And I read some of the comments and looked at some of the photos and I want to vomit/cry/punch him in the face. In particular, the photo of Neda. And all the haha-beating-up-your-girlfriend-is-hilarious jokes.
Seriously, I want to crawl into a hole and never come out after reading some of the comments. I feel like there is absolutely no hope if this is how men are turning out these days. And there is no fighting it because they just laugh and call you a feminist bitch and keep telling stupid jokes.
I hate the planet right now. =(
@TurtleSpeak: The comments from women are the ones that really make me want to puke. It says they're fighting a TOS violation, so here's hoping it'll be gone soon.
@pileofmonkeys: I almost hope it doesn't get taken down, so that any women who might consider dating them in the future can see it and make a properly informed decision.
@TurtleSpeak: Wow. Facebook won't allow mothers to put up pictures of themselves breastfeeding, but a whole page about dominating women and even beating them up is fine.
@TurtleSpeak: tell your boyfriend and speak to the son's mother and if they say something that justifies the little brother's views just break up with them.
@envirodesigner: I sent a message to my boyfriend, who is a feminist like me, I hope he will say something to his brother... because I know his brother looks up to him.
But... I already have a tumultuous relationship with his mother (she is a hardcore conservative). We once got into a fight because she blamed the women's movement for getting women the right to work, because if she wasn't allowed to work she could have spent more time with her kids, so therefore the women's movement sucked and women should be forced to stay home like in the good old days. And another fight because she was going on about how she hates having to be "politically correct" about racist jokes because "stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason- they're true!"...
She doesn't exactly agree with my political views, to say the least... I'm not even going there, we've made a peace treaty for the mean time...
@pileofmonkeys: I know, the women participating make me really sad. I hope none of them ever have to deal firsthand with the issues they're laughing about so uproariously (i.e. being beaten up/to death by a significant other). I reported the group to the powers that be but I don't think it'll disappear given the ToS violation that they're being held up for is for being too similar to another group, or something.
@ClementinedeWinter: I honestly don't think I looked at Taylor Lautner's face for the entire second act. Or the parts of the third act that he was in. I was so annoyed when the plot actually arrived and we had to go to Italy, because it meant no more shirtless werewolves -- and boy howdy, were there shirtless werewolves! Not just Taylor Lautner shirtless werewolves, either.
Hey y'all. So I'm sitting on the couch, watching the Food Network, feeling kinda bummed. My husband just left for a three week business trip. It's already hard that he's going to be gone for so long, AND over Thanksgiving, but I'm especially sad because we've had a really hard year and things have been so great lately and I'd just like to have him around, you know? On top of that, I've been sober for 22 days, and I'm still adjusting. I don't really have any sober friends, and drinking has been such a part of my identity and social life for so long (with terrible results, but still) that I just feel a little lost.
@girl.of.your.dreams: Sending good thoughts and cyberhugs your way! Distance really, really sucks. And congrats on your 22 days sober, that's fantastic.
I have a sinus infection. I've had really bad allergies basically from the moment I moved to my current place. The first few weeks I had vertigo so bad I had to miss work. I frequently have nosebleeds now, because of the damn sinuses. Headaches are common. Claritin, etc., doesn't do much. When I went to the doctor, the really cool nurse said this particular place is "the allergy pit," because of how the allergens just sit and settle and hover and cause death and mayhem.
I'm thinking this might be the thing that finally causes me to go, to really apply for jobs and mean it. I've been hesitant, because well, I'm a wimp. But I leave town and come back and get a headache instantly. Another thing, I have no friends-tried to get some earlier, but failed. I do have a good therapist, and we're figuring out my shit, but we just got started and leaving this town would mean leaving her.
How do you know when it's time to leave a place? Is a good enough job but a bad enough everything else reason?
@lalaland13: For allergies: bee pollen is a serious miracle-worker. My bf and I had severe allergies (cat, musty old home) when we rented a place for a month and bee pollen completely cleared them up for both of us. Also: get a neti pot or one of those purified water nose inhalers - they help with sinus problems a lot.
Maybe when you're feeling better, it will be easier for you to pursue your other aims.
@lalaland13: Are you in Nashville? This is supposed to be one of the worst places for allergies, and my husband would notice a marked difference when he went out of town. That said, he has seemed to either outgrow the allergies or just adjust. It's not nearly as bad anymore.
