Glad I saw this post. Just realizing my friend's gleeful admission to me that he's been giving customers in his ethnic group "discounts" (amounting to a couple hundred dollars per sale) is going to have to be recounted to management.
Like I want the job of being his conscience. I don't do a good enough job with my own, you know? But by telling me, he's now implicated me in it. That, I deeply resent. And homie don't roll that way. #lovesucks
@pestified wants-a-Bush-tribunal: Ooh, that's a tough one. I could be completely wrong, but I believe you should think hard about this before you pull the trigger.
I guess it all should come down to what you mean by calling him your "friend". If his thievery alone disqualifies him from being your friend, or if you consider his (your?) employer a better "friend", then things are easier. But I've got friends I would probably die for, and losing my job or taking a moment to in-no-uncertain-terms lay down the law with them falls waaaay short of that.
Basically, my conscience allows that a friend of mine would get a chance to straighten this out without me blowing the whistle first.
@beercheck: You raise some good points.
The manager's a good friend, too, and the thought of him finding out about this and then finding I'd kept mum was the deciding factor. I didn't want to be distrusted, or be placed in danger of losing my job.
I thought it was rotten of my friend to tell me about what he was doing. He was bragging! When I tried to reason with him, reminding him what he was doing was expressly forbidden by company policy, he was unrepentant. That infuriated me- as I said, we're talking a couple hundred dollars per sale that he's shorting the company.
I did tell the manager that I wondered if my friend might be suffering from an undiagnosed illness, because surely he knows he's doing wrong. I still consider my friend one of my friends. It's been a long day. #lovesucks
I'm sure there are many young people (of both sexes) who have thrown a freebie here or there for a crush. That's a far cry from $20k worth which constitutes grand larceny in West Virginia where this happened, and that's a felony. Methinks there is more to this story, and her playing the doe-eyed crush is her safest way to a plea bargain.
When I was in high school, I worked for a sporting goods store in Chicago that has since been bought out, but it was a big chain back in the day. Our sweetest, most seemingly harmless employee was trying to fast-track his way to assistant manager, and I have to tell you that his lips were so far up the manager's ass that we never even questioned what he did with inventory intake. Then one day a Loss Prevention manager walked in with the police and walked him out the door. It only took about 3 months worth of damage for him to get felony charges brought against him. He played the "sick mom, trying to help with her bills" defense until mom came out and said "No way, I will not defend this, it wasn't for me."
I have a feeling she didn't do this for a crush, they were in on it together from the beginning and this "crush" story is her identifiable defense in case she has to go to trial. #lovesucks
@LaurieStrodeTheBoatAshore: That's possible, but it's also possible that they (store management) were on to the theft but let it continue until it hit felony level. My first job was at an amusement park and they would routinely send fake guests around to the games offering to buy the prizes, or pay the cashier instead of the money machine, or whatever. When they found an employee willing to steal like that, they'd record it and do it over and over until it hit felony level rather than fire them or discipline them the first time. As soon as it was a dollar over felony level -- mid-transaction -- here come the cops. #lovesucks
@yvanehtnioj reminds you that it's hear, hear, not here, here: Agreed, sometimes it's just a plant if it were just in general a pocketing thing they were investigating (and honestly, I've even offered to buy the 4ft Spongebob rather than spend $20 on my 4ft kid dumping one thru the net try after try). But these two are the only same two within the same questionable transactions being reported, and let's face it, it only takes $1 over $1,000 to hit grand larceny in West Virginia, she's at $20,000, and she racked it up over only 4mos. They hit big ticket items fast and swift, I can't shake the feeling they knew what they were doing.
I just hope they keep investigating and find some culpability on his part as well.
@yvanehtnioj: WOW -- the things you learn every day! What was felony level? I have to admit, as dishonest as it is, I do have a twinge for the employee who was selling to someone undercover and instead of being let go immediately, ended up with a felony... #lovesucks
@LaurieStrodeTheBoatAshore: Oh, knowing the felony limit in WVa changes my perspective on that. I just get suspicious when I hear giant round numbers, especially when it's a result of a "series" of transactions. I wouldn't worry about him, my guess is that if they were in it together it won't take her long at all to speak up.
