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Has Online Dating Really Lost Its Stigma?
New York, 5:41 AM
Tue Nov 10
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I am sort of talking to an OKCupid guy now and we've talked on the phone as well. One thing is, it's a bit hard sometimes to be sure that the person you're talking to is just making sexual jokes as banter and is not actually a sex offender. But maybe I'm just not good at this.
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and then i see, months later, they are still viewing my profile. just bite the bullet dude! ask me out.*
*yes, of course women can ask out men, but this had literally never worked for me, dating back to my junior prom.
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I'm the person that can barely fill out her facebook profile because I hate being judged and evaluated based on the four books I list or the paragraph I manage to write about myself. I guess other people are much better at encapsulating their spirit in 150 words or less.
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What a terrible, pretentious, prolix comment!
(Just kidding. I have the same problems. And you know what they say about people who are paranoid....)
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Not so. It' still a personal ad, albeit digitally, with about the same success rates as the old printed ones, I would imagine. Human behavior doesn't change, just the technology. The same person who would become hooked on the easy fix of serial monogamy through personals is the same online dating habitue.
Do some people meet and marry or find the love of their life via computers and e-mails? I'm sure they do, though this is starting to become some kind of mythic urban folk tale to me when I hear from someone from the nth time "Oh, but I KNOW someone who met their spouse online!" as some sort of proof that success exists. Never a first person narrative. I'm also sure I can't fall in love that way. It's just not my generation.
And dating? Still a HUGE pain in the ass. But after my exploration into the digital frontier that is online dating, I'll take my chances on face-to-face encounters, meeting people through my regular day-to-day life, through hobbies, friends and family, work-related events, and social circumstances.
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I'm VERY selective in person so I'm probably more selective online and most of the time would convince myself to meet with someone even though I was sure I wouldn't be physically attracted to him.
You can count me in the dislike of online dating box. Not because I don't like dating per se, I LOVE what happens when I meet someone that I'm attracted to in person. Its one of the most fun exhilarating things in life.
Online dating doesn't work that way for me. I generally end up on dates with someone I would never have gone on a date with had I met them in real life first.
I haven't figured out if I'm still emotionally immature [if I'm not physically attracted to you, its never gonna happen] or if I'm just destined to not be attracted to MOST men.
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Fair enough, but aren't most men in bars or at your friend's party going to be in a certain uniform anyway? In a Major Midwest City this last weekend, I was at a Trendy Bar in which at least 85% of the guys had the same hairstyle and were wearing the same outfit. Almost every woman there had brown hair, bangs, and some kind of dress-with-boots combination, too. I couldn't have told you those hopefuls apart from one another anymore than I could tell you digital representations of themselves apart from one another. You only start to learn about who people really are after paying them more than a glance of attention.
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