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    Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects

    "dont be surprised if you have a nervous breakdown within the next 3 year due to immense repression"
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    Image of Rooo sez BISH PLZ Rooo sez BISH PLZ
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    So funny. Charts and graphs had to be used to demonstrate this profound finding accurately.
    Oh well. Boys keep telling us they're visual. So maybe they'll pay real attention this time.
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    Image of Schrodinger's Cat Schrodinger's Cat
    09/28/09

    @Rooo sez BISH PLZ: "No, leave the light on, pretty gir... What's this? A bar graph?!"
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    Image of Rooo sez BISH PLZ Rooo sez BISH PLZ
    09/28/09

    @Schrodinger's Cat: I know, right? Shiny!
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    Image of rixatrix rixatrix
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    Who wants to date a guy who just tells you what you already know? Shazzam!
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    Image of pleppy pleppy
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    Ha! And not knowing the difference between "your" and "you're" increases that chance.
    Pay attention boys: grammar is important.
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    09/28/09

    @pleppy: I loved that. It's not just me!
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    Image of Schrodinger's Cat Schrodinger's Cat
    09/28/09

    @pleppy: I'm VERY pleased to learn this. Perhaps moreso than the overall message of this study. I have a feeling anyone on this site would consider "your pretty" a deal-breaker.
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    Image of FroderickFronkensteen FroderickFronkensteen
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    I recently got a very long letter on OKCupid that was quite clearly the product of Google Translate. Highlights include:"You are looking so beautiful and sincere too. I am looking good and sincere friends."
    Also,
    "Regards, Lonely"

    Needless to say, I didn't reply for a multitude of reasons, the "looking so beautiful" among them.
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    Rooo sez BISH PLZ promoted this comment FroderickFronkensteen was starred FroderickFronkensteen was unstarred
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    09/28/09

    @FroderickFronkensteen: I ... no comment.
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    Image of cocobanal cocobanal
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    So true! When I was doing the online dating thing, I preferred that the man demonstrate that he had actually read my profile and wasn't just reacting to how I looked. I can't tell you how many men clearly didn't even look at my profile before they emailed me. If a man demonstrated that he'd taken the time to read what I'd written and that he'd actually thought about it enough to write about it in an email--that's sexy. Saying "you're pretty" is shallow and, to me, an indication that he just wants arm candy or someone to have sex with. I suppose that's judgmental and unfair of me to think that, but that's how it works--and apparently, I'm in the majority, as indicated above.
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    Image of saturnsky saturnsky
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    I think it's such an obvious line to tell a woman that she's pretty, I think a lot of women would prefer something a little more unique, a little more personalized. Something that required thought.
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    Image of Schrodinger's Cat Schrodinger's Cat
    09/28/09

    @saturnsky: Especially using just the word "pretty"... it's non-committal... it's un-original... it's not a very strong adjective! It's a middle of the road adjective, at best. I see this, and I read:
    "You're not unattractive... I could totally bang you."

    Thanks for the stamp of approval, Choad.
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    Cunning_Linguist promoted this comment Schrodinger's Cat was starred Schrodinger's Cat was unstarred
    Image of c'est fou mec c'est fou mec
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    personally, i prefer a nice ass-grab to any kind of compliment. if only we could translate that to an online-format.
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    Dirk Anger promoted this comment c'est fou mec was starred c'est fou mec was unstarred
    Image of Dirk Anger Dirk Anger
    09/28/09

    @c'est fou mec: Send them the suggestion, I'm sure they'll be glad to add a button to the profiles
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    Image of breccia breccia
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    Once someone sent me a message on OkCupid that said only: "hey sexxxy" I think it goes without saying that I immediately ran out of my apartment and drove to his house to have crazy sex with him all night long.

    That's just how us women work!
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    Image of boobookitteh boobookitteh
    09/28/09

    @breccia: I had the exact same response to a guy on true whose screen name was 'looking4labia'.

    How hot is that?
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    breccia promoted this comment boobookitteh was starred boobookitteh was unstarred
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    09/28/09

    @boobookitteh: I'm going to go with: EXTREMELY!

