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    Image of Little Time Bomb Little Time Bomb
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    I had to go back and re-read the caption on slide 6 several times. He's only the 3rd African American senator since reconstruction? That can't be right, dear lord I don't want that to be right. If that's true it's huge that he's become president, but post-racial America, my fanny. Call me when being anything other than a white male isn't note worthy and we'll talk post-racial, post-gender. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    I can't get over how much I love this family. Obama may have tip-toed around the question regarding the equality within his marriage (I would too, if posed that question right now, for fear of stepping on my partner's toes) but I still look at them as a model for a good family. Ups and downs, long distance relationships, and they're still together and strong. I just hope it's not some White House image.

    As an aside, this undying adoration for our first family is a huge first for me. I was too young to be overly fond of the Clintons and growing up under G.W. Bush was a constant source of frustration and confusion. It's such a new feeling, but I totally love it.

    Oh and you guys, baby Malia? And Barack's grin? Wins. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @dialing_footnoterphone: Just seeing how much the first daughters have grown since election night took my breath away. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @Little Time Bomb: I know! It really doesn't feel that long ago... #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of FattyCatty FattyCatty
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    I just went through the whole slide show. I love them. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @FattyCatty: Me too. I also deeply love their kitchen. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @EdnasEdibles: Oh that kitchen gave me serious envy issues. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    I think Michelle has one of those faces where if she's not smiling, she looks pissed. I have that face too. It doesn't help that she's a black woman and people tend to think we look more pissed than most anyway. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of PennyFarthing PennyFarthing
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC: I have mean face too. Everyone always asks me "what's wrong?" and then I tell them "piss off!!". But seriously, it's annoying to constantly be asked if something is wrong with me - I guess my face is what's wrong with me. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana
    10/29/09

    @PennyFarthing: The corners of my mouth turn down, so I often look very solemn. I've had a lot of "Smile, pretty lady!" comments myself. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of feministabroad feministabroad
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC:

    I have my theories. I think it is most of our bone structure. Really. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC
    10/29/09

    @feministabroad: My theory is the black dog theory...not comparing black folks to animals... go with me here. Okay, so many pet adoption places say that black dogs are harder to adopt out because they come across as "meaner". Even if dogs may come from a "friendly" breed, being black makes them less adoptable. So, they put little bows and kerchiefs on the dogs to make them look less aggressive and angry. I think deep down, there's an accepted perception that dark means sinister, angry, dangerous or violent and people tend to internalize and apply that manner of thinking even when it's not applicable. Sort of like the Time magazine darkening OJ Simpson up...dark=evil. I feel as though I'm expected to positively beam at people all of the time or be barraged by questions of "What's wrong?" or "Who pissed you off?" I've been getting this since I was little and I've been tempted more than once to say, "Dude, this is MY face, jeez! #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of FattyCatty FattyCatty
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC: I think you are right - she has a "serious" face when she's not smiling. But here, to me at least, it's her body language more than her face that makes her look angry. Though the photographer could have just caught her while she was turning around, it looks like she just spun around to say, "WHAT?!" #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC
    10/29/09

    @Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana: I've never understood why people feel as though they have a right to tell you what to do with your face. If you like smiling so much, you do it. Let it be your friggin' umbrella. Also, smiling often encourages creepy dudes to try talking to you. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @FattyCatty: It sort of looks like a scene from a soap opera. "You did what with the intern?" #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana Kristinkles Ingabogovinanana
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC: EXATLY. And, since I don't like men I don't know, I don't want them to talk to me. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Grim Reaper of the Forest Grim Reaper of the Forest
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC: I definitely have one of those "why so serious" faces and it annoys the hell out of me.

    I'm white, and I think that the issues with black faces are not just color and bone structure, but the fact that white people take a serious black face as an accusation or threat, whereas they might see a serious white face as more neutral, and less directed at them personally. A serious white man is thinking about work, while a serious black man is scowling at you because he hates white people. That's my theory anyway. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of feministabroad feministabroad
    10/29/09

    @Ulookinatmyjunk, JOC:

    I know. Blackness and darkness all equal evil and angry.

