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Texpat
07/08/09

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My dad died a little over a year ago, and his funeral was the hardest fucking thing I've ever been through in my life. I'm 23, and there was no way I was in a state to get up and talk at his funeral.

The fact that Paris is 11, and got up there in front of everyone to say something about her father....in front of ALL of those people...on probably the most painful and scary day of her life...speaks VOLUMES about the kind of person she is.

I definitely cried when I saw her speech. I obviously don't know exactly what she's going through, but I can relate on a certain level. Those kids' entire world just fell apart, and they get my deepest and most sincere sympathy.
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brendastarlet is on it
07/08/09

@Texpat: agreed. My dad's funeral remains a fog in my brain. I just remember sitting in the front row with my mom and brother and that the priest had a big smile on his face talking about my dad.

It is the fashion now to have the children speak at funerals -- the last funeral I went to, the kids all spoke (16, 14, 10). Paris made me cry, too, and she does look like him, around the eyes and nose.
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HarpMadness
07/08/09

@Texpat: I was in my mid-20s when my dad died and there was no way I would have been able to get out even two words. I have a lot of respect and admiration for Paris for having the courage to express her love for her dad in that situation. As others have said, no matter what anybody thinks of MJ, good or bad, to those kids, he was Dad.

I was just trying to get coffee this morning and they had all the papers out and most of them had a picture of Paris at the memorial service, so I of course I got all teary like a sap. Poor kids.
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Monique Green
07/08/09

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Stating that MJ is the reason that Obama was elected is obviously simplistic. However, I think there was a time circa the 80's and 90's when a select few Black celebrities broke down major barriers. I think Michael Jackson, Michael Jordan, Oprah, and the fictional "Huxtables" were monumental. They transcended Black culture and became a quintessential part of American culture. This helped to create the environment that made the idea of a Black president fathomable.
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HarpMadness
07/08/09

@Monique Green: Well said.
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ligaya2
07/08/09

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That "interpretative dance" WAS Sign Language. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and I've been to enough political & non-political events where it's de rigeur (and sometimes the law) to have translation for the hearing impaired. (I also worked for 2 agencies serving the deaf.)

When translating songs, the interpreters 'dance.' Watch the videos, same gestures for same words.
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brendastarlet is on it
07/08/09

@ligaya2: I thought those were his backup dancers from his London show and that was what they were going to do on stage.
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Tracie
07/08/09

@ligaya2: i took american sign language as my foreign language in college and i didn't recognize any of what they were doing. it looked more like napolean dynamite to me.
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Annabellie
07/07/09

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I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but I love the end of "We Are The World", when Paris looks up at Janet and smiles. It's such a lovely moment for me.
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kate!
07/07/09

@Annabellie: pretty sure that's latoya. but, yes it's lovely.
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Annabellie
07/08/09

@kate!: It could be! I'm not very well versed in Jackson siblingology. I just figured that it was one of her aunts, and knew that it was a 50/50 chance of it being Janet.
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Cafezinha
07/07/09

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Wait, he was a Jehovah's Witness? O_o
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FraggleIraq: No Longer Smells Like Teen Spirit
07/07/09

@Cafezinha: i'm fairly certain that he decided not to continue being a jehovah's witness. i think elizabeth taylor said it in an old interview when she gave him his first christmas. it's on youtube somewhere. he believed in god, he just wasn't a jehovah's witness anymore.
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stoprobbers
07/08/09

@FraggleIraq: For the (weird) record, his first Christmas came when he was in his 30s. His mother is extremely devout, and according to his biography (YES, I'm reading it!), he went through a period in his late teens and early twenties during which HE was very devout. The Witnesses threatened to excommunicate him, so he added that disclaimer onto the "Thriller" video. There's even an account from one of the neighbors of his parents Hayvenhurst estate of Michael showing up to do his door-to-door missionary work with a really awful fake beard/moustache and hat. The guy said he thought it was weird this person would be wearing such an obvious disguise, but it wasn't until the next day when his neighbor asked him "Hey, did Michael Jackson show up at your house yesterday too?" that he realized it was him. He said he kept the materials Michael had given him a souveniers.
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Cafezinha
07/08/09

@stoprobbers: I was wondering about that disclaimer! I recently showed my daughters the videos from the 25th anniversary Thriller CD/DVD, and Sr. Zinha and I just turned to each other with puzzled looks on our faces.
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

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My friend just said she was unmoved by Paris and thought that it was staged...

Who? What? Huh?
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dj_chick
07/07/09

@Ramseylicious: Wow, that's a level of cynical I've never come across before.
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

@dj_chick: @thequeenofstartingover:

Regardless of the circumstances that got her up on that stage, how can you not feel sad for this little girl who has lost the one parent she has ever known, making her AN ORPHAN?!?!?!

Friend says kids don't normally get on stage when they're crying. Friend has no children, but is a photographer and takes pictures of children at schools. This makes her a child expert.

Meh...Michael Jackson's death is making me a bitch.
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Cafezinha
07/07/09

@Ramseylicious: No, Michael Jackson's death is making you realize your friend's kind of a cynical, thinks-she-knows-it-all jerk.

