I was wondering if Jezebel was going to talk about this latest suicide. I read about it this morning and I think the most heartbreaking part was that his sister, roughly the same age, found him and was holding onto his legs trying to pull him down and save him. Just so fucking pointless and senseless.
And of course the school is refusing to comment and will probably claim they 'did everything they could,' which we all know is bullshit. So many school officials are hands off when it comes to bullying, especially when it involves homophobic-based attacks.
@hovy: It really is a heartbreaking story. All taunting and bullying should be unacceptable, but it hurts more when you can guess that this kid probably did nothing to aggravate the bullies except exist. He reported the problem. He reached out to the teachers and staff of his school, people who supposedly care about his well-being (or at the very least are responsible for it during school hours). Nobody bothered to do anything about it, and that is truly chilling.
I wasn't interested in seeing the allegedly nude photos of Korean Abdul Jabaar but joyfully clicked through to look at Berlusconi. And what an awesome choice I made! I'm still giggling.
Yeah, Nicole, you crashed your car while under the influence with your daughter in the car. Your daughter was injured because you crashed your car while high out of your mind. You have no one to be angry at other than yourself. Put the damn birds down.
Taste in movies affects your decision making? So the fact that my friend shrieks at me over politics, and tells me that Obama is a muslim, is because she is also the SAME FRIEND who makes me go see "House Bunny" and "Four Christmases"??? It all makes sense now!
I'm glad they can leave ovaries in. I'm curious, though, about what those ovaries do, eggwise, once the uterus has gone. Can a medical jezzie explain this one to me? Do they keep the eggs to themselves? Do they litter them around? What happens?
@MeganGlass (is pronounced wiener slave): The ovaries secretes hormones that work all over the body. I think the ovules get reabsorbed but I don't remember in which order.
@Brigit: Well, yeah, I know what ovaries do. I gots some. It's nice that they can leave them in and spare a woman years of hormone replacement, and the hassle and expense that goes with it. I was just wondering where all those lil' eggs go.
@MeganGlass (is pronounced wiener slave): But here's the thing I don't really get...my mom still had her ovaries at age 76 and died of ovarian cancer. So I've always assumed that if I had to have a hysterectomy I would have the ovaries out, too, to avoid that fate.
I refuse to do hormone therapy at any age and figure going cold turkey won't really be too much worse than being menopausal for the last five years or so...or decade if we count hot flashes...
@MeganGlass (is pronounced wiener slave): My mom had a bunch of conditions and the doctors were considering removing both ovaries. Thankfully, her OB/GYN worked really hard for her to stay with one of them -he though she was gonna need it anyhow- although that wasn't the norm at the time. She started local hormone replacement in her mid-50's. I love that OB/GYN.
@Tart of Darkness: if you have a surgical menopause at a young age, HRT is a godsend. I was severely depressed after my surgery, and I bounced right back after a couple weeks of HRT. It probably saved my life.
@Tart of Darkness: @Brigit: Yeah, hormone therapy really kind of bugs me out. It's nice to think that if I need to get rid of the uterus, I can avoid having to take the pills, and let things age more naturally. A really good friend of mine had it all out, and has stopped her hormone therapy. The only thing she liked about it was that it made her boobs grow and she's 38 and her boobs look about 20. And she has a kid.
The interesting thing about women in the sciences is that we're really far from uniformly distributed. In my observations, there are more women in biology than chemistry, more women in chemistry than physics, more women in chemical engineering than mechanical engineering or electrical engineering...and I honestly have no idea why that is.
@baraqiel: I have found the same thing. Also biophysics has more men than mol. bio.
Funny thing: In my uni's vet school you can see the portraits of the graduated classes in a hall. The first few years (early 1900's) is exclusively male, women appear -but remain scarce- until the late seventies. Then female concentration increases until now, like in med school, there is a very large female population.
@Ailanthus-altissima: @schweppes: I also think that some of it has to do with how practical the various disciplines are (not all the time, but certainly with things like physics vs. chemistry). My father is a computer scientist and he told me that he'd once gone to a brainstorming session about how to get more women interested in coding and found out that women go into compsci in much higher numbers if they're presented with information about what they can do with it, whereas men go into it just because they think it's cool. I think in our world right now, bio and chem are, to a certain extent, more easily applicable than physics is, especially high-level research physics, so it's possible that the same effect is in play.
I get fucking livid when it comes to school bullying. It's in my experience in dealing with administrators that homophobic harassment and sexual harassment is not taken nearly as seriously as it should be. That poor family.
