My parents are Vietnamese refugees, so I don't have a tremendous amount of material to draw from. My mom is also a very modest person and as far as I can tell, never thought too highly of her looks.
That being said, I have this fabulous picture of my mom at a picnic in the early 70s--mini skirt, cute top, and sunglasses included. My parents didn't have a happy marriage, but for whatever reason I like to assume this picture was one my dad took of her when they were dating. #mymomthestyleicon
Scrolling through that site brought tears to my eyes. People are beautiful! I can't really articulate why old photos of people's moms touched me like it did. #mymomthestyleicon
I don't know much about my mother's style - most of the photos pre-children are head and shoulders - but she had the most glorious mane of golden brown hair. Shiny, wavy, shampoo commercial hair that I wanted so much.
Instead I got my father's color and much tighter ringlets from...somewhere. #mymomthestyleicon
There's a great picture of my mom in the seventies that I just LOVE. Her hair was really blonde at that time and she's shot in profile with these giant sunglasses on her head. She looks so effortless and cool.
Not so cool? Her red, white, and blue prom dress, with matching shawl. #mymomthestyleicon
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@Tippi Hedren: @Tippi Hedren: My mom still rocks the hooker heels, mini skirts, low-cut leopard print blouses and has now added a pimp cane (she has back pain) to her repertoire of awesomeness.
Embarrassed the hell out of me when I was younger, but now I admire the 'to hell with what other people think' attitude. #mymomthestyleicon
Although, I do love this one picture from my parents' wedding in 1969 when they got hitched with about $1.05 in bank - it's basically my mom rocking a white minidress (the only white she owned) out front of a Catholic church. It's pretty bad ass. #mymomthestyleicon
Have we ever done a Jezebel mom picture post? Because I have some AWESOME pics of my mom and grandma. My grandma was the quintessential Betty Draper except with cat eye glasses. My mom was tall and thin and wore her hair long and road horses and smiled all the time. #mymomthestyleicon
@Zombie Ms. Skittles: My mum rocked an awesome 80s perm with some shoulder-padded sweaters right before she had my sister and I, but before that she had wicked long center-parted hair that she ironed straight. I'm glad we have straighteners now. #mymomthestyleicon
A literary mansion has been built upon the crumbly rock of having shtupped J.D Salinger back in the 70's, J.D. Salinger's fame itself arising mostly from the use of initials, the "neg," and the deployment of the word "fuck."? #joycemaynard
Double digit spf is crucial not because ladymags tell you it is, but because it will help you not get cancer.
We can't avoid the sun and the sun does have health benefits, it just also, um, burns your skin and does some other stuff that high spf lotion will help combat/stave off. Apply liberally, ladies! #motherdaughteraging
Skincare shouldn't be mysterious or expensive. If you have skin without major issues (e.g. rosacea, acne), use a gentle, basic cleanser, some form of retinoid (the only proven anti-ager), broad spectrum sunscreen (it should say so on the label), and a basic moisturizer. You can get all of that at the drugstore. Everything else is just bells and whistles.
Just make sure you read the labels for the ingredients and don't fall for marketing hype about exotic ingredients. A handy rule of thumb is that if the touted ingredient isn't among the first five listed, then there's not enough to make much of a difference. You'll also find that when you do this, you'll notice that many expensive products use the same or similar ingredients as cheaper ones. And reading and comparing labels will help you narrow down particular ingredients that may be problematic for you. #motherdaughteraging
@shefightsback: I've tried Tazorac, Proactiv, Murad, and any other acne medicine you can think of; I started getting acne in my early 30's, I'm now 38. Yeah, that really sucked. The only product I didn't try was Accutane, because the side effects were just too scary, especially without a guarantee that it would work for me. I've been using the SkinID line from Neutrogena for about 6 months, and I have to say that I really like it. It cleared up my skin in about 3 weeks, and even the scars left behind from previous acne breakouts are gone. You can only get it from their website, and the products last about 2.5 to 3 months. My skin is finally looking like it used to and I love it; I don't even have to wear foundation anymore to cover my pimples and scars. It is very freeing.
I met a 40-year-old woman in my teens who had used Retin A for twenty years for her acne and I swear she didn't have any the tiniest line on her face. She had the skin of a ten year old.
I filed that info away and started using retinoids when I was 25 or so.
