Yang, with the diaries, paints a picture of an aggressively devil-may-care kind of young New York that isn't entirely aware of its own contradictions.
um, believe me. you don't have to be (a) young or (b) live in/be from new york to encounter all kinds of people who aren't entirely aware of their own contradictions. #sexdiaries
The issue of online culture replacing actual human interactions has been on my mind for awhile. And all I can thin of is, well, at least when our civilization is unearthed hundreds of years from now there will be no record of blogs, tweets et al. Just a bunch of plastic objects with the long extinct "apple" of song and legend that we probably used to coldcock game.
I'd hate to see what they'd gleen from our Hammurabi's Code... Perez fucking Hilton. #sexdiaries
@TransFat: I 100% agree with you. Online interaction might be safe and sterile but it's cold and bitter. We need to get out there and be with other people. We're social animals after all. #sexdiaries
Am I the only one who found that exchange between the diarist, her Psuedo and her Ex completely tedious? Or do I need some sugar right now to help my concentration?
@bklyn155: It just really confused me. I honestly didn't even understand what the specific issue was, or who ended up sleeping (if anyone did) with whom. #sexdiaries
"We hedge "The anxiety of appearing overly sincere" against "The anxiety of being unable to love." Ugh, stop being so perceptive, Person I Have Never Met! #sexdiaries
Sometimes the sex diaries are so horrible they make me not want to deal with people. The best was the totally self absorbed therapist who admitted to hating, judging, and not listening to her patients. She made me afraid to go to therapy! All your worst fears about it come true. #sexdiaries
best feature on that website. reading the diaries may make you want to wall yourself off to the world, but you take comfort that everyone is as crazy as you are #sexdiaries
I know that all of these people are in New York, but if you hadn't told me in what city they resided, I would have no way of knowing. This sort of "neurotic self loathing" happens everywhere, from Manhattan to Des Moines to Alaska, although I'm sure that in Alaska snowmobiles are usually more directly involved. #sexdiaries
@morninggloria: NO. It's only New York. It's all about New York. NEW YORK NEW YORK NEW YORK. Nowhere else matters. In fact, once you cross either river, you actually fall off the Earth. I CAN'T HEAR YOU. NEW YORK.
But secretly, I agree with you. Neuroticness is like the state bird of New Jersey. #sexdiaries
@la.donna.pietra: I have kept a diary for sex diaries. I was tempted to embellish but at the end of the day, someone will call me a slut, someone will call me a prude and someone will accuse me of lying - regardless of what I wrote. So my diary was 100% legit. #sexdiaries
@winner: Are they edited for content or clarity? (I believe you and bess marvin; there's just an awful lot of similarity between all the entries that I've read.) #sexdiaries
@la.donna.pietra: Hey there - I'm an ed at nymag.com. To answer your question, the diaries are occasionally edited for mind-bendingly filthy language (and hats off to those diarists, really -- if we have to tone down a turn of phrase, you've written something truly special). They may also be lightly edited for clarity, grammar, etc., just like any contribution to a publication. But what you're reading is real, and any similarities amongst entries just speaks to the larger patterns that prompted this article. #sexdiaries
@la.donna.pietra: The diaries are probably edited for length, clarity and grammar, but not for content - in my experience. Nothing was published that I hadn't written and nothing was taken out of context in a way that made me uncomfortable. #sexdiaries
While we're talking can we also look at about size-ism in fashion blogs? The Sartorialist regularly posts pix of emaciated women, often smoking cigarettes, as fashion inspiration:
http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/62209WhttopGucci_127Web.jpg,http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/2149GraceWeb.jpg,http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/2179RoTurWeb.jpg
It makes me just ill!
@jrhys: I cannot recall a time I've seen any woman who wasn't extremely thin on one of those blogs. It's as if stylish women don't exist past size six!
Jezebel, You are misrepresenting the quote in the last bullet point a little. The quote ends with the woman saying something to the effect of, "that was what my mom would tell me, but I don't agree with it." I think it's important to give people credit when it's due, especially when the rest of your piece is so critical (deservedly, I'm not arguing with that).
Wow, Parisiennes and NYCers have more in common than I'd realised.
When a recent study showed that French women were the slimmest in Europe - but were more likely to consider themselves as needing to lose weight than any other country, as well as setting their 'ideal' BMI lower than any other nation (19.5) - well, you should have seen the triumph in the French ladymags. Literally, 'WE'VE WON! WE'RE SKINNIEST!'. Scary stuff.
Don't know if it's been brought up but I'd bet Manhattanites are younger, on average, than people in the other boroughs. Which I'd guess would correlate somewhat with weight.
@KetchupFiend: I doubt that's true. Yeah, some people move to the outer boroughs when they have kids, but younger people like me live in the boroughs because of cheaper rent.
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um, believe me. you don't have to be (a) young or (b) live in/be from new york to encounter all kinds of people who aren't entirely aware of their own contradictions. #sexdiaries
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The source material he was analyzing happens to be all from New Yorkers, most of whom are young. #sexdiaries
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I'd hate to see what they'd gleen from our Hammurabi's Code... Perez fucking Hilton. #sexdiaries
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But secretly, I agree with you. Neuroticness is like the state bird of New Jersey. #sexdiaries
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http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/62209WhttopGucci_127Web.jpg,http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/2149GraceWeb.jpg,http://www.thesartorialist.com/photos/2179RoTurWeb.jpg
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This UESer says, "Ouch!"
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When a recent study showed that French women were the slimmest in Europe - but were more likely to consider themselves as needing to lose weight than any other country, as well as setting their 'ideal' BMI lower than any other nation (19.5) - well, you should have seen the triumph in the French ladymags. Literally, 'WE'VE WON! WE'RE SKINNIEST!'. Scary stuff.
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