@Halfmad also known as MaxAgron: I think it was $5K at the time in that state. It was weird, because while you would feel kind of bad for the people caught because it seems sneaky, you couldn't feel too bad because they must've been stealing for a long time (at $2/game) to hit that number, and the park told employees during training that undercover guests were going to be used. So it was a combination "sucks to be you"/"how dumb can you be?" reaction. #lovesucks
I would never have given a guy I liked discounts. In fact, I would probably be more likely to charge him more so when he called me out on it I could go "tee hee, I'm so silly."
Yeah, I worked in customer service when I was 16. Fuck you, like you were perfect?? #lovesucks
Wasn't there a Seinfeld bit about a cashier giving attractive women an extra $10 with their change, and the cashier was going to try to marry the first woman who gave him the money back? I used to think of that when I had a job where I had to buy bagels once a week, because like three weeks in a row the cashier gave me an extra $10. I don't think he was hitting on me though, I think it was just friggin' early and he hadn't turned on his math skills yet. I always gave back the money. #lovesucks
@RisaPlata: Did it turn out that when you ran into each other 40 years later, on a street corner while waiting for a cab (a hovercab to be accurate), he informed you that it was in fact correct change the bills you were giving him were far too large. #lovesucks
First thought here is need to start wearing sluttier clothes to Lowes. Or just break down and buy some stock. Massive DIY home reno, and I'm probably 1/4 done. #lovesucks
@AgnesGrep: I used to do the same darn thing. Normally I would do it with produce, and I'd lift the bags up off the scale. I'd do it for young moms, too. Eff you Marsh Supermarkets! #lovesucks
@GirlFailer: I got given free groceries one time when a cashier thought I was homeless. I had dashed in minutes before closing, wearing ratty clothes I had been gardening in, and bought nothing but staple items using a fistful of wrinkled one-dollar bills. I made a mental note to at least comb my hair in future before shopping. #lovesucks
@jenjen: That was really nice of the cashier. I love people that do stuff like that (corporate profit be damned!). A cashier at Chipotle once gave me free food because I looked like shit (I had been crying all day). #lovesucks
@Maritsa: Chipotle is completely awesome. Once, I gave a homeless guy my food and went in to buy some more and they were all "one good turn deserves another" and gave me free food! #lovesucks
I love that the minimized version of this page abbreivates the title to Wanna Screw? Hard...I feel kinda sorry for this girl. Can a crush be temporary insanity?
ETA: Isn't this how most bartenders operate? I've probably consumed $20,000 in uncharged drinks in my lifetime. Too bad she didn't work in a field where you could hide the evidence.
@samethingwedoeverynightpinky: I figure the alcohol I've gotten in stiff or free drinks by virtue of being female and/or attractive is cancelled out by the weak-sauce drinks I've gotten at chain restaurants and cranky bartenders. #lovesucks
She was in the wrong but so is the customer for not pointing out the mistake. He knew that wasn't the right price and walked away with it anyway. #lovesucks
@femme-bot: It depends. Have they given you $20,000 worth of free coffee over a couple of months? I think it's really a matter of degree.
@lj1968: Yeah, it's totally his fault too. I always tell the cashier if I'm undercharged significantly (say more than $1) or get the wrong change. I can't believe people sometimes. #lovesucks
When I was a teenager, I was a cashier at a fancy carwash. The carwash had this promotion that we tracked in our computer where the tenth car wash was free. Anytime a hot guy came in, I checked all of his boxes and told him the wash was free. I must have cost the company TONS of money.
