<![CDATA[Jezebel: mommie dearest]]> http://tags.gawker.com/assets/base/img/thumbs140x140/jezebel.com.png <![CDATA[Jezebel: mommie dearest]]> http://jezebel.com/tag/mommiedearest http://jezebel.com/tag/mommiedearest <![CDATA[Things Not To Say In The Newspaper: Mom Doesn't Love Own Daughter]]> Crossing the line from honesty into bizarre callousness, 33-year-old Shelley Price has chosen to tell the Daily Mail that she's never loved her eleven-year-old daughter Catherine.

She says,

I hate myself for the way I feel, but whatever it is that makes a mum want to hug and kiss her child, I have not felt it. Catherine has always felt like someone else's daughter.

Price also says Catherine felt "dirty" to her when she was a newborn, and that she wouldn't let Catherine call her "Mum" for several years. Making matters worse, in a way, is the fact that Shelley does love her two-year-old daughter, Poppy, whom she calls "the love of my life." Price doesn't remember when Catherine got her first tooth or said her first word, "even though I can recall all those stages for Poppy without thinking." And she says, "if I give Poppy a cuddle, it feels different to hugging Catherine."

The Daily Mail bills Price's feelings as "one of the great taboos of motherhood," but the truth is plenty of women have ambivalent or even negative feelings about their kids. However, the person to share those feelings with is a friend, a partner, or a therapist — not a Daily Mail reporter. Price says, "I'm speaking out because I'm convinced I'm not alone," but there are plenty of ways to help other parents without telling the world that you don't love your kid (the Daily Mail deserves some blame here too, especially for running Catherine's picture with the caption "Shelley and her 11-year-old daughter Catherine who she 'doesn't love'"). At best, Shelley Price has extremely bad judgment, and at worst, she's a fame-whore. Catherine will probably realize this at some point, but we're not sure it will be much consolation.

It's a confession few mothers would ever make. But here, one woman asks... So why can't I LOVE my own daughter? [Daily Mail]

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<![CDATA[The Dark Overlord Gave, And He Hath Taken Away]]> Well folks, in case you haven't heard, today is my last day working at Jezebel.

I will try to keep this as short and sweet as possible before I go off and live out every girl's childhood dream of watching Mommie Dearest while knitting in their underwear (otherwise known as "unemployment"). Don't worry about me though, a young man from Nigeria has contacted me about an exciting business opportunity! You see, his billionaire brother needs an American to hold onto some of his money for a few months, and I'll be able to keep a few million dollars for myself. All I have to do is send him all of my personal information and bank account numbers. Seems like a good deal to me.

Anyways, I want to thank all of the wonderful women I have worked with at Jezebel. I am still dumbfounded as to how I successfully tricked Anna into hiring me to work with such a talented and hilarious group of women. Moe, Dodai, Megan, Jessica, Sadie, Tracie, Jennifer and (especially) Anna are some of the most intelligent and patient people I have ever worked with. Also, Margaret, Katy and Cheryl are some of the best and hardworking interns floating around the blogosphere. I am really proud to have worked at Jezebel and see it develop over the past year and a half.

I would also like to give a special "thx" to the dark overlord, Nick Denton, for occasionally remembering to give me money. Even though that time has come to an end, it was fun while it lasted.

I want to give all of the commenters and readers a quick shout-out for being so funny and (usually) showing me support. Thanks for always keeping me on my toes.

Bye!

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<![CDATA[Even Psycho Moms Are Nice On Christmas Eve]]> Some Christmas cheer from a famous American mother, via Mommie Dearest.

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<![CDATA[Sometimes A Parent's Words Can Bear The Weight Of The World]]> When you're a child, your parent can seem like the earth, moon and sun. That's why an off-hand remark can inadvertently affect a child for life. In this month's O: Oprah Magazine, writer Lisa Dierbeck talks to comedian Margaret Cho, pro basketball player Tiffany Jackson, opera singer and controversial gastric bypass recipient Deborah Voigt, and actress Cindy Cheung about how their parents' actions and words impacted their body image. For Cho, her father told her after a dance recital she participated in at the age of 9 , "You're the fattest ballerina." Our girl Margaret continues, "It so destroyed me that I never wanted to dance again. He wanted to prepare me for a world that was not going to accept me because I think he experienced so much racism. He'd say, 'You're not pretty. And you're not going to be pretty.' I absolutely believed him." And parental action can be just as damaging as parental words.

Voigt, who was above a size 28 before her gastric bypass, said, "My mom had always fought with her weight, been on one diet or another. She had self-esteem issues around her weight. We were constantly going on diets. She'd say, 'You need to take some weight off.' I felt very self-conscious." My mom was always good about not commenting on my weight, but I do remember her maligning her own looks as nothing special on several occasions. The rub? My my mom and I look almost identical. Can you pinpoint any "fat ballerina" moments from your traumatic childhoods?

