered woman - from what I have read and heard from some transwomen, passing and being seen by society as women (and not a man in drag) is important. Some of it is a safety issue, but there's also the idea of having an outward appearance that matches their inner gender identity, and embracing a self-expression they were denied when they were younger because of their biological sex. So, on that end, I'm glad that these women are getting the opportunity to celebrate their identity. Ultimately, I agree that both trans and cis women should be celebrated for lots of reasons, not just looks, and hopefully trans (and cis) women won't have to conform to narrow ideas of beauty and femininity to fit into society. But for now...I come down on the side of the pageant, especially as the participants seem so happy to have this opportunity. #pageants
I'm very glad that something like this can show that a higher amount of awareness and acceptance are possible... but I have to be honest that I'd feel pretty horrible if I was one of the women in that contest and had lost.
Just thinking about the fact that there are guys out there who are more attractive than me in every feminine way is rather depressing.
Maybe I'd make a better man.
I wish there was a pageant where women/men were not allowed to wear make-up or have any prior plastic surgery. It would be very interesting because it would have to do with the person's authentic beauty, rather than how they look when doused in make-up and fake finger nails.
@Kitty: So, what, a transexual woman being more beautiful than you, would be horrible and depressing? And thus that makes you decide you'd be a better man?
Transexual men and women don't do these things BECAUSE they'd look more beautiful as a woman, or more manly as a man. They're BORN in the wrong body. These ARE women. #pageants
@jenniferhill: While they might be women in mind, attitude, and demeanor. I do not agree with the idea that they ARE women even after plastic surgery. They can make themselves into women, but I still can't truly consider them as such. To say so would be like saying that we are simply robots that can be upgraded/downgraded to suit the needs and expectations of the user.
I am a woman, I was born as a woman and I don't think taking pills, cutting off my breasts, and putting a member between my legs will truly change that.
Would a man be considered a monkey if we cut off his arms, legs and other body parts and replaced them with a monkey's? What if he started eating a monkey's diets and interacting with other monkeys? Would that satisfy the requirements? #pageants
@Kitty: Well, first off, men and women aren't different species. There is no "man" diet and "woman" diet. So, your example isn't a very good comparison.
Secondly, you can't decide someone else's identity. They decide that. And since this isn't a cross-species issue, if someone decides that they identify as man, woman, or somewhere in between, they are.
Transsexuals are not men/women who cut off body parts and infiltrate your sex. Once a trans woman is socially accepted as a woman, she is no different than you. You would never even know. All that is different is the shape of some of her body parts and her chromosomes. And women come in all different shapes and sizes already, so why hold that against her? #pageants
@boxspelunker: You're absolutely right, I am a horrible person and I apologize for my close minded way of thinking. People should be allowed to be whatever they want. #pageants
@Kitty: It's not a matter of 'allowing' people to be what they want. You are a woman, born as a woman - but what if you weren't? What if you looked in the mirror, and everything you saw there made you want to scream because your very body was wrong?
It may seem like an extreme example, but it's really not far from the truth. There are scores of cases where trans men and women, sometimes at a very young age, have attempted to physically remove body parts with scissors, knives, etc. because of how utterly unnatural they felt. We aren't trying to play at being women - we ARE women, trying to fix a cosmic mistake that left us in the wrong bodies, being treated as the wrong gender, for as long as we can remember.
It's an argument that's reminiscent of the gay "lifestyle" arguments - the idea that we would willingly subject ourselves to the crushing social stigma, heavy financial costs, and considerable physical danger simply to play at being women is ridiculous. As a former social worker of mine told me, "You realize that you're basically going to become a second-class citizen?"
