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11/18/08
Never done that with anyone I cared about, or cared about me. Or ever slept with again.
I'm sure there have been women who've faked it with me. Most likely the same situation.
Ahh.. The folly of youth.
11/17/08
11/17/08
I, on the other hand, could never fake it.
11/17/08
I got an email from my best friend this morning saying that she broke out her vibrator for the third time (ever, she's 19) last night and came ~15 times over the course of a few hours and wondered if something was wrong about not wanting to stop.
I told her no, of course there's nothing wrong with that, welcome to the world of multiple orgasms. But I understand why she's struggling with it (besides not knowing what an orgasm was until I told her a few years ago, bless her homeschooled self): she's had three boyfriends now and not one of them has managed to make her come with any sort of regularity or ease. She doesn't lie to them about it. The first one gave up and got her a vibrator to use. The second one, my favorite, just kept going at it until she came but sometimes it would take upwards of an hour and she felt bad. Third guy, he's a doucheturkey who cheated before they even got that far.
I'm trying to get her to understand that there's nothing wrong with wanting to throw a vibrator into sex with a partner, and that it just takes time to learn your body and what you like, but I was wondering if you ladies have any other advice for her.
11/17/08
I didn't learn this until I was 40, by the way. Your friend needs to remember that she is every bit as entitled to HER orgasms as he is to his, and that if he's worth keeping in bed, he'll understand that it is so much nicer when she comes, too.
11/17/08
Lazy morning sex does not have to equal orgasm to me. Mind, if I want it to I have no qualms making as much clear, but I don't think he understands that sex doesn't have to be a means to an end for me.
11/17/08
Seeing as how this survey was done by readers of two magazines, you're probably not going to get true, random numbers about pleasure in bed. You'll have men and women who are very 'passionate' about this topic and they'll answer the questions with a biased and unscientific attitude. Some examples:
~ This study was done by a joint study between Men's Fitness and Shape magazines. When you want good, legit statistics, you do NOT find them in magazine surveys. A good study involves random samples from across the demographic, asking these questions in an anonymous matter. Of course, this study doesn't do that.
~ Look at how many men weren't willing to forgive cheating. When a guy's cheated on, he doesn't really trust women a whole lot anymore, so he's still hurt by that. He's more likely to say he'll never forgive a woman if she cheats because he knows how it feels. So there's bias right there.
~ " Men are also less forgiving when it comes to a woman's appearance.
About 63 percent of men said they prefer their ladies in shape, while only 29 percent of women said their lover's buffness was important to them."
Also, this statistic is utter bullshit because, guess what, Men's Fitness and Shape magazine are publications for FITNESS. Huge bias right there. Of course guys are going to worry about a woman's fitness, since they read that magazine!
~ Last thing, this study just states the obvious. When you have the obvious right in front of you, you don't need a study to reinforce it.
Basically, all I'm saying is this survey is bullshit.
11/17/08
11/17/08
However, I have killed many males' egos because of my honesty. And that leads to arguments and ultimately to break-ups.
Where did honesty go out the window?
11/17/08
11/17/08
And quite frankly, there is a lot of power in dashing that male ego thing of "oh, I am a GOD in bed" with "no, I can assure you, YOU ARE NOT. Please stop attempting to ear-fuck with your tongue. It is not hot, it is rather wet and creepy."
11/17/08
11/17/08
But men can fake whole relationships."
--Supposedly said by Sharon Stone
11/17/08
11/17/08
In the vast space that has been my sexual life, and please don't judge, there have been upwards of a couple hundred contenders. I can say with all honesty that about five of them could make it work with just the old missionary, only one every time. A few more were better with other body parts, doncha know, but all in all, none of them were superman. Fortunately, I am not, nor have I ever been, a big fan of IT, so I suppose I made the best of it, for their sakes, precious lambs. However, either I am a terrific actress, or they were big liars as well, because most were most generous with their compliments.
11/17/08
maybe you had so many "contenders" because you were looking for the one who could satisfy?
for me i'm very aware of how a man's body shape is compatible with mine and therefore more conducive to Os. the fit, and not just the genitals, is what's mattered to my pleasure.
i learned in my teens that if an environment (i.e. car backseat) wasn't conducive to a perfect body fit, i could climb up on top of my guy and ride him to an orgasm. an orgasm isn't something a man "gives" you while you lie there. a woman has to learn her body and how to move it to get the most pleasure from sex.
i'm not sure what your current age is that you claim it's synonymous with lack of interest in sex, but it seems that's less an issue than the fact that you note later in your post that "...I am not, nor have i ever been, a big fan of IT..." which is probably more of the culprit. right now i'm 50 and i can tell you i still adore sex.
11/17/08
If you want to leap in the sack with someone, please realize that you might not get them off right away, or you might have a learning period to figure out what the other person likes. It might mean you need to stop and take a break, or stop and try something new.
Blue balls are not deadly, guys. It won't kill you. If you're so hard-up (LOLOLOLOLOL,) take care of it yourself, y'know?
11/17/08
11/17/08
I can forgive a totally "meh" experience if he's gonna hurry up and finish, and let either help me get off, leave me alone so I can get off, or jump in the shower with me and wash my hair. That sort of thing.
What I forgot to add is--there's a strangely misplaced sense of chivalry, I think, where guys are like "I'm gonna hold on until she gets off! If she doesn't get off, *I* can't possibly allow myself to do so!" And then: stalemate! Whereby it WOULD probably be better if the guy could take a breather (and if he's uncomfortable after doing so, to take care of it himself) than to continue with 15 more minutes of aching backs and rubbed-raw bits.
11/17/08