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GirlFailer
11/02/09

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That is the ugliest effing pair of leggings I have ever seen.
#meangirls #lindsaylohan
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bluebears
11/02/09

@GirlFailer: Lindsey stop trying make lace leggings happen! #lindsaylohan
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suzannelb
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
I cringed the whole way through that 30 Rock episode wherein Liz finds out that she was the one bullying the "mean girls" the whole time. TOO CLOSE, TINA.

For years, I thought I was this ostracized fat nerd who was persecuted for her brains and her ambitions; in reality, I was way more like an elitist megabitch who couldn't wait to get out of her "ugh, so pedestrian" hometown, who overreacted to some seriously weak-ass insults and exacted terrifying revenge every. Damn. Time. No wonder no one wanted to be my friend!

I was my high school's version of Rahm Emanuel. Except WAY less cool. #meangirls
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Dictator for Life
10/30/09

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The mean girls weren't nearly as huge an issue for me in high school as they were in my super-small elementary and middle schools. I'm facebook friends with the meanest of them all (curiosity wins every time I look at a friend request and decide whether to hit ignore or accept), and she now has fake boobs, a fake tan, and is about to become the trophy wife to a man whose oldest kid was born when she was in middle school taunting me. She keeps putting up facebook statuses about how she has the best life, and how she's so lucky in love, and all her photos involve her fiancé's boat, or huge beach house, or private box seats to Panthers games. But still: trophy wife with teenage stepchildren. It's about what I expected for her. #meangirls
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
10/30/09

Most Mean Girls have selective memory. I'm thinking it's tattooed somewhere on the Mean Girl chromosome.
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
10/30/09

@Dictator for Life: I'm feeling like there's a YA novel in there somewhere. #meangirls
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Dictator for Life
10/30/09

@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: Probably written by one of her fiancé's daughters, and called Daddy's Midlife Crisis: The Trophy Wife He Picked Up at the Gym. #meangirls
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Rare Affinity
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
I recall in the sixth form taking to task a fellow student who had been particularly mean spirited to me a few years earlier. She laughed it off claiming not to remember her acts of pure spite. Her memory lapse was either very convenient or else indicative of her total inability to have ever empathised with her erstwhile victim.
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7states
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
When I think of high school, I think of the quote from Daria: "Why would I want to return to a place where I was flatteringly referred to as the weird kid?"

My experience was not that mean girls terrorized me, but that I was simply not included or invited to anything. I was just not cool enough for unspecified reasons.

I was pretty much a loner in high school (and can be now), and the result is that I haven't really kept in touch with anyone from high school (I'm only 6 years out of hs, most people I know in my age range still talk with at least a couple of people from hs). #meangirls
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maude_flanders
10/30/09

@7states: Ditto.

I made my best friend in high school b/c college (I was a commuter) didn't yield the opportunity to get to know many people, no matter how nice some kids in the smaller classes weree... kinda hurts when you know the group of kids you sidelined during four years of high school doesn't really include you now that you're older. Or rather, it hurts me. #meangirls
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Ratinski
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
After reading the comments here, I've realized I...don't remember the mean girls at my high school's names. This isn't too surprising, since when people friend me from high school my reaction is "who the hell is this?"

Oh, wait, now I remember one. Alexa. But the rest are lost to the sands of time. #meangirls
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That-Dude
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
So, I am curious as to which women on this site were once mean girls. I find it hard to believe that no one that comments on this board was ever considered a mean girl. #meangirls
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girlgonemild
10/30/09

@That-Dude: Good point, and kind of curious that no one's spoken up. I think the experience of being the object of Mean Girls' scorn is pretty universal, and that that's what people tend to recall, down the line, even if they were themselves in a relative position of social power.

I remember my mother taking me aside when I was maybe in seventh grade and saying could I maybe try and be extra friendly to M? Since she'd be talking with M.'s mother and apparently M was having a real hard time of it, what with her not having any friends and anything. And I looked at her aghast because, why would I want to or need to make those kind of overtures to one of the most popular girls in school? #meangirls
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HarpMadness
10/30/09

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I just realized that I can not for the LIFE of me remember the name of the one really mean girl I encountered. Hee! #meangirls
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la.donna.pietra
10/30/09

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My Mean Girl was a Shelley, who went on to win a Marshall scholarship, among other things. I still get queasy when I think about the shit she pulled to screw me out of a $1000 local AAUW scholarship.

I guess it's marginally better that she was so aggressively competitive academically. #meangirls
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funzette
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
"Guys? I thought we were meetin at 9 pm @burger king on 8th? None of u r answerin ur phones. Txt me back plz"
Sent from Barack's iPhone at 9:41 pm

(Fwd msg Ashley to Courtney)

"Can u believe him! The LAST thing he needs is a burger! Come on over, mom's bf left his smirnoff ices in the fridge"
Sent from Ashley's iPhone at 9:42 pm #meangirls
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Trulymadlyme
10/30/09

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I was going to make an irony joke about the girls in the stock photos looking kind of busted and methy, but decided you know what? After skimming my old yearbook, I realized that the mean girls in my old high did look busted and methy. Living on Boone's farms, malboro lights, tanning, little sleep and Taco Bell can do that to a girl. Points for accuracy Onion .
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Lymed
10/30/09

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Am I from the only high school in America that didn't have mean girls? #meangirls
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ErinLovesYou
10/30/09

@Lymed: I went to one as well. There were only 300 kids in the entire high school, so no real cliques. #meangirls
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lilyHaze
10/30/09

@Lymed: Same here. I graduated HS ten years ago, and I never experienced the "mean girl" phenomenon. Sure people were mean to each other, but it seemed it to be within each clique/circle.