You're The Fattest Ballerina [CNN via O: Oprah Magazine]

Earlier: Opera Singer Is Rehired After She Loses Over 100 Pounds Through Gastric Bypass

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<![CDATA[Child Abuse Is Not Funny, But Mommie Dearest Is]]> People always cite Mommie Dearest as the end of Fay Dunaway's career as a legitimate actress, which is unfortunate. Her performance is campy and over-the-top, sure, but it's also kind of spot-on, especially considering the source material is traumatic childhood memories. The other thing is that she is unintentionally hilarious in her portrayal as Joan Crawford. The clip above is the second part of the infamous no-wire-hangers-EVARRRR scene, in which she forces her daughter Christina to scrub the bathroom floor. The cross-eyed look she gives at the end is something I've paused and laughed at numerous times over the years.

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<![CDATA[The old adage that men marry their mothers...]]> lucill5708.jpgThe old adage that men marry their mothers has some truth to it, according to some scientists who study this sort of thing. Researchers at the University of Iowa have discovered that "If a man's mother is highly educated, chances are the woman he marries will have a similar education," Reuters reports. They surveyed men in their 20s and 30s who earned salaries in the top 10% for their age group and found that 80% of men whose mothers had college degrees married women with college degrees. Sociologist Christine Whelan, the co-author of the study, told Reuters, "For an increasing number of these men ... when they make their own choices about someone who they think will be a good wife in the future or a good mother, they go back to their role models." [Reuters]

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<![CDATA[Who's The Wicked Mommy?]]> OMG! Juicy blind item. Which celebrity mother is making the other mommies paranoid? This question appears in the column of Dr. Joyce Brothers today: "Dear Dr. Brothers, I am up against a rather delicate situation as a new parent at a nursery school, and I've decided to ask your opinion... My child is an adorable little boy (yes, I know it's not proper to brag, but it is true), and in his rather upscale school, he has been asked for a play date with a little boy who is there mostly because of his very famous mom, a film actress. She wants my child to go over to her house for some reason (she says he is so cute). But I'm afraid she just wants to use my son, and the whole thing feels almost abusive to me. What do you think?" C'mon ladies, who is the shady lady trying to lure little boys to her gingerbread house? [Seattle Post-Intelligencer]

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<![CDATA[Susanna Sonnenberg Adds Another Chapter To The Unhinged Mother Canon]]> In today's New York Times, famously-scurrilous book critic Michiko Kakutani gives a rave review to Her Last Death, Susanna Sonnenberg's debut memoir about her totally batshit mother, "Daphne." While Sonnenberg's mom "possessed a magical charm and a contagious, manic enthusiasm, especially in...her 'Let's-Take-Over-Central Park' moods," Kakutani explains, Demerol addict Daphne was also prone to "falling-down, passing-out drug binges and [she had a] relentless obsession with sex, which she shockingly shared with her young daughter." Daphne made Susanna read aloud from Penthouse Letters at age ten and told her about orgasms when she was eight. Though Daphne's mother-of-the-year antics are terrible, she joins a robust literary pantheon of bad mommies: Christina Crawford's juicy Joan Crawford takedown Mommie Dearest, and probably the best book about living with a mentally ill parent, Mary Karr's unparalleled The Liar's Club.



For those who haven't read it (and you should!) Karr's Liars Club paints a beautifully-grueling picture of her childhood in East Texas, growing up with a pair of mostly well-meaning alcoholic parents. During the course of the book, Mary's creative and charming (though not exactly warm and fuzzy) mother Charlie suffers two nervous breakdowns, and ends up leaving Mary and her sister Lecia alone in Colorado for weeks at a time while she runs off to Mexico, gets addicted to diet pills, and drinks thousands of Mason jars full of rot gut vodka.

Perhaps the most moving part of The Liar's Club is when Mary and Lecia watch their mother set fire to most of their worldly possessions in a makeshift driveway pyre. Included in the detritus is Mary's rocking horse.

That's my horse getting doused by the upended gas can. I knot my arms in front of my chest and think how I wanted to keep that horse for bouncing. It's supposed to be a baby toy, but some days when Lecia's out, I ride it with springs screeching and close my eyes and picture myself galloping across a wide prairie. Now that horse looks at me blank-eyed and tired. I scan around for a rock or a two-by-four to conk mother on the head with. But Lecia's hands won't let go my shoulders. She could be watching the weather on TV for all the feeling her face shows. I tell her that's my horse Mother's messing with. But she's bored with this complaint. So I let it go. Bye-bye, old Paint, I think to myself, I'm a-leaving Cheyenne
The best thing about the The Liar's Club is Karr's exquisite ability to mix comedy with pathos. Hopefully, Sonnenberg's book can do the same, since nearly 300 pages about a miserable childhood will be a pretty tough slog if there's no gallows humor. If you have some downtime over the holidays and you're looking to comfort yourself with the knowledge that at least someone's childhood was more miserable than yours was, The Liar's Club is the perfect book to curl up with. That, or, you know, Island of the Blue Dolphins.

'M' Is For The Mania, Manipulation And Magic [New York Times]
Her Last Death [Amazon]
A Scrappy Little Beast [Salon]

Earlier: Island Of The Blue Dolphins: I'm A Cormorant And I Don't Care

Related:
The Liar's Club: A Memoir [Amazon]

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<![CDATA[Brooke Shields's Major "Mommie Dearest" Moment]]>

[East Hampton, N.Y.; August 4. Image via Splash]

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