I think if someone said that to me, if I actually was able to pick my jaw up off the floor, I'd slap their face. And then have my daughters kick her shins.

Whoops, guess MJ's death is making ME a bitch. =P
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Renata Halpern
07/07/09

@Ramseylicious: @Ramseylicious: Here are my very honest thoughts: I also wondered if it was staged. I no longer think that. Her speaking may have been planned but after watching a couple times, I believe those emotions are real. If her speaking was planned, it was only to keep things going in as organized a way as possible. When relatives of mine have passed, the rabbi has asked who wants to speak and when I haven't been sure, I was told simply to speak up as soon as I felt the need. They may have tried to plan who would speak and either they knew she would or she wasn't sure and decided to at the last minute.
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

@Renata Halpern:

I think it may have been staged in the sense that although this was a memorial it was also shown on television and needed to have some kind of ebb and flow and she may have mentioned at some point that she wanted to say something and when they were up there Janet was like, do you want to say something?

(Michael Jackson's death has also made me write crazy run-on sentences that kind of don't make sense.)

But the way that Paris turned into Auntie Janet. Oy.
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

@Cafezinha:

You are awesome.
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Renata Halpern
07/07/09

@Ramseylicious: "(Michael Jackson's death has also made me write crazy run-on sentences that kind of don't make sense.)" What you said makes perfect sense and is what I meant to say. "But the way that Paris turned into Auntie Janet. Oy." I'm very close to my father's sister and when my paternal grandmother died, I behaved exactly the same. We had to go to temple even after she just died because it was Rosh Hashana so I sat holding my aunt's hand the entire time. For the parts of the service in which we had to stand, we never let go once. We held hands as we stood up like siamese twins and continued to hold hands.
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

@Renata Halpern:

That story is very sad and sweet at the same time.

I think that the most fascinating thing about this is that it shows how much of a family they are. We may think that the Jacksons are this crazy, fame obsessed, freaky family, but, in all honesty, we do not know them at all. To these kids, this is their normal, and it was very touching to see the love there. Michael Jackson was their Daddy. And that is all they know.
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ihateyourescalade
07/07/09

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...and now that the service is over, can the Jackomania go away for a while? Not here, necessarily, but everywhere. Enough already. There is actual news happening in the world. Or, if I sound too mean, let the healing begin.
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@ihateyourescalade: Remember how long it took Anna Nicole to disappear from the headlines? She was a fraction of the star that Jackson was, and we heard about her business ad nauseum for a full year. Best thing to do is pull up a chair and pour yourself a drink, cause we're in this for the long haul.
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Devonna
07/07/09

@ihateyourescalade: Remember Anna Nicole Smith? Yeah, this shit is just getting started.
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Devonna
07/07/09

@Devonna: And by 'shit' I mean the weird/odd media tributes and mashups and rumors and speculation, the fate of his estate, the fate of his children, the speculation about their 'real' parentage, etc.. I think the Jezebel coverage has been fabulous.
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Phyllis Nefler
07/07/09

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I wonder why Justin Timberlake wasn't a part of this?? He could have done such a stellar job with any of those songs...

Also, I was wondering, has anyone heard from Macaulay Culkin regarding MJ? I wonder if they were still friends at the time of his death?
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@Phyllis Nefler: I've been wondering whether or not Culkin would make a statement. I know they were very close when he was a child, and I also remember him defending Michael during the molestation trial, saying that MJ had never molested him. That leads me to believe that, up until a few years ago anyway, they were still close enough that Culkin would publicly defend Jackson at a contentious trial.

Perhaps he just wants to keep his nose out of it and deal privately. If that's the case, I can't say I blame him.
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PopCultureIsAFarce
07/07/09

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what was up with Corey Feldman dressed at MJ???
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@PopCultureIsAFarce: Corey Feldman was there? Seriously? This truly was the event of the season.
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Sputnik_Sweetheart
07/07/09

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After seeing the pictures of his children at the memorial, I don't really understand the speculation of whether or not they are his biological children. Maybe I'm blind or a naive white girl, but I think they look biracial.

Not that it matters either way of course, since they identified with him as their father.
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FraggleIraq: No Longer Smells Like Teen Spirit
07/07/09

@Sputnik_Sweetheart: little blanket favors him so much, especially in the eyes. he was around for them and cared for them and that makes him their father.
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Sputnik_Sweetheart
07/07/09

@FraggleIraq: "he was around for them and cared for them and that makes him their father."

Yes, that was what I was trying to say, but you said it much better. Thank you.
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Phyllis Nefler
07/07/09

@FraggleIraq: Not only is that true in the emotional sense, it's true in the legal sense too. People need to back the hell off.
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cellydevil
07/07/09

@Sputnik_Sweetheart: It had alot to do with the fact that in the few pics of the kids, they had blond hair. But it's obvious now (well..at least to me, the eyebrows of the kids were way too dark) the hair was dyed.
I'm slightly scared of being beat up for writing about my hair dye theory...
Hiding now
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kaiwhakamarie
07/07/09

@cellydevil: No, I'm pretty sure Prince's hair was dyed blonde when he was younger. It was obviously not his real hair color.