But it sounds like you're really keen to go. I say why not? You can always go back if you miss it. Restlessness is a good enough reason to leave, especially if you're essentially unattached.
@Lysergic Asset: I have a Netipot, actuually, just haven't used it in a while, because it's kind of a pain. But maybe I should. Sigh.
I've heard eating a spoonful of local honey each day helps with allergies. Is that what you mean by bee pollen?
And I've been thinking of pursuing other things for the past two years or so. It's insane. I keep going back and forth, several times in day, several times in an hour.
No wonder my therapist thinks I have OCD. Ruminations, anyone? I keep thinking shit like, "Oh, I could move back to (home state), but they're about to elect that idiot governor for a third frackin' term. I can't live in a state where he's governor!" Then I think, "I can't stay here; these people are even worse in some ways!"
Of course, I can do either one. It just all depends on other things.
I've sent out some apps before, but nothing. Now there's a couple more potential jobs out there that I could apply for. I probably should, as I am going to have to leave Allergy Pit sooner or later. I will not be retiring here.
@kad9k: Nope. Next state over. To the west. Nashville seems like a kind of awesome city, really. But I've never lived in a city with more than 100k people, so I'm starving for anything urban. I don't know if I can move right into a big city based on my job field, but within 30 minutes would be a lot better than what I have now.
@lalaland13: i've had severe sinus problems my entire life and the Neti pot is the only thing that i've found (short of nuclear-strength antibiotics) that works. it's a huge pain and often painful, but using it as soon as you feel an attack coming on is amazingly effective.
@lalaland13: As a person who uses this question as a pressure-relief valve every so often, I repeat to myself: wherever I go, there I am. This helps me figure out if it's really the new place with its new landscape that I want, or just to escape myself. Yeah, it's usually that.
@cantankasaurus rex: Yeah, you may be right. It was fairly effective-when the nosebleed, I would occasionally start the Netipot as a form of "Fuck you, nosebleed." It looked like something out of a horror movie: Me, with a genie bottle and a bloody nose, breathing heavily in front of the bathroom mirror.
@Lysergic Asset: Ohh thanks! It looks kinda pretty, too.
@ardentlilac: I've thought that too, but place and how you feel about it does matter some. Not as much as how I feel about myself, maybe. But it does matter.
And also, I don't want to have sex with myself forever.
Wherever I go, I do need a therapist. That's probably true.
@lalaland13: Some places are truly unique (San Francisco, NYC, New Orleans) but I've found very similar people and issues everywhere I've lived. Probably because of who/what I seek out, of course: can't escape myself, etc.
When people say blank city is terrible for singles! or blank city is great for singles! it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy and I wouldn't take any of that on board (if that's what you're concerned about).
Okay, I've spent the last seven hours or so curled up on the couch watching old movies. It was a Katharine Hepburn (the ultimate) marathon that was interrupted by Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany's. This might just be the most perfect day ever.
1. Why is Katharine Hepburn the greatest actress of all time? (Rhetorical - She is. It's been proven)
2. Why does the song Moon River make me tear up even though I never cry?
3. What is it about black & white movies that are so comforting?
4. I think I genuinely have the mean reds and I don't think a trip to Tiffany's or a male prostitute friend will cure them. How do you all cure the mean reds?
@JessickerFletcher: I think that black and white movies are comforting because they are simple, maybe not the subject matter all the time, but they just seem less loud and less relient on sudden scene changes and color for entertainment.
@HuckleberryFriend: Before I even read your comment I said to myself "I'm gonna heart that lady!" HuckleberryFriend is one of the best usernames I've seen in a while.
God, Tiffany's is one of those movies that I could watch over an over again. I could even watch it on mute - literally recite the entire movie. Plus, it's just fun to look at.
@duetoprivacy: Yes, this. Modern movies rely too much on the latest film-making techniques, or computer editing processes or screenwriting workshop tricks. It all feels so...mass manufactured.
@hovy: Not in this marathon but The Philadelphia Story is among my favorites. As a Main Liner myself, I find it endlessly entertaining/accurate.
The SS True Love. My my, they were all so yar.
I know you're an old movie buff (right?). Have you ever seen Woman of the Year? It's a Hepburn classic and as a Tracy/Hepburn flick that is not to be missed. It was ahead of it's time in many ways.
