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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
08/06/09

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It's certainly a plausible explanation for some of the drama on Livejournal.
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funzette
08/06/09

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the oxytocin diaries

sept 4, 2001
current mood: romantic!
currently listening to: sometimes when we touch, l. hill
met the dreamiest hamster(DH) today! DH and i cuddled in the woodchip pile. couldn't drag self away! he told me nobody has ever gotten him the way i do.

sept 13, 2001
current mood: uneasy
currently listening to: no one's going to love you more than i do, band of horses.
DH has a new lab partner (LP). she giggles too much. thinking of throwing her down garbage shoot. hahahahaha, just kidding.
:|

Sept 20, 2001
current mood: pleased
currently listening to: soundtrack from twin peaks: fire walk with me
so over it. they deserve each other. it's really a shame about his new incontinence issues, must be the new drug. how embarrassing for him!
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
08/06/09

@funzette: Awesome.
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Notes from the underwhelmed
08/06/09

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Man, and I thought Oxytocin was merely responsible for my being an empty, loveless hooooor. Now it's responsible for the joy I feel when I see that the girls who picked on me in middle school still have perms (thanks, facebook!). Thanks, oxytocin!
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badmutha
08/06/09

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Oh it's just a hamster, you say. Didn't you see its sharp pointy teeth!? When it smiled at you with all that schadenfreude?
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daisen-in
08/06/09

@badmutha: I was wondering too how they identified schadenfreude in hamsters. Maybe they ran a little faster in their wheel when another hamster had its alfalfa stolen? Maybe they gleefully knocked their little hamster-ball against someone's shins?
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token_illiterate_commenter
08/06/09

@badmutha: One holy hand grenade will make short work of even the most schadenfreude-y hamster.
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08/06/09

@daisen-in: You seem to have a lot of ideas.
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morninggloria
08/06/09

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That explains the aggressive ass kickery of the University of Tennessee Lady Volunteers... they must be super jealous of all of the other teams that they play. Before each game, head coach Pat Summitt shows them computer rendered images of the other team holding hands with their boyfriends and driving really nice cars and getting highly positive write ups in Sports Illustrated.
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wtfox?!
08/06/09

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All my oxytocin must be going to the schadenfreude center of my brain.
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Notes from the underwhelmed
08/06/09

@wtfox?!: Mine too. I'm the least jealous person ever, but man do I revel in it each time a Republican gets caught in a sex scandal.
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wtfox?!
08/06/09

@Notes from the underwhelmed: There is really nothing quite like that soft, warm glow of satisfaction listening to their incoherent apologies and explanations, is there?
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J.D.Regent
08/06/09

@Notes from the underwhelmed: I appear to be missing the jealousy center in my brain too; I'd like to think I'm saving up all my oxytocin for the first animal intruder who enters my home.
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CollegeCamel
08/06/09

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Study: Oxytocin is found to make people nibble other people's bums.
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wtfox?!
08/06/09

@CollegeCamel: Does it also make them run on little wheels and want to bury themselves in a pile of wood shavings?
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NotChoinski
08/06/09

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Rush Limbaugh is one jealous, angry hamster.
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Lymed
08/06/09

@NotChoinski: Oxytocin not oxycontin. Oxytocin is a hormone. Some abstinence only proponents claim that having sex before marriage screws you up because it messes with your oxytocin levels.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
08/06/09

@Lymed: Doesn't make Rush any less a jealous, angry hamster though, I don't think.
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Treeless
08/06/09

@Lymed: Oxytocin certainly does bond people "inappropriately" sometimes . . . I support premarital everything, but sleeping with someone you know you don't like or would normally deplore is emotionally risky for this reason. The hormone can cause a person to feel attached to someone more than they may want to be. If the dabbler is aware of oxytocin's effects, it can help stave off too much relevance being attached to unexpected or unwanted post-coital feelings.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
08/06/09

@Treeless: Right back at you. :-)
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jrhys
07/15/09

