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His people aren't making him apologize because he owe's us, they're making him apologize because they're trying to save his career and all the investment ($$$) they've put into him over the last few years. That's the same reason they've got him dressed in that stupid little bow tie. How can you say "he doesn't come off as that sort of guy" as if you have any insight into what sort of person he is from the way he is presented to the public?
This attitude is the sort of attitude that allows men like Chris Brown, who yes, can be sweet in both appearance and demeanor at other times, get away with abuse. It is the attitude that makes women forgive when they shouldn't, and keeps them in abusive relationships. You cannot "provoke" serious homicidal threats or a fractured jaw in a partner who loves you.
Honestly, and I know I'm kind of stepping over the line here, it is probably this attitude of forgiveness, which I do think is a commendable quality in so many other ways, which made you a more likely victim of an abusive relationship in the past. Women (or men) are not abused because they've done something to deserve it or provoked it, they are abused because their partner is an abuser.
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It's all bullshit.
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Yes, Chris is young and immature and even a little spoiled from fame and success, but to try to judge what his mother is going through is unfair. I can say with utmost confidence that what we want for our children and the choices they make are beyond our control. In the final outcome, it's Chris who has to ultimately deal and grow from the consequences, but to assume his mother doesn't feel a huge amount of responsibility for raising him in an environment that may have contributed to his violent tendencies, is a little extreme. I would imagine she is consumed with guilt and disappointment.
We can only hope that they use this situation as a teachable moment and stop this cycle of violence.
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Nothing will excuse his behavior, and I don't think he's going to get a free pass on this.
Despite my own past and the fact that he did a horrible, violent thing to another human being, I can still find a tiny bit of compassion for him. Simply because he's so very young and had a shitty childhood, and has been famous since he was 16. He traded one lack of childhood for another. I'd like to see him get some help. I hope he will. I'd rather not speculate on whether or not he'll do it again and instead just hope that with all their resources that he and Rihanna both will seek counseling and support to make themselves well. And maybe one day they can both give back to the community in some way and contribute to domestic violence awareness.
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He won't be any use to anybody till he stops talking about 'this thing that happened'.
And the blackout excuse is too, too convenient. In fact, there's been studies of batterers. Some of them actually calm down when they batter women. Why? Because they've been saving up that tension till they can get to their punching bag and let loose. That's why they're so calm when the cops get there; they've gotten rid of all that pent-up bile, and the woman's a mess. And, well, cops are men in a macho profession.
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From whats being said, she was an emotionally and physically abusive woman to him, and he snapped back one time *she hit him while he was driving* and he began to hit her back.
I don't condone abuse from ANYONE. But what does he owe US? If he apologized to her, why do his people keep making him repeat it so that we can go to sleep at night knowing he feels bad?
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Maybe he doesn't owe us anything. I personally would not have cared less if he apologized to the public or not. The fact is without "us" (the public/fans) his career is dead, so it is important to HIM and to his PR/Management etc. team that his public image doesn't go to the shits forever.
They are the ones who want to repair the damage to his public image, but IMO they are not going to get anywhere with these lameass public testimonies or w.e you wanna call going on talk shows and not admitting to anything.
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I guess I'm just trying to grasp what made him snap so violently if this was the first time he did this.
There must have been SOMETHING causing him to store up that sort of...energy?
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obviously I'm not serious.
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Thanks. Sorry, but I had to get that out.
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This gets lost when you're a young poseur who feels you have nothing to lose.
And for both kids, who probably never really witnessed a successful relationship, it seemed like they created some facsimile of "relationship" based on reality television and music videos...smothered in drama, surrealism, and grounded in celebrity. And based upon what he's saying here, he's still viewing life in that way.
Is he a habitual woman beater? It may be too soon to tell. But he is woefully insecure and immature, that much is apparent. I think in addition to the court mandated counseling and community service, he needs some good, honest, responsible, respectable mentors (inside the industry and out) who can help him become a man.
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Personally, I'd love to see Katie Couric interview him in a Palin-esque interview. Not outright calling him out or being a jerk to him, just letting him talk himself into his own hole for the rest of the world to see. THAT would be worth watching.
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"The last thing we need is for you to answer a woman's questions. We can't have you looking adversarial with a lady right now. We do need a sympathetic woman, though. Anybody up for the job? Anyone? Bueller? No, your mom is perfect. She'll put a face on your relationship with women. The entire public's heard the lie about how a man who is nice to his mother is nice to womenfolk as a whole. Totally believable.
Also, we need a bowtie."