To the original topic - I tend to come down on the side of the pageant. I'm aware we have highly subjective and often unrealistic standards of beauty for women, and that pageants do little to stop perpetuating them. On the other hand, for every transwoman in this pageant, there are hundreds out there that will never get the chance to show off their bodies as they'd like them to be. Many, if not most, simply can't afford to completely rebuild their bodies and identities from the ground up. I can't begrudge these women the chance to show that they can be every bit as feminine as those fortunate enough to be born into the correct bodies. #pageants
This feels a little like the conversation about including more models of color in the fashion world. Opening the way for these women into the pageant world gives them a voice and a presence in mainstream society, but also explicitly includes them in all the twisted and tortured objectification of women.
But as women aren't they already privy to all that? Just like not including models of color doesn't keep women of color from absorbing the lessons our society teaches about beauty, excluding transwomen from pageants doesn't save them from feeling society's pressures.
I'm not a transwoman, so I can't speak to their specific problems, but I am a women of color and I certainly feel like I want people like me included in the definition of beautiful no matter how illogical and ultimately demeaning that is.
I think beauty pageants in general problematize femininity and focus on the outer appearance in order to make one person feel special and the rest feel worthless. However, when asking specifically "why THIS" is an uplifting forum for transsexual women, I think it might be helpful to think of it not necessarily a pageant, but rather a normally exclusive forum which is now opened to women who are repeatedly told they are not beautiful simply because they are transsexual. I think in this circumstance, it's a small victory, subtle undermining and a great "fuck you" to an institution which openly discriminates against all women. #pageants
I see your point, but on the other hand? These women have spent their whole lives wishing they had the body they should have been born with. I'm sure that any chance to be frilly and pretty for the world to see and to have it accepted is a huge deal for these women. I would hope that in a few decades the stringent standards of beauty will change, but these are the images these women have been exposed to NOW, and so I can't fault them for pageantry. Maybe it's a double standard, but I think it's cute and sort of upends some stereotypes. I wonder what the Prejeans of the world have to say about this. #pageants
@bananaballs: yeah but why would you possibly hold out hope that in a few decades the beauty standards will loosen up if we continue to set up new ways for one specific standard of beauty to be emulated and admired? #pageants
@bluebears: I'm sort of looking at it on a micro level. I would imagine if I spent my childhood as a boy who wished I were a girl, that I would probably be obsessed with anything stereotypically feminine, more so than the current situation, where I didn't (don't) think about that sort of stuff as much. So I find the issue of them emulating this ridiculous standard different from the issue of the ridiculous standard being there in the first place.
I mean, I would say in a general sense, that logically, you are correct. But I sympathize with the plight of wanting this transformative change to happen your entire life, and therefore becoming consumed with it. So I blame plenty of other people for our fucked up standards, but totally give these women a pass. Does that make sense? #pageants
@bananaballs: I see what you're saying and I totally understand the reflexive reaction that its heartwarming that these women have found another form of acceptance through this pageant but I think that stepping back and looking at the big picture, its more depressing than uplifting. As other people have mentioned, what about all the trans people who don't fit into the pageant beauty ideal? where's their heartwarming affirming moment? #pageants
@bluebears: I don't have an answer for that, other than I believe there's room for them all, and that it's also a process. And if people need some candy with their vegetables, then maybe that's how they'll get inured to this population. Our society is extremely visual, and it's not fair, and there are plenty of non-bombshell people who could be sportscasters and news anchors, singers, actors, etc., and I just think starting with this population is a self-defeating task at this point in time. #pageants
@bluebears: I disagree! Maybe I'm a pessimist who sees herself as a pragmatist, I'm just saying that I see what's behind the sentiment, and if you've had a shit time trying to make yourself the person you believe you should have been in the first place, you should get a pass and enter a pageant if you feel like it. There's room for all kinds of activism in this world, and I sort of see this as one of them. That doesn't mean it can't change, or that it shouldn't, but these women were probably dying to be in one of these things since they were kids, and I can't get mad at them for going for it. My mind reels at all the mixed messages these kids try to decipher. It's like everything we go/went through times a thousand. #pageants
@bananaballs: I don't get mad at the actual people competing in these pageants, rather my contempt is for the society that tells them that this is some sort of great hurdle forward to overall acceptance. And honestly the fact that they were perhaps dying to be in one of these since they were kids is a perfect illustration of why I find this depressing. Like, they were dying to be objectified? So now they have been. so..yay? Honestly this is a much bigger issue then this one pageant, and I do see what you mean about activism taking different forms but still, sometimes I feel like we lose sight of the big picture, and what truly constitutes acceptance.