@hovy: Do it! For whatever reason, time has forgotten this film. It's honestly just fun and progressive (for women) - and it's a historical treasure, perspectively, in my opinion. Woman of the Year is really just the predecessor for more celebrated flicks like other Tracy/Hepburn (America's first sweethearts! I joke) Adam's Rib and Guess Who's Coming to Dinner.
@JessickerFletcher: I just noticed that Tracy/Hepburn Signature Collection from Warner Bros is on sale at Amazon for $18 -- and it has Women of the Year. I may just order it now instead of waiting for Netflix. ;)
@hovy: I OWN THAT! That's what I watched it on. Worth it. Completely. As a diehard Hepburn fan, I also own the Hepburn collection (rarer films) which is also worth it for the cinematic treasure that is Dragon Seed (100% white people pretending to be Chinese).
I would say "hearted" but in honesty, you had me at AbFab avatar.
The opening night film is a newly restored print of A Star is Born, which Warners will release on DVD around the time of the festival. I'm so very tempted to go.
@hovy: My favorite movie of all time, and only realized they were broadcasting it about an hour in. I know every scene by heart, but still. Grrrr. I have a full-time job and can't monitor the daily schedule of AMC, FMC and TCM! But I'd like to quit so I could try.
@hovy: Feel free to PM me (God knows I'll need some distraction during the Holidays). They're just so perfect together. They're almost the archetype for the fat guy, skinny wife relationships you find on prime time TV these days... except they're good together.
Now that I think about it, did you ever see Bringing Up Baby? It's the classic farcical comedy. Endlessly entertaining. (Cary Grant even pokes fun at his own sexuality in this one)
By the way, I want to say that you mentioned How to Marry a Millionaire last week. Am I mistaken?
@JessickerFletcher: Oh yes, I've seen Bringing Up Baby. Very entertaining. And is it in the set? Amazon is just showing Woman of the Year, Pat & Mike and Adam's Rib, plus some documentary.
@JessickerFletcher: The festival is in Hollywood. The official reception and hotel is the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel, and the two venues are Grauman's Chinese Theater and the Egyptian Theater. So it's definitely high class all the way.
And sadly, yeah, it seems like fewer and fewer people are into classic films these days. I know the major studios of all but stopped releasing them on DVD due to poor sales over the last few years (with some exceptions) -- which is why so many box sets and titles are at such rock bottom prices now. It's great for those of us who've waited to buy the movies, but also sad cause there are still a lot of gems -- like the African Queen -- that have never been released on DVD.
1. African Queen = ridiculously amazing. Still in shock that I can't find it anywhere. Luckily, I have a DVR and TCM to quench my insatiable Hepburn thirst.
2. I have a different set of DVD's (I'm very curious about the documentary)
3. I only watched How to Marry A Millionaire for Lauren Bacall (that voice!). Bacall in Key Largo (possibly the longest movie ever), one word: amazing.
4. It's sad how classic films have lost influence/popularity. I say we create a club!
I just finished watching BSG: The Plan and was so disappointed by it. It felt more like footnotes added after-the-fact than an actual plan.
One positive thing I can say about the movie though is that it has a cock shot in it. Shame the whole movie just wasn't cock shots of most of the BSG men.
@hovy: I thought it was decent and liked it after thinking on it for a while. But it had a high bar to meet in Razor and people's expectations were already low after the series finale. Plus there was so much old footage, it just made me want to rewatch season 1 more than anything.
@vulcanized: I sorta knew they were going to use some old footage, but the extent they used was just way too much. It began feeling like a clip show more than anything else.
My night just got so much better! I thought my best friend was mad at me for like days but she wasn't! Just a misunderstanding through technology. I was getting scared cause we've never been in a fight in the 7 years I've known her.
@vulcanized: I share a name with a girl who was murdered a few years ago in a different part of the country. Every hit is details about [my name]'s murder. It's very disconcerting.