    He sounds like a gentleman. It's a story I'd like to tell my mother.
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    Image of boobookitteh boobookitteh
    09/28/09

    @breccia: it's the story I tell people who ask me why I'm not using dating sites anymore!
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    Image of MizJenkins MizJenkins
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    I daresay the prettier the woman, the more true this is. The worst is when a guy says, "I bet you hear this all the time but..."

    Why lead by admitting you're shallow and unoriginal?
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    Image of andBegorrah andBegorrah
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    B-- But-- Science! Science, you guys!! Men look at women and stuff, 'cause when they're pretty, it's like an evolutionary imperative to stare and assess and comment! Why are you so mad???!?!! It's science!
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    Image of lalaland13 lalaland13
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    A comment about my eyes or my smile would be nice, but a general "you're hot" or "You have a nice ass" does nothing for me. Especially since my ass is not pictured on OkCupid, sir.

    Once a guy told me if we met there was a "99 percent chance" he'd grab my ass. I replied by telling him there was a 99 percent chance he'd get sprayed with mace.
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    Image of MeetJoMarch MeetJoMarch
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    The one physical compliment that always bothers me is "You're cute." It's like being compared to being plain, a little girl, or buttons.
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    andBegorrah promoted this comment MeetJoMarch was starred MeetJoMarch was unstarred
    Image of andBegorrah andBegorrah
    09/28/09

    @MeetJoMarch: When people say that, I explain that my mother's side of the family is Wittle Baby Duckie Wuckies.
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    09/28/09

    @andBegorrah: ha. My husband always (always!) says "You look cute... NOT babyduck cute, I swear."
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    Image of district of confusion district of confusion
    09/28/09

    @andBegorrah: HA! I am stealing that. That made me spit sweet potato soup out a little.
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    labeled promoted this comment district of confusion was starred district of confusion was unstarred
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    09/28/09

    @district of confusion: Back up. Sweet potato soup? Is there chipotle involved?
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    Image of whynotshesaid whynotshesaid
    09/28/09

    @MeetJoMarch: It always reminds me of junior high school.
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    Image of district of confusion district of confusion
    09/28/09

    @labeled: No chipotle. Sweet potatoes boiled in broth, w/ some sauteed onions, then blended smooth, add nutmeg and cinnamon. Yum.
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    Rooo sez BISH PLZ promoted this comment district of confusion was starred district of confusion was unstarred
    Image of Rooo sez BISH PLZ Rooo sez BISH PLZ
    09/28/09

    @district of confusion: Wow. Sounds like there should be chipotle involved. Or serrano, or something.
    What kind of broth? Chicken stock? Veggie stock? Are the onions blended in or left whole? And in what were they sauteed?
    (Obviously I'm fascinated.)
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    09/28/09

    @Rooo sez BISH PLZ: It sounds good, & I agree that maybe a touch of chipotle or serrano or jalapeno might go well... Or maybe garam masala instead of nutmeg and cinnamon. Um, yes, this did wander a bit, but editors, I throw myself at your mercy, and ask leniency. I never realized how I've ignored sweet potatoes by just baking and serving with butter, salt and honey.
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    Image of EkaterinaBallerina EkaterinaBallerina
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    A guy in my office that used to stalk me (in person and over the internet), joined that site after people in his dept found out he'd never had a girlfriend. The profile is riff with lies and withheld information. And the "similar profiles" tab always had some less than decent looking guys as suggestions. I thought the site was a low-rent version of E Harmony or Match.com but then another former co-worker joined. I had to warn her about the other guy as she'd been the target of his stalking as well.

    In short, I have nothing but bad thoughts about this site anyway. Stats aren't going to change that.
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    Image of PixieSparkle PixieSparkle
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects

    I prefer charts that look like pac-man.
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    Image of morninggloria morninggloria
    09/28/09

    In reply to Who Knew?: Women Prefer To Be Treated Like People, Not Sex Objects
    Men need to be more creative in their compliments. I'd much rather hear about how awesome my tits are. And I love it when men use the word "tits."
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    09/28/09

    @morninggloria: "Tits" is hot. "Titties" makes me want to hurl.
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    Image of The Media The Media
    09/28/09

    @morninggloria: ever since the Venture Brothers, I've sometimes referred to awesome things as "just tits."

    "Man, that margarita was just tits!"

    And then I have to go into an explanation of why archaic, old-timey phrasings are so amusing to me. I also use "I like the cut of his jib!" without irony.
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