I mean, when your Dad is Michael Jackson, I guess if you want blonde hair, you get it, right?
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khal02
07/07/09

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The networks have got to diversify. They have each had the same 5 black people on to talk about MJ. When the girl outside of the hotel on MSNBC referred to the repast as an afterparty, I was in disbelief at how so much of everyday black culture is a mystery to the rest of the world. Newsflash..after black people bury someone, we have a repast (the t is silent) which typically involves the telling of stories about the deceased, food, and then a fight involving some cousin noone really knows. You would think they would have someone who has actually been to a black funeral covering it.
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mistersathingtonfroggleby
07/07/09

@khal02: Yeah, white people do that, too.
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dcetstyle
07/07/09

I was wondering about that. I'm black and I know that is what "we" generally do after a funeral but I was wondering if other cultures did because most of the reporters seemed clueless about the tradition.
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@dcetstyle: It's been done at every funeral I've ever attended, and I'm as white as they come. These have always involved Jello salad and a pregnant teenager, too. Is that part of the tradition?
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JinxyMcDeath
07/07/09

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Watch out, Tracie - I said that Mariah sounded like crap on the "open post" and everyone flipped out on me...

But guess what? She did. She sucked. Sorry, folks. But she shouldn't have sang if she couldn't handle it...and quite frankly, I didn't even know she knew Michael Jackson. Also, her voice has been sucking lately anyhow. Isn't that common knowledge? She can't hit those hit notes anymore.
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Phyllis Nefler
07/07/09

@JinxyMcDeath: No, you;re right. It was horrible.

I think they had her sing because her cover of "I'll Be There" was such a huge hit in '94(?). I don't think she knew Michael particularly well or anything.
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thequeenofstartingover
07/07/09

@JinxyMcDeath: No you're right, Trey Lorenz (her back-up singer) sung her into a corner and even though I am a fan of MC's, I can't sit here and say she sounded "okay". She was BAD. And I'm tired of the "she was emotional" stuff, Jermaine choked up while singing and he managed to sing the mess out of "Smile" so it can be done. And Jermaine hasn't sung in YEARS. Mariah clearly has lost her touch.
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Schm
07/07/09

@thequeenofstartingover: Yeah, I felt kinda bad for her when it was painfully obvious that Trey was doing much better.
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BatCat!
07/07/09

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Maybe I missed it, but it seems odd to me that Oprah hasn't released a statement or weighed in on this yet. I wonder if she's keeping a distance on purpose? Due to the child molestation thing maybe?
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@BatCat!: Why would Oprah make a statement? Were they friends? (I honestly don't know; he seems to have been friends with everyone.)
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BatCat!
07/07/09

@PrarieMuffin: I don't know if they were friends, but I'm pretty sure she covered him quite a lot on her show. I remember the Lisa Marie interview for example, where a great deal of time was spent talking about Michael and The Kiss and their marriage.
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@BatCat!: Well, Oprah has covered and interviewed a lot of people in her career. I wouldn't expect her to release a statement on the death of any public figure simply because she interviewed them over 15 years ago.

I think she's probably right to be wary of saying anything; if she thinks that her audience largely considers him guilty of molestation, then she doesn't want to laud him. At the same time, she doesn't want to criticize him publicly and cause controversy. She's probably in a position where keeping her mouth shut is the wisest thing.
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BatCat!
07/07/09

@PrarieMuffin: But she's Oprah, for cripe's sake! I must hear her perspective on this before I can move forward with my life.
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PrarieMuffin
07/07/09

@BatCat!: Aw, that's right. A lot of people can't function until Oprah tells them what to do. I haven't wiped my ass in years cause she won't endorse a brand of toilet paper!
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ihateyourescalade
07/07/09

@BatCat!: My guess is it was the child molestation thing, and if that is the reason, I really respect her for it.
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TheExperience
07/07/09

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Honestly, above all else, what's really getting me about this whole thing is seeing Blanket sitting there quietly holding that doll. That's what's tugging at my heart.
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stoprobbers
07/07/09

@TheExperience: You just know that when he gets back into school this fall he's going to carry it around and some kid is gonna ask "What's that" and he's gonna say "That's my dad."
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Ramseylicious
07/07/09

@stoprobbers:

Oh my word, that image just brought the tears again.
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cdjill
07/07/09

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Did anyone else think it was weird how everyone kept telling Paris to speak up and adjusting the microphone in her face?
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mizz2bee
07/07/09

@cdjill:
I felt that they were already directing her...but at least they fixed the microphone. The worst was when they mouthed to Prince Michael "Do you want to speak?" Honestly, it was enough.
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BlondeGoddess
07/07/09

@mizz2bee: Yeah, I had very mixed feelings about that too.
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Erode
07/07/09

@mizz2bee: It wouldn't have been enough if he had wanted to speak. If he wanted to speak, unprovoked by any other factor than his need to do so, then it would have been terrible for them to deny that to him. I don't think this was planned on their part; I think Paris WANTED to say something, and they wanted to be sure that the children said all that they had to say.
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