@bluebears: That edit feature can make an ass of me sometimes. My addendum to your addendum would be that, as stated before, I was looking on it at a micro level, and that even if pageants didn't exist, I think the sentiment for many trans people would be the same. Plus, yeah, maybe they do want to be objectified, but in this avenue feel like they finally have ownership of it? I dunno, I sort of think that some people like that kind of attention, it's a personality type thing, so if you're trans or cis (I learned a new term today), you're gonna want it if it's the type of person you are. #pageants
If all of the contestants are happy, and it is doing good things for their community as well as charities, what is the problem?
It seems to me that showing the world that the trans genered community is beautiful, and that they want to do good things for charity is a good thing. #pageants
@Wandell: The problem is that judging women based on their appearance - which is assigned arbitrarily by genetics - rather than their accomplishments or their character, is disempowering to those women. Happiness based on popularity and beauty is ephemeral. The solution to the oppression of trans people is to fight trans phobia at a cultural level, not to give them the opportunity to be oppressed in the same way that cis people are. #pageants
@kung fu lola: I understand that, that is wht the whole article is about. I just think that maybe we should give them a break and let them do what they want to do.
I don't necessarily think pageants are "bad". It is bad when parents force their young daughters to do them, but grown women, no more then men, have the right to tell other women what to do. I think they should be allowed to do what they want, and if this is what they want to do, so be it. #pageants
@Wandell: I agree that "grown women should be allowed to do what they want", but I have to wonder why that is what they want - well, actually I don't. Everyone wants to be accepted and admired. I just think it's nobler to achieve that admiration by being a good citizen of humanity, rather than because our culture deifies looking good in a bikini. #pageants
Bittersweet? On one hand, it raises awareness and [hopefully] compassion/understanding for the trans- community, but it only does so within the framework of the 'male or female' binary. "Ok, so you're trans? I'm cool with that! So now that I accept you, do you want to be a man or a woman?"
I think, since I'm not a transwoman that it's really none of my beeswax.
It would be nice if we lived in a world where transwomen wouldn't have to have their own pageants and they could compete with cisgendered women without having to worry about being discovered or outed.
But we don't, and they're grown women, not children. We don't get to decided what's best for them anymore than we get to decided it for anyone who's up for Miss America.
I may personally find pageants semi-repugnant and stupid but that's why I don't do them. #pageants
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I'm with you Katy. I think that in setting up a beauty pageant as some sort of threshold for being viewed as acceptable by society we are basically saying that being in a beauty pageant is some sort of ultimate nod of approval from society at large. That seems profoundly backward and just goes to reinforce the common perception that a womans worth centers on her adherence to "beauty" norms. #pageants
I think I'm going to let the feelings of the participants rule the day in this case. They feel uplifted by it; they feel like it shows the world that they're not "freaks"; it makes them happy. Carry on!!
I object to child beauty pageants because of the age of participants. I don't want to instill such a one side vision of "beauty" in young minds. But these women know what fulfills them and if a pageant is it, then I'm glad they've found it! #pageants
Of course, it isn't positive in the sense that it'll lead to the wider acceptance of transpeople, or of all women ("beautiful" or not), by society, but it is a positive force in the life of the participants. They're being told that they're considered beautiful like other women. For a day, they're not abnormal or unattractive "others." #pageants
@Pandorasvoicebox: The whole premise of the pageant just for them is othering, though. And I'm really uncomfortable with the height of "acceptance" involving a swimsuit competition, for cis- and transwomen alike. #pageants
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Just thinking about the fact that there are guys out there who are more attractive than me in every feminine way is rather depressing.
