F-that, did you know that Puritan women could file for divorce if their husbands failed to please them. A sect of Christianity that I could get down with.
When I was dating my husband I found a book on his shelf called "Hypnosis for Dummies". When I asked what it was for he said "Oh hahaha, it's just a joke. Now look deep into my eyes, you're getting very sleepy..."
My MIL is perfect! She lives 1,000 miles away. So when we see her, it's all about doing fun things together to make memories for all of us.
Hubby's sisters, though-- they talk smack about the other sisters-in-law to me, so I'm sure they talk ABOUT me as well. Probably about how I won't "let" hubby and son visit more often. Little do they know, I have to make and pay for all the arrangements or he would never visit, mostly because, like everyone in his family but his mother, he is NOT a planner.
I LOVE my boyfriend's mother, but she lives 8 hours away. She is surrounded by her children, too, so the likelihood of us becoming closer than mother/daughter is remote, at best. Scarily, I think she may outlive my boyfriend, due to bad male genes in the family.
I love my mother-in-law, but I sometimes fear the relationship might get tested if we have kids. It seems like conflict over child-rearing is a major point of contention with some mother and daughters-in-law.
I can't imagine losing someone like that, let alone the aftermath of family interactinos. I sometimes think about my mom's best friend, who died when she was 21 years old while on vacation with her boyfriend. He was in his late 20s and had lost three significant others: one in a plane crash, one to cancer, and this woman to random violence. I can't even imagine that poor guy's life, having lost three women he loved so much.
I don't know about family, but their mutual friends had a hard time dealing with it and grew apart from him. Even though all three instances were clearly accidental, I think everyone wanted to blame him for waht happened. And then eventually seeing him was just sad and a reminder of what happened to her.
One of my exboyfriends had a family that would have been so fucking delightful to watch, but not necessarily delightful to take part in. The mom was a sad case--she lived vicariously through her daughter, and once wore the daughter's prom tiara while she did chores around the house. Which is really, awkwardly weird. The dad had always wanted to teach Kindergarten, but someone had convinced him to work at Boeing instead--more money for the family I guess--and he was sad and regretful about it in a way I think will probably blow up eventually. The sister was the most perfect person on earth until the pressure of it caught up with her and she dropped out of college to become a pothead. I imagine the delight of those holiday dinners sometimes.
After the treatment I've watched my mother endure at the hands of my dad's mother, I've never expected that a relationship with my potential mother-in-law could be anything but shitty.
@Sev: My future MIL is still treated like total crap by her MIL, from the day they met to this very day. Boyfriend's grandmother is kind of just a hateful person in general though, but man, GIL is a raging bitch to MIL.
I LOVED the mothers of both my ex's. Particularly the first one's. She was a literature lecturer at the local college and it was so wonderful to talk books with that woman. Losing her was the worst thing about that break-up.
Anyway, because of those two great experiences, I am deathly afraid of having a MIL or SO's mother I do not get along with. *fingers crossed and praying fiercely*
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So, you know. Pros and cons.
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Hubby's sisters, though-- they talk smack about the other sisters-in-law to me, so I'm sure they talk ABOUT me as well. Probably about how I won't "let" hubby and son visit more often. Little do they know, I have to make and pay for all the arrangements or he would never visit, mostly because, like everyone in his family but his mother, he is NOT a planner.
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I don't know about family, but their mutual friends had a hard time dealing with it and grew apart from him. Even though all three instances were clearly accidental, I think everyone wanted to blame him for waht happened. And then eventually seeing him was just sad and a reminder of what happened to her.
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Only time will tell but I don't hold much hope.
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Anyway, because of those two great experiences, I am deathly afraid of having a MIL or SO's mother I do not get along with. *fingers crossed and praying fiercely*