I was never unpopular, and my school did not have football. Cheerleads != cool. Popular people were jocks and/or in honors classes. #meangirls
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colormeroutine
10/30/09

@Lymed: Mine plenty of girls who were mean, but they were completely ineffective and lacking any kind of power #meangirls
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NellMood
10/30/09

@Lymed: No, and I'm pretty sure I'm not in denial. But I went to a really small art school, so maybe that makes a difference somehow? #meangirls
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GreyEminence
10/30/09

@Lymed: *gasp*. That means you must have BEEN a mean girl! :-) #meangirls
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dreamypisces
10/30/09

@Lymed: Nope, I went to an all girl school. No need for 'Mean Girls'. Which I'm thankful for. #meangirls
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NellMood
10/30/09

@NellMood: However, the all-girls private school I went to for middle school definitely had plenty of mean girls. Plenty. #meangirls
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elembee
10/30/09

@Lymed: Nope. My HS had 1000+ kids and, at least within my class, there was never any outright mean girl phenomenon (can't say for sure about other classes, though I never noticed it). Even in high school I found myself wondering where these schools were that were full of bullies because I never really saw anything like that...we weren't all friends, but I don't think any of us were really enemies either. #meangirls
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PrettyPolitico
10/30/09

@Lymed: I went to an all-girls school with a population of 2000, so I think the absence of boys and the large class size kept us from having a mean girl popular clique. Lots of mean girls, but none with power.

Junior high, though, was the WORST. My class was tiny and there was a very specific social hierarchy that had existed since first grade. #meangirls
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hortense
10/30/09

@Lymed: We didn't really have them in high school or middle school. It was elementary school, really, where the mean girls were a big issue.
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sybann
10/30/09

@NellMood: Art school? Well when you're ALL weird there's no one to
ostracize. #meangirls
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NellMood
10/30/09

@dreamypisces: See, my all-girls middle school had a big group of mean girls. #meangirls
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NellMood
10/30/09

@sybann: EXACTLY. #meangirls
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fulanita
10/30/09

@NellMood: That probably has more to do with it being middle school than with it being all-girl. Middle schoolers are inherently evil. I went to all-girl schools and we didn't have mean girls, either. #meangirls
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NellMood
10/30/09

@fulanita: Oh, I imagine these people would have been mean no matter where they went to school. They are still deeply homophobic, deeply racist women, but are now they are adults and are doctors and lawyers. Scary! #meangirls
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Lymed
10/30/09

@GreyEminence: Careful with the accusations. I was an awkward theatre nerd.

My school had cliques, but there was no clique that ruled the school. There was a beautiful popular kid clique, but the girls were never mean. And my senior year, the lines between cliques blurred. #meangirls
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Cocotte
10/30/09

@Lymed: imo, if you think your school had no mean girls it just means you were lucky enough not to be a target.
My Mean Girl got the whole class to put hate valentines in my desk envelope, then had everyone hide in the coatroom to watch me read them. I'm sure everyone else thought it was just a really funny joke.... And yes, I remember her name, and her face. She wasn't a cheerleader, or a pretty girl, but she was sure as hell a leader. #meangirls
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
10/30/09

@sybann: " Well when you're ALL weird there's no one to
ostracize."
Want to bet?
Or don't you spend a lot of time on livejournal? #meangirls
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sybann
10/30/09

@Rooo sez BISH PLZ: And now I know not too - thanks for the warning! ; ) #meangirls
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
10/30/09

@sybann: *blows you kiss*
It looks real innocent on the outside too. Maybe kind of like Glenn Frey's Hotel California?

(Please pardon the reference - I'm a bit of a 70s/80s/90s music junkie) #meangirls
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BornYesterday
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
Come to Detroit, mean girls. We'll see who's crying then.
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itsonreserve
10/30/09

In reply to Mean Girls Make Nation Cry
Ooh, an Ashley. Mine was an Ashley. *Shudders*

Honestly, I think if we found a way to channel "mean girls" into such an influential role, it might work well for nuclear disarmament. #meangirls
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La muerte en bicicleta
10/30/09

@itsonreserve: Mine recently tried to facebook me. Like if the few seconds that it took for her to hurt me didn't take YEARS to get over.

But I'm not bitter. #meangirls
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morninggloria
10/30/09

@itsonreserve: Mine's sort of a loser now, which is awesome. #meangirls
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itsonreserve
10/30/09

@La muerte en bicicleta: That's a facebook gamble. She could be a total loser, she could be living the most awesome life ever. It's either smug self-satisfaction or a shame spiral for the rest of the day.
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kemperboyd
10/30/09

@La muerte en bicicleta: Mine was called Lorie-Jo and she had a double barrelled surname too. She was a massive bitch but only to me. We competed intellectually, I usually won, but she always did better academically. I still hate the thought of her.
I'm bitter. #meangirls
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Her Grace
10/24/09

In reply to Asked, Answered: Rosalind Wiseman Responds To Reader Questions
Sorry, Rosalind. I have no interest in confronting my former bully who continues to bully in the workplace (recently she had an underling fired for reasons none of us can understand). What I wanted was help for how I accept that this girl is now a supervisor, not how I work better with her (we are on different shifts). She sent me death threats. Asking me to reflect on how that hurt me is fatuous. #rosalindwiseman
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