Maybe I'd make a better man.
I wish there was a pageant where women/men were not allowed to wear make-up or have any prior plastic surgery. It would be very interesting because it would have to do with the person's authentic beauty, rather than how they look when doused in make-up and fake finger nails.
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Transexual men and women don't do these things BECAUSE they'd look more beautiful as a woman, or more manly as a man. They're BORN in the wrong body. These ARE women. #pageants
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I am a woman, I was born as a woman and I don't think taking pills, cutting off my breasts, and putting a member between my legs will truly change that.
Would a man be considered a monkey if we cut off his arms, legs and other body parts and replaced them with a monkey's? What if he started eating a monkey's diets and interacting with other monkeys? Would that satisfy the requirements? #pageants
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Secondly, you can't decide someone else's identity. They decide that. And since this isn't a cross-species issue, if someone decides that they identify as man, woman, or somewhere in between, they are.
Transsexuals are not men/women who cut off body parts and infiltrate your sex. Once a trans woman is socially accepted as a woman, she is no different than you. You would never even know. All that is different is the shape of some of her body parts and her chromosomes. And women come in all different shapes and sizes already, so why hold that against her? #pageants
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It may seem like an extreme example, but it's really not far from the truth. There are scores of cases where trans men and women, sometimes at a very young age, have attempted to physically remove body parts with scissors, knives, etc. because of how utterly unnatural they felt. We aren't trying to play at being women - we ARE women, trying to fix a cosmic mistake that left us in the wrong bodies, being treated as the wrong gender, for as long as we can remember.
It's an argument that's reminiscent of the gay "lifestyle" arguments - the idea that we would willingly subject ourselves to the crushing social stigma, heavy financial costs, and considerable physical danger simply to play at being women is ridiculous. As a former social worker of mine told me, "You realize that you're basically going to become a second-class citizen?"
To the original topic - I tend to come down on the side of the pageant. I'm aware we have highly subjective and often unrealistic standards of beauty for women, and that pageants do little to stop perpetuating them. On the other hand, for every transwoman in this pageant, there are hundreds out there that will never get the chance to show off their bodies as they'd like them to be. Many, if not most, simply can't afford to completely rebuild their bodies and identities from the ground up. I can't begrudge these women the chance to show that they can be every bit as feminine as those fortunate enough to be born into the correct bodies. #pageants
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But as women aren't they already privy to all that? Just like not including models of color doesn't keep women of color from absorbing the lessons our society teaches about beauty, excluding transwomen from pageants doesn't save them from feeling society's pressures.
I'm not a transwoman, so I can't speak to their specific problems, but I am a women of color and I certainly feel like I want people like me included in the definition of beautiful no matter how illogical and ultimately demeaning that is.
It's not logical, but I can't help it.
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I mean, I would say in a general sense, that logically, you are correct. But I sympathize with the plight of wanting this transformative change to happen your entire life, and therefore becoming consumed with it. So I blame plenty of other people for our fucked up standards, but totally give these women a pass. Does that make sense? #pageants
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It seems to me that showing the world that the trans genered community is beautiful, and that they want to do good things for charity is a good thing. #pageants
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I don't necessarily think pageants are "bad". It is bad when parents force their young daughters to do them, but grown women, no more then men, have the right to tell other women what to do. I think they should be allowed to do what they want, and if this is what they want to do, so be it. #pageants
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It would be nice if we lived in a world where transwomen wouldn't have to have their own pageants and they could compete with cisgendered women without having to worry about being discovered or outed.
But we don't, and they're grown women, not children. We don't get to decided what's best for them anymore than we get to decided it for anyone who's up for Miss America.
I may personally find pageants semi-repugnant and stupid but that's why I don't do them. #pageants
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I object to child beauty pageants because of the age of participants. I don't want to instill such a one side vision of "beauty" in young minds. But these women know what fulfills them and if a pageant is it, then I'm glad they've found it! #pageants
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