It's not until you sit down to draw up a wedding guest list that you appreciate how damned determined everyone is to keep up the hoary old tradition of addressing couples as "Mr. and Mrs. His Full Name." Why are people still so stuck on this?
• Gov. Linda Lingle announced yesterday that she has vetoed Hawaii's same-sex civil unions bill. Lingle's action came on the final day she had to either sign or veto the bill, which the Hawaii Legislature had approved in late April.
Taking a husband's name may mean taking a hit in the labor market, according to a recent study. But lower salary isn't the only ill effect women suffer when they switch surnames — or, conversely, when they don't.
"Whether or not anyone else understands, my new name is a declaration of love. And it's a choice I made because I'd rather learn to give my power away than wield it, oblivious, until it's too late."