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A few men I've first-dated lately -who are 40ish and who I realize now are depressed and desperate - are into massive oversharing. Like not sleeping with them on the second date or returning their multiple phone calls within the day turns into a 14 year old tailspinny freakout. They confuse oversharing or emotional puking with intimacy. It 100% makes me feel like the guy - and also makes me lose their numbers.
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msAnthrope
07/14/09

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my husband is my bf/co-hort. what i've discovered from him is that i must tell "a story" before "getting to the point." apparently there are always little details to the bigger picture that i feel i must paint in. which causes his eyes to glaze over, most of the time.

so i don't know if opposite-sex friends solves the problems. could be, the communication style of each could drive the other slightly insane.
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Zombie Ms. Skittles
07/14/09

@msAnthrope: Meh, usually I just bitch to my opposite sex friends the same way I would if I had any same sex ones. They serve the same purpose, except the dudes tend to be more snarky about it.
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PreposterousHypothesis
07/14/09

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I think it's less about having different communication styles, or rather, and more about having a friend who will call you on your shit. My best friend and I can talk about feelings with both efficiency and at length, depending on our moods, and we'll also tell each other to address our problems with the person who is giving us problems, after hashing it out between us. We're both women, but both of us can put on the perspective hat.

Plus, the oversharing isn't the issue. It's your audience. And there should be some discrimination in who you talk to, and how many people you talk to, about your personal issues. The depth of the issues you address should be gagued individually.
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The HZA.
07/14/09

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Sometimes it seems like oversharing info is what is needed. It seems better than leaving bits out. That's my thinking at least.
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Scout
07/14/09

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I (we) accidentally over-share as the walls and floors of our apartment are wafer thin. needless to say, trying to act like nothing is happening, while in the midst of the neighbors company, becomes difficult ahem
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Penny
07/14/09

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And, does anyone have this "opposite-sex friend" relationship with their partner?
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kithkin
07/14/09

@Penny: Absolutely. My husband is my best friend, and we use the term "team" instead of "marriage" more often than not. Unless it's in the context of Team Marriage: Fuck Yeah. For years before we were married we were close friends and we have always confided in one another, for the last 8 years or so. I think the partner-as-teammate metaphor is extremely important and is a huge part of my relationship's success.
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bluebears
07/14/09

@Penny: and kithkin: I have this relationship with my partner as well. We were friends before we started dating. I mean for me at least I can't imagine being with someone that I didn't consider like, (at least one of) my best friend.
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rah29
07/14/09

@Penny: My partner is amazing but there are some things he doesn't understand that my male friends do. Most importantly, I happen to have male friends who have gone through depression, and he (thankfully) hasn't, so he just can't understand what I'm going through sometimes, especially since his instinct is to tell me that all my self-criticism is nonsense.

I find it very useful to have a male perspective on some of these issues, because my communication style is a bit more stereotypically masculine (meaning: I will NOT talk unless I'm drunk, and I can't really deal with people telling me the 'nice' thing instead of the true thing). But then again, that's a matter of personality. By no means has every girl group I've known been passive-aggressive in the way my current group of female friends tends to be.
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Penny
07/14/09

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I totally overshare, not about problems as much as general information. I don't really give a shit. I've been called out on it here, but never in life, so I figure I'm fine.

I also love people who overshare with me. There's a difference between excessive obsessing over something (I think my boyfriend is going to leave me and here's why in 50000 words) and an "I don't care" attitude about things that some may find offensive/embarrassing.
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amowls
07/14/09

@Penny: Exactly. Although it is a problem at work and a reason why I am so stoney around my superiors. I'm afraid of saying ANYTHING around them because most of the time, I'm thinking about something entirely inappropriate.
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Penny
07/14/09

@amowls: I find that I don't trust people who can't be crude or honest about themselves (unless that person is my mother, who is as square as they come). I am lucky at work because my boss and I have a CRAZY open relationship and talk about everything from our bowel movements to the guys we have fucked. The only downside is that these conversations can sometimes carry over into professional settings. I can't tell you how many times I've accidentally called a coworker by one of our nicknames in a meeting.

Also, like you, I find myself thinking about totally inappropriate shit when I am around people and sometimes struggle not to bust out laughing. I pretty much avoid all eye contact with my boss in meetings unless he and I are engaging about work.
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