Hey Jezzies! I've noticed that there seems to be a lack of TMI tonight so, let's talk about sex! Particularly sex fantasies. I'm kind of worried because I have some PTSD issues and generally want a guy to be kind and gentle. However, in the bedroom being roughed up a bit turns me on and it's kind of disturbing to me. More disturbing is the fact that I have recurring fantasies about "forced" violent sex-which is just awful and weird. I don't understand why I keep having these thoughts, especially considering all of the emotional crap I've gone through with being sexually assaulted. I was talking to the guy I'm seeing back home and he said that he would be willing to try a few things in the dom/sub catagory if I wanted to. Part of me thinks that would be great, but the other part of me is afraid that it will backfire and I'll wind up having a flashback or something terrible. Anyway....enough about me. Do you ladies ever have fantasies that disturb you? If so, what do you do?
@5ft of fury: I'm not a psychoanalyst or a psychologist, but maybe your need to have that sort of fantasy played out in a controlled environment is not that odd.
@5ft of fury: I have the same basic sex issues that you do, and I don't have PTSD. I think anyone who's half-attuned to the news or is vaguely aware of the new sexual standards being set by porn is going to be really leery of having sex with a twenty-something guy. Most of my crushes, real and Hollywood, are guys who strike me as not being very sexual.
@5ft of fury: Well, I have very little experience in this area but I would say to make sure you feel 100% comfortable with whoever you plan on trying this with. I would also suggest stepping into this gradually, so that when you feel like you may be going into uncomfortable territory, you can take a step back. I also would recommend a fun safe word like "potato" or "mongoose."
And thank you for opening up the TMI door! It's one of my favorites.
@5ft of fury: I was in a severely abusive relationship and was raped. I still enjoy the BDSM (I'm submissive in the role playing).
The two are completely different for me because BDSM is all about pleasure (abuse, obviously not).
My suggestion is to go slow. You'll find out if there are any triggers for you. Have a safe word-- and as unsexy as it may sound, talk to your partner before and after. What you liked, what you want more of, what you want to avoid.
@rodmanstreet: Haha, yeah he insists on a safeword for this sort of thing. I think that a fun one would help-"mongose" or "potato" are going to be up for consideration!
@5ft of fury: First, on you -- that's natural, I think. It's completely separate from your experience because playing out a fantasy is still your choice, even if it is rough or a forced-sex fantasy. You have some control over that.
And I've had the same kind of fantasies, so there's that.
@5ft of fury: Even if he doesn't insist on a safeword, you definitely should! It's important to bring it up beforehand, not only because it gets you talking about boundaries, but also because it's fun. Obviously you want to pick a word that could not be misunderstood as part of the game (e.g. NO or STOP). Because yelling "GRIZZLY BEAR!" cannot be misconstrued as typical sexy talk.
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And I read some of the comments and looked at some of the photos and I want to vomit/cry/punch him in the face. In particular, the photo of Neda. And all the haha-beating-up-your-girlfriend-is-hilarious jokes.
Seriously, I want to crawl into a hole and never come out after reading some of the comments. I feel like there is absolutely no hope if this is how men are turning out these days. And there is no fighting it because they just laugh and call you a feminist bitch and keep telling stupid jokes.
I hate the planet right now. =(
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But... I already have a tumultuous relationship with his mother (she is a hardcore conservative). We once got into a fight because she blamed the women's movement for getting women the right to work, because if she wasn't allowed to work she could have spent more time with her kids, so therefore the women's movement sucked and women should be forced to stay home like in the good old days. And another fight because she was going on about how she hates having to be "politically correct" about racist jokes because "stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason- they're true!"...
She doesn't exactly agree with my political views, to say the least... I'm not even going there, we've made a peace treaty for the mean time...
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Anyways, regardless of beliefs women should be respected. But that's just imho.
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That is the difference between a crap movie and a movie that my boyfriend puts into the regular sexytimes inducing rotation, much like 300.
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I'm thinking this might be the thing that finally causes me to go, to really apply for jobs and mean it. I've been hesitant, because well, I'm a wimp. But I leave town and come back and get a headache instantly. Another thing, I have no friends-tried to get some earlier, but failed. I do have a good therapist, and we're figuring out my shit, but we just got started and leaving this town would mean leaving her.
How do you know when it's time to leave a place? Is a good enough job but a bad enough everything else reason?
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Maybe when you're feeling better, it will be easier for you to pursue your other aims.
And: trust your intuition!
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But it sounds like you're really keen to go. I say why not? You can always go back if you miss it. Restlessness is a good enough reason to leave, especially if you're essentially unattached.