    There is nothing that pisses me off more than someone telling me to smile. Its so controlling and condescending. I have to be shit-faced happy or else I am about to go on a Black Woman Rampage. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of curiousgeorgiana curiousgeorgiana
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    This is like the ultimate opposite of smizing. I heartily approve. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Our Lady of the Massacre Our Lady of the Massacre
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    They look like a normal couple to me. Not every woman stares at her husband with constant worshipful affection (a la Michelle Duggar). #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Maritsa Maritsa
    10/29/09

    @Our Lady of the Massacre: With all that oxytocin coursing through her veins, she probably looks at everyone that way. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Ms Meghan Ms Meghan
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    Wife of the president or not I feel intrusive looking at this pic.
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    Image of J.D.Regent J.D.Regent
    10/29/09

    @Ms Meghan: I am sure it was vetted and distributed by the Obamas themselves, don't you think? They usually are. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Ms Meghan Ms Meghan
    10/29/09

    @J.D.Regent: Right, but I still feel like I just walked in the middle of someone's private argument. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of Etoiles Etoiles
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    Ah, yes, the, "you're my husband and I love you but I swear to god if you do that one more time I am going to RIP YOUR HEAD OFF AND FEED IT TO A SQUIRREL" classic.

    My husband tries to hide under things when I give him that look. Probably one of the many reasons he's not president. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of thecameralovesyou thecameralovesyou
    10/29/09

    @Etoiles: My husband giggles. Another good reason that mine isn't either. #barackobamamichelleobama
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    Image of judgingamy judgingamy
    10/29/09

    In reply to If Looks Could...
    Wow! Michelle makes the best faces. During the primaries, Gawker put up a picture of her giving Mitt Romney's wife the eye-roll. It was amazing #barackobamamichelleobama
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    10/29/09

    @judgingamy: Oops, sorry it was Wonkette, but they seem to have taken the page down. Also, apparently when you edit a post, you can't re-insert a picture, so I've replied to myself again, and it is below:
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    10/29/09

    @judgingamy:
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    Image of xskeptictankx xskeptictankx
    10/28/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    Her comment struck me because it's interesting to see how the feminists of the 60's knew that they were paving the way for women to come in and compete for their jobs & have other women's voices heard better than their own, but they did it anyway because they saw the big picture. They knew that they wouldn't likely see the full immediate effects of their actions but that they were desperately important anyway. They did it for the benefit of everyone who came after them, not for themselves.

    It's powerful to think of how selfless these women were. They could have polarized and said to younger generations, "WE did this, what did YOU do?" I feel like they graciously gave future women this gift of not having to always prove ourselves or fight for a position in the world & all they wanted in return was for us to continue being amazing, trying our hardest, taking every opportunity that we're presented with and making feminism a part of us & our every interaction. #gailcollins
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    Image of DifferentUserName DifferentUserName
    10/28/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    "New York Times columnist Gail Collins—the paper's first female editorial page editor—has written a chronicle of the last 40 years of American women's history,"

    Shouldn't that be 50 years? #gailcollins
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    Image of Doree Shafrir Doree Shafrir
    10/28/09

    @DifferentUserName: er, yes. #gailcollins
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    Image of limber limber
    10/28/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    I had a bit of a tiff with my dad tonight about wages. I'm negotiating a contract and the recruiter's being a knob, trying to lowball me. I'm trying to push him higher, because I've experienced this enough to know that it's rare a number goes that low, even in this economy. I've expressed this to my father, in terms of how women are treated in negotiations (and what I've experienced in the past) and how I hear my guy friends talk about their negotiation tactics, and that's why I'm not jumping at the paltry amount on the table.

    He, while usually a pretty reasonable guy, basically accused me of trying to strike a blow for women's rights and in doing so possibly losing out on the contract, or insulting the recruiter, or... I don't know. Bottom line, he seems to think I should've buckled immediately, despite knowing that there's more money on the table and the recruiter's being a shit. Specifically, he said I'm letting feminist leanings interfere with practicality, as though they're distinct elements rather than entwined.