@greengrey: And I know this seems a bit harsh, but if someone is fucking hitting your child or harassing them verbally, you need to know and act accordingly. I've seen too many administrators and teachers pull the whole boys being boys and chalking up fighting to simply part of being male.
@Vivelafat says Sweep the leg, Johnny.: You're making a point and I get it, but at least those administrators are trying to act in a way that protects students. So yes, it's silly that Aspirin results in an expulsion, but at the same time, there needs to be a system of keeping track of the medications students carrying and/or using. Adverse reactions happen, you know?
Best of intentions, not a fantastic execution of policy.
But homophobic and sexual harassment? Completely different issue. If your kid is getting fucking assaulted on the regular and your administrators tell you to toughen him up, that shit is simply fucked up. No good intentions. Just hate.
I've always wondered how the ovaries stay in place if you remove the uterus but leave the ovaries behind.
I'm excited about women scientists in the news, because this morning, I found that a friend that I trained capoeira with was in the news today with an article about the research she's been doing. It's really (vicariously) thrilling to see someone you know quoted and listed as a scientist.
The mini-Zinhas weaned themselves at 5 and a half. I'm hoping that will make up for the fact that I have a major heart defect. I got too much shit to do to be messin' around with no cardiac arrest.
@Cafezinha: I think everything just settles into place, but I'm just guessing. Our organs aren't stationary. They do shift slightly, or so my dad once told me.
@hello.kitty: I read once that if during surgery a doctor needs to remove your intestines, when they're done, they can just toss them back in any which way and it'll work itself out. I found this mindblowing and in retrospect have no idea if it's true.
@BlondeGrlz: Two weeks into breast feeding is much worse than two months into it and (I'm assuming although I didn't go that far) two years. Trust me on this. You do "toughen up" a little bit in time and the let down is less painful.
I am so devistated about these two boys suicides. I just dont even know what to say. Fuck this world, I swear.
On behalf of Brooklyn, we would like to send Danielle back to Utah. Please find better ways to use your displaced hipster rage, mmmkay? MFs like her and Borf make me sick.
@AlannaBanana: I used to live in DC, thats how I heard of him. BUT he did take a Brooklyn trip at some point in his sorry life, because I saw his name not too far from my crib.
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And of course the school is refusing to comment and will probably claim they 'did everything they could,' which we all know is bullshit. So many school officials are hands off when it comes to bullying, especially when it involves homophobic-based attacks.
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Wanted to say that the minis weaned themselves at 3 and a half, not 5 and a half. Bit of a difference there. :)
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I can't stop laughing at this mug shot. So indignant, this one!
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My OB-GYN explained that my eggs are still released and just absorbed back into my body.
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I refuse to do hormone therapy at any age and figure going cold turkey won't really be too much worse than being menopausal for the last five years or so...or decade if we count hot flashes...
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@Tart of Darkness: if you have a surgical menopause at a young age, HRT is a godsend. I was severely depressed after my surgery, and I bounced right back after a couple weeks of HRT. It probably saved my life.
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Funny thing: In my uni's vet school you can see the portraits of the graduated classes in a hall. The first few years (early 1900's) is exclusively male, women appear -but remain scarce- until the late seventies. Then female concentration increases until now, like in med school, there is a very large female population.
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I think if a parent is alerted to their child being harassed, and the school isn't doing anything, authorities should be alerted.
I see no reason why kids shouldn't be allowed to get restraining orders over this stuff.
I don't understand why when we're adults it's assault, but as children (teens) it's "bullying".
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I'd have bullying kids doing community service mad quick.
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Best of intentions, not a fantastic execution of policy.
But homophobic and sexual harassment? Completely different issue. If your kid is getting fucking assaulted on the regular and your administrators tell you to toughen him up, that shit is simply fucked up. No good intentions. Just hate.
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I'm excited about women scientists in the news, because this morning, I found that a friend that I trained capoeira with was in the news today with an article about the research she's been doing. It's really (vicariously) thrilling to see someone you know quoted and listed as a scientist.
The mini-Zinhas weaned themselves at 5 and a half. I'm hoping that will make up for the fact that I have a major heart defect. I got too much shit to do to be messin' around with no cardiac arrest.
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On behalf of Brooklyn, we would like to send Danielle back to Utah. Please find better ways to use your displaced hipster rage, mmmkay? MFs like her and Borf make me sick.
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