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Maritsa
07/02/09

In reply to Great Expecations For A New Mom & Athlete
My experience returning to work has not been great. People assume you're on the mommy track and I've definitely not been given work that would have taken me out of town - I know this for a fact. After proving how hard I can work, I have to prove it again now that I have a baby. Fun times!
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dreamweave
07/02/09

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I see what you are saying Dodai, and I imagine there is truth to it, but I think it also speaks a lot - if not more - about her state of mind as a highly competitive athlete. And as MarissaExplainsItAl said above, one of the best. No, it wasn't a terrible injury, but motherhood does take a lot out of you. And I can see why she would approach her return as "comeback" of sorts.
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MarissaExplainsItAll
07/02/09

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The reason that she is getting more flack for this than other players who have become pregnant is because she is by all accounts the best player in the league. It's sad that most of the public knows her as the WNBA player instead of one of the best basketball players of our time.
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hfree
07/02/09

@MarissaExplainsItAll: Agreed. She is also one of the youngest mothers in the league. There actually aren't that many active WNBA players who are mothers (I think the article mentions there are a dozen, including the 5 Sparks players), it's much more common to play out your career, retire, and then start a family. Being a mother at a young age and still be the best player in the league is, to a certain extent, uncharted territory.
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MarissaExplainsItAll
07/02/09

@hfree: Exactly. We can only hope that the WNBA gets more viewers from this gossipy clusterfuck the media has created.
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SylvanSylph
06/22/09

In reply to Neglectful Motherhood: So Fashionable
I like these. It's not real, people. It would be difficult to come up with a way to express that these women aren't interested in children without having some actual kids there for them not to be interested in. I don't think it's meant to be taken literally, especially the French Vogue editorial, which is 100% playful and fun. I imagine a lot of women look at these and think, "And that's why I'm not having kids," and not, "I am so having kids so I can neglect them just like that!"
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RollsRoyceRevenge
06/22/09

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I have spent years wondering what it would have been like if Edie Sedgwick had stayed in Long Island and had a couple kids.

And now I know.
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VoxPopuli
06/22/09

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The first picture is totally channeling Betty Draper. The second one...Amy Winehouse, if she were to get back with Blake Incarcerated! and spawn.
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cand86
06/22/09

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The one with the baby in the air is kind of awesome. I like to look at it and pretend she has levitating powers.
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HuckleberryFriend
06/22/09

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I'm trying to pinpoint why these pictures bug me, and I think it has to do with all the women pictured as "bad mothers" being images of ideal beauty.

There seems to be an implication that these women are "above motherhood" because they are attractive and sexy. Therefore, motherhood is unattrative and unsexy. We would never see these images with Rosanne Barr, for example, smoking and throwing babies around.

Does that make sense at all?
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BiteMeMitchell!
06/22/09

@HuckleberryFriend: It does, but at the same time, these are fashion magazines. You're not going to see Roseanne Barr in there, period.
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HuckleberryFriend
06/22/09

@BiteMeMitchell!: Right. I guess the point I was making was that you would never see this in a publication that wasn't a fashion magazine. "Bad motherhood" is ok, but only in this upper-class, fashionable context.
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wednesdayam
06/22/09

In reply to Neglectful Motherhood: So Fashionable
For some strange reason, the photo where she's smoking and leaning against the crib with the martini reminds me of "The Great Gatsby"... totally can't pinpoint why my brain made that association, but it did.
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Dottie Gale
06/22/09

@wednesdayam: Good call! It's the androgynous child wearing white, and the mom wearing a look that says, "Damn, I'm sophisticated."
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deitybox
06/22/09

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I'm a terrible person, because I think that last picture is hilarious.

And hey, you know what? She could have been out with the girls engaged in all manner of debauchery, but she's home with the kids. Drinking, smoking, wearing ridiculous couture, and home with the kids. DON'T YOU JUDGE HER!
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tomatoheart
06/22/09

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If avoiding children/crappy parenting is chic, shouldn't Kate (of Jon and 8) be getting less shit from the tabloids these days? I mean, she should be seen as a sexy trend-setter!
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YourScreenplaySucks
06/22/09

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He shakes his damn rattle/Spittle on his bib

But I don't do the dishes/I throw them in the crib

This looks like some rad cover art for the new Hole album, if you ask me.
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happysquid
06/22/09

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This makes me think of Jerri Blank when she had to raise "Dizzy" and hands him an aluminum can as a toy. Among other things.
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SomeAuthorGirl
06/22/09

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I dislike the one's with Milla, to tell you the truth. I am sick of working mothers getting simultaneously glamourized and demonized while giving (boo hoo!) poor, harried unemployed dads a friggin' trophy for making breakfast or changing a damn diaper.

Someone pass me a ciggie and a martini.
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angelheadedhipster
06/22/09

In reply to Neglectful Motherhood: So Fashionable
Well, just look at Weeds and The United States of Tara (I think?) and a host of other bad mommy shows - we eat that stuff up.
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deitybox
06/22/09

@angelheadedhipster: I don't see the connection between the two. Tara's not a bad mom, she's trying to do good by her kids. She has a psychological disorder.
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