But I didn't want any of them to like me or be my boyfriend, if that makes it any less pathetic. #lovesucks
@Tippi Hedren: A guy I worked with at a restaurant in college had a second job at a grocery store. A lot of my co-workers would shop at his location and go through his line because he would skip over a few items, then ring up one. They'd get hundreds of dollars of groceries for like $40. My conscience kept me from ever doing the same, but that particular Publix eventually closed. I don't think he wanted to date any of them either. Always wondered why he did it! #lovesucks
@HughHeffrey: My college roommate worked in a bar. I'd order a pitcher, give him a five, and he'd give me five singles in change. If he was working the kitchen that day I'd order a cheese burger and end up with a triple bacon cheeseburger. I was really sad when he quit that job. #lovesucks
@token_illiterate_commenter: At the aforementioned restaurant, I did the same with the bartenders. Having a margarita in a to-go cup under the host stand made the shifts SO much more bearable! #lovesucks
Wow. This is pathetically sad. All this just for a guy. I can't even imagine why. Hon, he's not the only guy in the world you could have found another one who wouldn't have cost you as much. #lovesucks
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Like I want the job of being his conscience. I don't do a good enough job with my own, you know? But by telling me, he's now implicated me in it. That, I deeply resent. And homie don't roll that way. #lovesucks
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I guess it all should come down to what you mean by calling him your "friend". If his thievery alone disqualifies him from being your friend, or if you consider his (your?) employer a better "friend", then things are easier. But I've got friends I would probably die for, and losing my job or taking a moment to in-no-uncertain-terms lay down the law with them falls waaaay short of that.
Basically, my conscience allows that a friend of mine would get a chance to straighten this out without me blowing the whistle first.
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The manager's a good friend, too, and the thought of him finding out about this and then finding I'd kept mum was the deciding factor. I didn't want to be distrusted, or be placed in danger of losing my job.
I thought it was rotten of my friend to tell me about what he was doing. He was bragging! When I tried to reason with him, reminding him what he was doing was expressly forbidden by company policy, he was unrepentant. That infuriated me- as I said, we're talking a couple hundred dollars per sale that he's shorting the company.
I did tell the manager that I wondered if my friend might be suffering from an undiagnosed illness, because surely he knows he's doing wrong. I still consider my friend one of my friends. It's been a long day. #lovesucks
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When I was in high school, I worked for a sporting goods store in Chicago that has since been bought out, but it was a big chain back in the day. Our sweetest, most seemingly harmless employee was trying to fast-track his way to assistant manager, and I have to tell you that his lips were so far up the manager's ass that we never even questioned what he did with inventory intake. Then one day a Loss Prevention manager walked in with the police and walked him out the door. It only took about 3 months worth of damage for him to get felony charges brought against him. He played the "sick mom, trying to help with her bills" defense until mom came out and said "No way, I will not defend this, it wasn't for me."
I have a feeling she didn't do this for a crush, they were in on it together from the beginning and this "crush" story is her identifiable defense in case she has to go to trial. #lovesucks
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I just hope they keep investigating and find some culpability on his part as well.
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@Halfmad also known as MaxAgron: I think it was $5K at the time in that state. It was weird, because while you would feel kind of bad for the people caught because it seems sneaky, you couldn't feel too bad because they must've been stealing for a long time (at $2/game) to hit that number, and the park told employees during training that undercover guests were going to be used. So it was a combination "sucks to be you"/"how dumb can you be?" reaction. #lovesucks
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Statute of limitations is waaaay over now. #lovesucks
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Yeah, I worked in customer service when I was 16. Fuck you, like you were perfect?? #lovesucks
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@rmric0.wedding.photographer.and.manny: I believe that's the movie "Serendipity". #lovesucks
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ETA: Isn't this how most bartenders operate? I've probably consumed $20,000 in uncharged drinks in my lifetime. Too bad she didn't work in a field where you could hide the evidence.
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@lj1968: Yeah, it's totally his fault too. I always tell the cashier if I'm undercharged significantly (say more than $1) or get the wrong change. I can't believe people sometimes. #lovesucks
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But I didn't want any of them to like me or be my boyfriend, if that makes it any less pathetic. #lovesucks
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