People think my BF is my dad and he's only a year older. HA! #motherdaughteraging
@squeakel: Yeah gotta say, over the counter RetinA cream and 45sunscreen are your very good freinds. I've been using them for 8 years and I look a LOT younger than my friends. Yoga helps too - in being tranquil, calm, and circulating the blood and energy ( dude). #motherdaughteraging
@squeakel: I always assumed those products were extra moisturizing! Yes, I also have oily skin....I use a light SP15/moisturizer in the morning and that's it. #motherdaughteraging
@jrhys: @canthelpmyself: I've heard you shouldn't use Retin A for a long period of time, although I didn't even know it's available OTC! I used it as a teenage and in college, was on a variety of other meds over the years too. I was one of those lucky teenagers (pizza face) with acne.
But now, I fall in the strange window between acne and occasional pimples- not bad enough to need prescription strength medication and not clear enough to rely on spot treatment. I use light SP15 moisturizer in the morning, wash twice a day with Bijore cleanser (gentle), powder foundation and call it a day.
@shefightsback: You go to their website (skinid.com) and answer a questionnaire. It will then recommend a cleanser, an acne medicine, and a moisturizer that will work with your skin to clear up acne. #motherdaughteraging
Am I mistaken in thinking that BREAKING INTO someone's e-mail account is fucking unforgivable and possibly criminal?
Also, this: "When I was very young, my mother read my diary. And though I loved my mother, I don’t think I ever forgave her." So, the exact thing happened to her, she felt violated and then she did it to her own daughter?
Wow. Just, wow. That is a level of emotional retardation that is really hard to beat. #joycemaynard
@GirlCat: I agree. I hate when people like this use their "art/craft" to justify things which are really unjustifiable. And what about the boyfriend? Did she ask his permission to tell some intensely private things? Fuck this woman. Her talent does not make her any better than Octomom or the people from Rock of Love.
God I can't wait for these overharers to go away. #joycemaynard
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That being said, I have this fabulous picture of my mom at a picnic in the early 70s--mini skirt, cute top, and sunglasses included. My parents didn't have a happy marriage, but for whatever reason I like to assume this picture was one my dad took of her when they were dating. #mymomthestyleicon
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Instead I got my father's color and much tighter ringlets from...somewhere. #mymomthestyleicon
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Not so cool? Her red, white, and blue prom dress, with matching shawl. #mymomthestyleicon
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Embarrassed the hell out of me when I was younger, but now I admire the 'to hell with what other people think' attitude. #mymomthestyleicon
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Although, I do love this one picture from my parents' wedding in 1969 when they got hitched with about $1.05 in bank - it's basically my mom rocking a white minidress (the only white she owned) out front of a Catholic church. It's pretty bad ass. #mymomthestyleicon
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We can't avoid the sun and the sun does have health benefits, it just also, um, burns your skin and does some other stuff that high spf lotion will help combat/stave off. Apply liberally, ladies! #motherdaughteraging
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Just make sure you read the labels for the ingredients and don't fall for marketing hype about exotic ingredients. A handy rule of thumb is that if the touted ingredient isn't among the first five listed, then there's not enough to make much of a difference. You'll also find that when you do this, you'll notice that many expensive products use the same or similar ingredients as cheaper ones. And reading and comparing labels will help you narrow down particular ingredients that may be problematic for you. #motherdaughteraging
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The same things that work for wrinkles also work for acne, so you're in luck. #motherdaughteraging
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This ends my infomercial....good luck! #motherdaughteraging
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Yep! The amzing retinoids!
I met a 40-year-old woman in my teens who had used Retin A for twenty years for her acne and I swear she didn't have any the tiniest line on her face. She had the skin of a ten year old.
I filed that info away and started using retinoids when I was 25 or so.
People think my BF is my dad and he's only a year older. HA! #motherdaughteraging
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But now, I fall in the strange window between acne and occasional pimples- not bad enough to need prescription strength medication and not clear enough to rely on spot treatment. I use light SP15 moisturizer in the morning, wash twice a day with Bijore cleanser (gentle), powder foundation and call it a day.
What is the SkinID line like? #motherdaughteraging
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Also, this: "When I was very young, my mother read my diary. And though I loved my mother, I don’t think I ever forgave her." So, the exact thing happened to her, she felt violated and then she did it to her own daughter?
Wow. Just, wow. That is a level of emotional retardation that is really hard to beat. #joycemaynard
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God I can't wait for these overharers to go away. #joycemaynard