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I've heard eating a spoonful of local honey each day helps with allergies. Is that what you mean by bee pollen?
And I've been thinking of pursuing other things for the past two years or so. It's insane. I keep going back and forth, several times in day, several times in an hour.
No wonder my therapist thinks I have OCD. Ruminations, anyone? I keep thinking shit like, "Oh, I could move back to (home state), but they're about to elect that idiot governor for a third frackin' term. I can't live in a state where he's governor!" Then I think, "I can't stay here; these people are even worse in some ways!"
Of course, I can do either one. It just all depends on other things.
I've sent out some apps before, but nothing. Now there's a couple more potential jobs out there that I could apply for. I probably should, as I am going to have to leave Allergy Pit sooner or later. I will not be retiring here.
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@lalaland13: This is bee pollen - totally distinct from honey. Good luck with all your changes!
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@Lysergic Asset: Ohh thanks! It looks kinda pretty, too.
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And also, I don't want to have sex with myself forever.
Wherever I go, I do need a therapist. That's probably true.
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1. Why is Katharine Hepburn the greatest actress of all time? (Rhetorical - She is. It's been proven)
2. Why does the song Moon River make me tear up even though I never cry?
3. What is it about black & white movies that are so comforting?
4. I think I genuinely have the mean reds and I don't think a trip to Tiffany's or a male prostitute friend will cure them. How do you all cure the mean reds?
Ooh, SNL's gonna start soon. That might help!
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God, Tiffany's is one of those movies that I could watch over an over again. I could even watch it on mute - literally recite the entire movie. Plus, it's just fun to look at.
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"I know. You know I know. I know you know I know. We know Henry knows, and Henry knows we know it. We're a knowledgeable family."
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The SS True Love. My my, they were all so yar.
I know you're an old movie buff (right?). Have you ever seen Woman of the Year? It's a Hepburn classic and as a Tracy/Hepburn flick that is not to be missed. It was ahead of it's time in many ways.
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I would say "hearted" but in honesty, you had me at AbFab avatar.
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And I'll have the Tracy/Hepburn set by Wednesday. Just in time for a four-day weekend viewing party. :)
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The opening night film is a newly restored print of A Star is Born, which Warners will release on DVD around the time of the festival. I'm so very tempted to go.
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Now that I think about it, did you ever see Bringing Up Baby? It's the classic farcical comedy. Endlessly entertaining. (Cary Grant even pokes fun at his own sexuality in this one)
By the way, I want to say that you mentioned How to Marry a Millionaire last week. Am I mistaken?
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Another thing: I'm so glad to find a classic movie buff. We're becoming so rare these days...
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And yes, I did mention How to Marry a Millionaire last weekend. I watched it on Sunday. :)
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And sadly, yeah, it seems like fewer and fewer people are into classic films these days. I know the major studios of all but stopped releasing them on DVD due to poor sales over the last few years (with some exceptions) -- which is why so many box sets and titles are at such rock bottom prices now. It's great for those of us who've waited to buy the movies, but also sad cause there are still a lot of gems -- like the African Queen -- that have never been released on DVD.
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1. African Queen = ridiculously amazing. Still in shock that I can't find it anywhere. Luckily, I have a DVR and TCM to quench my insatiable Hepburn thirst.
2. I have a different set of DVD's (I'm very curious about the documentary)
3. I only watched How to Marry A Millionaire for Lauren Bacall (that voice!). Bacall in Key Largo (possibly the longest movie ever), one word: amazing.
4. It's sad how classic films have lost influence/popularity. I say we create a club!
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One positive thing I can say about the movie though is that it has a cock shot in it. Shame the whole movie just wasn't cock shots of most of the BSG men.
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Relief over something, at least!
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@curiousgeorgiana: Best response ever. Maybe I should watch that instead....
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You were named...after the dog!!!
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And thank you for opening up the TMI door! It's one of my favorites.
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The two are completely different for me because BDSM is all about pleasure (abuse, obviously not).
My suggestion is to go slow. You'll find out if there are any triggers for you. Have a safe word-- and as unsexy as it may sound, talk to your partner before and after. What you liked, what you want more of, what you want to avoid.
Be patient, trust your partner, and enjoy!!
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And I've had the same kind of fantasies, so there's that.
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