    It's been a frustrating evening, and when my own very progressive father can parrot back the "take what you can get, girlie" line at me, it's quite the wake-up call. #gailcollins
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    10/27/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    This reminds me.

    Scene: Bf and I in elevator after putting up the laundry in our building. Girl with basket ~ same size as herself full of folded laundry walks in. She pushes button despite huge basket bc of proximity to buttons.

    Bf: Oh, I'm so sorry. You should have let me get it.

    Girl w laundry: It's ok! It's good for me.

    Bf: Ah well, I'm sorry.

    Girl: I'm just here staying with my boyfriend. I do his laundry for him, kind of clean up... you know, stuff like that. [cue beaming smile]

    Bf and me: [polite chuckle and nod.] Oh, that's nice... have a good night!

    [girl gets off on her floor.]

    Me: Never. Not in a million years. Don't look at me in that tone of voice.

    Bf: Trust me, I know! That's actually kind of sad.

    -------------------------

    Now, I can believe that some people genuinely get a kick out of housework and a job well done, but I mean, jeez, really? You're the for-free laundry/housekeeping service? It made my head hurt. #gailcollins
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    Bunsen Honeydew promoted this comment mb was starred mb was unstarred
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    10/27/09

    @mb: I'm gonna be honest, since Mr. Honeydew and I have gotten together, I do a lot of the cleaning/laundry... but that's partially because I feel bad because he is ALWAYS stuck cooking and doing the grocery shopping. If we left it up to me, we'd be on a Campbell's soup and toast diet. so yeah, I'm a dork who will be spotted doing her boyfriend's laundry.... but it's because he makes really great eggplant parm, not because I suck. #gailcollins
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    10/28/09

    @Bunsen Honeydew: Mmmm.... eggplant parm... your point is duly noted! :) #gailcollins
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    Image of emfish55 emfish55
    10/27/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    Gail Collins is cool and I will read this book. On a somewhat petty but not unrelated note:

    My options in my home with my male housemate (NOT a significant other) are thus:

    1. Be the "housekeeper".

    2. Get used to a sticky kitchen counter, dust everywhere, a bathtub with an inch of grime, and shaving clippings all over the sink.

    I'm sure my housemate would say we just have different standards of cleanliness. Whereas I would say we have different standards of how our actions affect others. It's not a question of cleanliness. It's a question of being RUDE. By not taking care of a space you share with another human being. And we have collectively as a society encouraged men to be RUDE (not all of them -- my BF is clean and considerate) by allowing them to believe this idea that women just like things to be clean more than they do. #gailcollins
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    10/27/09

    @emfish55: I agree with you that it's rude.
    Have you raised it with him at all? #gailcollins
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    Image of blue2000 blue2000
    10/28/09

    @emfish55: Is it because he doesn't respect you, or because he doesn't see the dirt? I swear, my brothers are, at times, "dirt blind" where it's like the counter literally does not feel sticky to them. They're not waiting for me to clean it up, because they don't think it's dirty. If you like the roommate for all other reasons, how about a housekeeper? If his level of cleanliness is emblematic of how he treats you and the rest of his roommate relationship, I say, kick him to the curb. #gailcollins
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    10/28/09

    @blue2000: Exactly. We live in a society that has invented a bunch of mental handicaps for men. There is no such thing as "dirt blind". Men are also not genetically predisposed to be bad at sweeping, or grocery shopping, or changing diapers, or washing dishes. These are just household chores that a lot of people would prefer not to do. I actually watched my younger brother "learn" to become bad at chores in order to get out of them. He discovered that if he was asked to sweep the kitchen, but just sort of stood there listlessly staring into space and moving the broom around, my mom would sigh, step in, and takeover. Yet the same behavior from me would have resulted in a "lesson" in sweeping. Just like your family has apparently decided your brothers have some magical dirt blindness disease which allows exempts them from both cleaning AND societal standards of cleanliness. That's neat. Where do I get some of this dirt blindness? #gailcollins
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    Image of Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith
    10/27/09

    In reply to Gail Collins: "The Revolution Will Be Achieved When No One Has To Do The Ironing"
    Nay Doree, the revolution will be achieved when we are all wearing polyester/synthetic blends. #gailcollins
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